Cum too fast looking for tips.

47 yo male and have been plagued by this my whole life.
I’ve tried everything over the years and nothing seems to help. Looking for tips and or suggestions. Maybe there is something I haven’t tried yet that works.

CtNewbie said:

47 yo male and have been plagued by this my whole life.
I’ve tried everything over the years and nothing seems to help. Looking for tips and or suggestions. Maybe there is something I haven’t tried yet that works.

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My husband always set his watch on the bedside table. Keep track of the time.

cheer up, Newbie!

Perhaps you found the advice above helpful, but in case you did not: My best solutions to any problems always were those that accepted the problem and did not try to fight it.

When you look at the small problem you have – ejaculating too soon – why not make love to wifey or whoever, by achieving an orgasm for her some totally other way than by the help of penetration? I am fairly sure she will enjoy reaching her orgasm by you letting your tongue doing all the work. Or one of the ten digits of yours, or with the help of a toy. Or whichever other means available to the two of you.

And once she has enjoyed her orgasm, you can enjoy yours, and take for that as much time or as little as it suits your fancy. Maybe with the pressure "to perform" out of the way, it'll even take you longer to come?

Another trick to lengthening your staying power is to swallow Viagara or Sildenafil. Your sensations may decrease, but it'll take you longer to come.

Good luck to you in any case.

Delay

My recommendation would be condom and cock ring.

Slow down the process.

Alternatively investigate Tantric sex or yoga, some method of controlling mind over matter.

First off I'd consider gL's suggestion. I have very satisfactory sexual relationships which don't require penetrating sex at all.

I'm not married (Thank god) and I'm pretty young. But I seem to attract Quick Cummers. In a way it's kind of a compliment, like, I'm such a hott babe that he can't keep 'em in the clip until showtime.


But not all girls see it like that. So I have developed a sure-fire technique to deal with QC. I suck 'em first. Most guys after a shot take a considerable time to "reload." And they are considerably less "quick" than they were at firet. In the extreme they can't cum again at all. But it's still a lot of fun trying.

This technique requires the cooperation of your partner, which may not be forthcoming. She may not want to suck you or she nay not be good at it. In that case you can resort to masturbation.

Either way, just think of it as partial horniness reduction.

Good luck

Jamie

Littletoo said:

First off I'd consider gL's suggestion. I have very satisfactory sexual relationships which don't require penetrating sex at all.

I'm not married (Thank god) and I'm pretty young. But I seem to attract Quick Cummers. In a way it's kind of a compliment, like, I'm such a hott babe that he can't keep 'em in the clip until showtime.


But not all girls see it like that. So I have developed a sure-fire technique to deal with QC. I suck 'em first. Most guys after a shot take a considerable time to "reload." And they are considerably less "quick" than they were at firet. In the extreme they can't cum again at all. But it's still a lot of fun trying.

This technique requires the cooperation of your partner, which may not be forthcoming. She may not want to suck you or she nay not be good at it. In that case you can resort to masturbation.

Either way, just think of it as partial horniness reduction.

Good luck

Jamie

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i'd like to practice with you.

Check out this thread:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1491447
Anything that can be said has been said there, pretty much. Your thread will just be a clone or get some new points but split the information, so it's better to use the existing one I think.

30bandits said:

i'd like to practice with you.

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It would never work. I cum too quick too. What? Ww're going ti RACE? See who cums first?

JAMIE

glBock said:

Perhaps you found the advice above helpful, but in case you did not: My best solutions to any problems always were those that accepted the problem and did not try to fight it.

When you look at the small problem you have – ejaculating too soon – why not make love to wifey or whoever, by achieving an orgasm for her some totally other way than by the help of penetration? I am fairly sure she will enjoy reaching her orgasm by you letting your tongue doing all the work. Or one of the ten digits of yours, or with the help of a toy. Or whichever other means available to the two of you.

And once she has enjoyed her orgasm, you can enjoy yours, and take for that as much time or as little as it suits your fancy. Maybe with the pressure "to perform" out of the way, it'll even take you longer to come?

Another trick to lengthening your staying power is to swallow Viagara or Sildenafil. Your sensations may decrease, but it'll take you longer to come.

Good luck to you in any case.

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Assuming you are primarily worried about her satisfaction, I'll second this. If she's getting hers before sex proper, she will probably be fine with however things roll during.

If you are looking to just enjoy the moment longer yourself, just go as slow as you need to. Especially is she's already gotten her jollies, she'll be fine with you not being in constant motion.

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akatrex said:

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Not worth it for someone with premature ejaculation problem. His problem lies elsewhere.
Also, the same stamina training can be done with any masturbator or even your own hand. In fact, I find it much harder to last long with an actually pleasurable toy, than with this kind of one.

"Stamina training" is just clever marketing. It does nothing. It's just a toy that overloads you with sensation, nothing else.

Maybe try a cock ring or strap. If you have a partner, see if he or she can edge you. You may need to be restrained!

I too cum quickly but I'm a multi-orgasmic female so it's not really a problem for me.

Edging is counter-productive.
When you edge, this means your stamina for this session has already reached its limit.

Nezhul said:

Edging is counter-productive.
When you edge, this means your stamina for this session has already reached its limit.

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Depends on the guy. I was with one guy who could hold off for a good two hours and then get hard again almost instantly. He wasn't young either.

