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OpenMouth

OpenMouth

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Hello all, I just wanted to start a discussion about this subject.

Increasingly over the past couple of years I've been denying myself orgasms. I still masturbate, while looking at media and, mostly, while writing stories or emails /PMs. I wouldn't call it edging because I generally don't take it to the edge, but the build up does require that I release a bit of pressure every week or so. I have developed good control of my muscles and can allow a surge to escape without orgasm.

Here's the thing: I've found that by doing this (usually for about a month or so) I'm more upbeat; I flirt more with women, I'm more awake and 'on the ball' in general life. Seeing even a halfway pretty girl has me erect and fantasizing, and I can't keep my hands off my wife when she's in her bra putting makeup on. Also, I've lost weight; it seems to have suppressed my appetite, especially with snacking which can be a weakness of mine.

The downsides are that my mind does wander to sex when I should be concentrating on more (or less! :D) important things, prostate health apparently benefits from regular masturbation to orgasm, and when I do eventually allow myself full release, I seem to have a huge energy slump for a day or so...

I just wondered if anyone else has embarked on this journey and if they've experienced similar effects?

:rose:

Px
 
Ive always had a high sex drive. Its not quite as bad as it was when I was younger but I still ejaculate at least once a day, whether througg sex or masturbation. Usually its 2 or 3. Ive been curious before about what taking a break for a while would do...
 
MuscleDaddy said:
Ive always had a high sex drive. Its not quite as bad as it was when I was younger but I still ejaculate at least once a day, whether througg sex or masturbation. Usually its 2 or 3. Ive been curious before about what taking a break for a while would do...
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I would urge you to give it a try! It's fun and exciting. :heart:
 
Yes. I have done this and had the sam experiences as you. But at the best I have been able to refrain from orgasm for about a week. After that, all i can think about is sex.
 
Justfantasies said:
Yes. I have done this and had the sam experiences as you. But at the best I have been able to refrain from orgasm for about a week. After that, all i can think about is sex.
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Yes, I agree. You have to revel in it, relish the directions your imagination takes you. Some of my filthiest, most exciting fantasies occur when my balls are aching and my cock dripping with precum.
 
OpenMouth said:
Yes, I agree. You have to revel in it, relish the directions your imagination takes you. Some of my filthiest, most exciting fantasies occur when my balls are aching and my cock dripping with precum.
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Me too. If my wife is at work or out shopping, I find that I am always imagining her with another guy.

I find, however, that if i really edge without cumming for a long time i lose interest in sex for a few hours. of course the interest always returns big time
 
It may be different for women. I find when I have a lot of orgasms over a short period of time, I seem to crave more and I can become quite promiscuous.
 
davenjenn said:
It may be different for women. I find when I have a lot of orgasms over a short period of time, I seem to crave more and I can become quite promiscuous.
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That's interesting. I never considered the fact it might be different for women...
 
davenjenn said:
It may be different for women. I find when I have a lot of orgasms over a short period of time, I seem to crave more and I can become quite promiscuous.
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I think so. My wife has been quite horny recently and the more we have it the more she seems to want it. The only problem is this last time she just caught me after I had already masturbated several times that day and then we fucked 3 more. Stores are a little spent at the moment.
 
MuscleDaddy said:
I think so. My wife has been quite horny recently and the more we have it the more she seems to want it. The only problem is this last time she just caught me after I had already masturbated several times that day and then we fucked 3 more. Stores are a little spent at the moment.
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From what I have seen, this is all very typical. You should accept that your wife needs more than you can give right now and let her enjoy herself with another guy.
 
Once a week

I masturbate every morning for at least 15-20 minutes, but rarely let myself cum that way. I do find that on days when I cum there is a sense of relief, on days when I don't I tend to fantasize more during the day. Not cumming for a few days can lead me to make some questionable sexual decisions like visiting a local ABS for some gloryhole action, but that is also rare as fear of the consequences overrides my horniness. But....
 
Something else occurred to me recently, that if I'm going to get ill (a cold or infection or something) it always seems to stay away til after I allow myself relief, as if my body gives up resistance...
 
Wow, I thought there would be more discussion on this subject! Maybe denying orgasm to oneself is rarer than I thought...
 
I've thought about this a bit more, lately... The enhanced imagination thing is a double edged sword. I sometimes find myself dwelling on things like natural disasters and the like, and can get quite upset imagining human misery...
 
I'll go against the grain here. If I JO daily, at work/home I'm on my form, productive, destressed and efficient.


When I've dabbled with edging etc. I find the opposite. When working from home, or office alone, I lose whole days to Kik/lit. Edging, teasing.

Gets to the point where I'm maybe useful for 10-20% a day


I'll either cum in my sleep about a week in... Or have a JO and sissygasm binge. Then purge.
 
OpenMouth said:
Hello all, I just wanted to start a discussion about this subject.

Increasingly over the past couple of years I've been denying myself orgasms. I still masturbate, while looking at media and, mostly, while writing stories or emails /PMs. I wouldn't call it edging because I generally don't take it to the edge, but the build up does require that I release a bit of pressure every week or so. I have developed good control of my muscles and can allow a surge to escape without orgasm.

Here's the thing: I've found that by doing this (usually for about a month or so) I'm more upbeat; I flirt more with women, I'm more awake and 'on the ball' in general life. Seeing even a halfway pretty girl has me erect and fantasizing, and I can't keep my hands off my wife when she's in her bra putting makeup on. Also, I've lost weight; it seems to have suppressed my appetite, especially with snacking which can be a weakness of mine.

The downsides are that my mind does wander to sex when I should be concentrating on more (or less! :D) important things, prostate health apparently benefits from regular masturbation to orgasm, and when I do eventually allow myself full release, I seem to have a huge energy slump for a day or so...

I just wondered if anyone else has embarked on this journey and if they've experienced similar effects?

:rose:

Px
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Stimulating a man but keeping him form full orgasm seems to keep the testosterone and titillation very high. A woman can use that to get much better focus and discipline out of him on many fronts, but it is with an underlying current of sexual stimulation as the reward. I think that is quite different from exhausting his sexual desires so that he can focus on other things. It is quite powerful but it must be channelled.

One one hand a man constantly obsessed with sex can be too distracted from other important matters. On the otters hand a man who knows he will be denied for some period of time but will get a rewarding ejaculation experience can be very focussed on the steps necessary to get to that point.
 
policywank said:
Stimulating a man but keeping him form full orgasm seems to keep the testosterone and titillation very high. A woman can use that to get much better focus and discipline out of him on many fronts, but it is with an underlying current of sexual stimulation as the reward. I think that is quite different from exhausting his sexual desires so that he can focus on other things. It is quite powerful but it must be channelled.

One one hand a man constantly obsessed with sex can be too distracted from other important matters. On the otters hand a man who knows he will be denied for some period of time but will get a rewarding ejaculation experience can be very focussed on the steps necessary to get to that point.
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Yes, I can see the value in that. It would be nice for a woman to take control of my orgasm in that way.

I went through a phase with my wife where she would stroke me in bed for half an hour or more, without orgasm. It was very exciting but more my idea than hers. Didn't sleep very well, either, but it did give me some insight into that kind of relationship.

It's been a couple of weeks now since cumming, and I'm starting to crave naughty experiences. I have to reign it in somewhat and be very discreet with what I do.
 
Your cock has more control then mine. If I were to go 2 weeks, I'd be hard night and day. Barely able to concentrate on anything.

Then, usually during the night, the wife will brush against me in her sleep or the duvet will rub my hard cock, and...... BOOM.

I'll be convulsing in my sleep, spraying cum all over my self
 
I wish I could have more wet dreams. It hardly ever happens.

The most intense orgasms I've ever had have been wet dreams. Maybe it's because it can be a total fantasy but feel absolutely real. Like sucking my own 18" cock in front of a group of giggling teenage girls!

:eek: Mmmmmmmm
 
They're always very intense for me..the amount of cum I spew is probably three or four times as much as normal. It's also thinner too.

Sometimes wonder if I've pissed, there's that much.
 
OpenMouth said:
Yes, I can see the value in that. It would be nice for a woman to take control of my orgasm in that way.

I went through a phase with my wife where she would stroke me in bed for half an hour or more, without orgasm. It was very exciting but more my idea than hers. Didn't sleep very well, either, but it did give me some insight into that kind of relationship.

It's been a couple of weeks now since cumming, and I'm starting to crave naughty experiences. I have to reign it in somewhat and be very discreet with what I do.
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I have found that for best effect the psychological effect is the most important part. It isn’t enough to edge a man or bring him to the edge without letting him cum. It needs to be part of a deliberate initiative to take control of his orgasms and enjoy doing it. And I provide specific direction, not just make him keep waiting indefinitely like suggested on the porn sites. Quite unlike that portrayal it is an activity that requires a deep connection and careful attention as opposed to callous or benign neglect. He needs target dates, tasks, rewards, punishments. Done properly he will lose himself to the experience and begin to crave it to the point that he will want to defer his own cum because he will regard the actual ejaculation as the end of his titillation. Of course it is key that he not wait too long both for his physical health and mental state.

But as soon as he cums it begins again. He can be kept happily in a woman’s thrall with the right touch and mindset.
 
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I find if I deny myself then my thoughts are preoccupied by sex. I am always hard to some degree and my cock leaks precum very easily. When I can't stand it any more, my first come is not so intense, but I can come 5-6 times over the day and they get more intense.I find it delightful.
 
ozdui said:
I find if I deny myself then my thoughts are preoccupied by sex. I am always hard to some degree and my cock leaks precum very easily. When I can't stand it any more, my first come is not so intense, but I can come 5-6 times over the day and they get more intense.I find it delightful.
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Engage in p spot play, I urge you
 
Just giving this thread a bump. I'm still doing this to 'manage my condition' - I tend to get mild depression if I masturbate regularly. I have enough control to be able to relieve a bit of pressure - one or two surges of cum and then clench, avoiding orgasm. I have to avoid looking at this kind of thing though:
https://SPAMPOST/Garou4life/post/e1f26f9a-5dfd-4366-b806-7ddeea3e4e58
 
I was experimenting a bit with this last year, seeing how long I could refrain. If it was more than a week, I became extremely distracted by thoughts of sex. I was masturbating still, but just not finishing. It was interesting but sure did not make me more productive!

I did find it especially exciting when I involved someone else (online) who was specifically instructing me not to cum.
 
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