He stops when the alarm goes off???

Some of my g/f's complain about their hub being too quick to cumm. I tell them to have him put on shorts or jeans and then tell him that the button will not be unbuttoned or the zipper unzipped until she has at least one (or number she choses) orgasm. They report back excellent results.

I love to be with a girl who is fully dressed and give her at least 2 big "O"'s before any buttons are unbuttoned or any zippers unzipped.

Study Tantra

Pull out and give yourself a second.

Slow down your thrusts.

Get drunk.

ed drugs may also help too.

Hmmmm ...

Is it possible there's too much self-masterbation involved?

Nezhul said:

Not worth it for someone with premature ejaculation problem. His problem lies elsewhere.
Also, the same stamina training can be done with any masturbator or even your own hand. In fact, I find it much harder to last long with an actually pleasurable toy, than with this kind of one.

"Stamina training" is just clever marketing. It does nothing. It's just a toy that overloads you with sensation, nothing else.

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First, you might start with IMHO.

IMHO I call BS. I've never had an issue with PE since my early youth. My athletic endeavors taught me mind control beyond recognition.

My Libido is WAY higher than my wife's and I can go longer than she can handle. Getting Head is out of the question. I trained myself as a youngster to go "Long Time"

I purchased a Fleshlight for in between times and business travel.

IMHO it's Freaking Amazing toy with many Uses and Benefits!

Give it a Try! What do you have to lose?

Cock ring. As tight as you can tolerate.

If it does not help much, try edging on your own: get close, stop, breath, figure out what you need to do to get back a little - just a break? Pinch and the base? Tight hold at he base? Whatever works for you is fine. Get close again. Repeat.
Start with 3 repeats, with practice it will become easier and you will be able to do more. Just don't do it right before you are going to bed with her.

Then try the same with your woman - get close, stop, do your thing, calm down, go again.

If you are open enough with her about this, ask HER to give you a handjob and bring you down when you tell her that you are close. You both might enjoy it, though probably for different reasons.

Good luck!

glBock said:

Perhaps you found the advice above helpful, but in case you did not: My best solutions to any problems always were those that accepted the problem and did not try to fight it.

When you look at the small problem you have – ejaculating too soon – why not make love to wifey or whoever, by achieving an orgasm for her some totally other way than by the help of penetration? I am fairly sure she will enjoy reaching her orgasm by you letting your tongue doing all the work. Or one of the ten digits of yours, or with the help of a toy. Or whichever other means available to the two of you.

And once she has enjoyed her orgasm, you can enjoy yours, and take for that as much time or as little as it suits your fancy. Maybe with the pressure "to perform" out of the way, it'll even take you longer to come?

Another trick to lengthening your staying power is to swallow Viagara or Sildenafil. Your sensations may decrease, but it'll take you longer to come.

Good luck to you in any case.

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I’m not so sure about Viagra helping to prolong an orgasm. At least for me it just makes my cock hard and hard cocks are a challenge to control.
One tip I read somewhere is to stop whatever stroke activity is going on and press your tongue up against the roof of your mouth. Give it 30 seconds and get back to work. One complication on that plan is if I am in a pussy, I will often ooze some semen which results in a self made sloppy seconds condition which usually results in several strokes and an orgasm. Nothing is better than a slippery, cum filled, freshly fucked pussy!

Eli_Dreams said:

Cock ring. As tight as you can tolerate.

If it does not help much, try edging on your own: get close, stop, breath, figure out what you need to do to get back a little - just a break? Pinch and the base? Tight hold at he base? Whatever works for you is fine. Get close again. Repeat.
Start with 3 repeats, with practice it will become easier and you will be able to do more. Just don't do it right before you are going to bed with her.

Then try the same with your woman - get close, stop, do your thing, calm down, go again.

If you are open enough with her about this, ask HER to give you a handjob and bring you down when you tell her that you are close. You both might enjoy it, though probably for different reasons.

Good luck!

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I rarely go without a cock ring and my experience is they make your cock harder and harder cocks cum sooner. Just sayin’.

Bigspurt said:

I rarely go without a cock ring and my experience is they make your cock harder and harder cocks cum sooner. Just sayin’.

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Then squeezing the base with two fingers does not work for you either, right? It does work for may, but I guess not for all.

Well, my next suggestion was a shoelace (or a wide rubber band) under and around the balls, but one should not do that for more than 20 min at a time and I am not sure what OP meant by "too fast". Plus he will need to shave for that, which might not be his idea of fun. But then he can let HER tie them up... and play around a little.... mmmm... yes!... OK, I am getting way off topic here

Try Edging.

Many of us don't know this yet... But it might save the day...

Edging is done buy very disciplined masturbation, you really need to commit to it to be able to do it... And if you win it, you'll surely "cure" your problem...

What to do?

You need to masturbate, and while masturbating you need to be "aware" of what's happening in your body, you need to realize when you are "close" and so, stop... Breath normally, then when everything have subsided start again... And repeat... DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO FINISH AND EJACULATE!

If you can do it 3 times, you can wear your clothes and go on your business.. You'll slowly be learning how your body reacts when you nearing your "danger zone", and thus can be able to avoid it, not by withdrawal, but by just stopping, and starting when you see green light..

Don't worry if you fail, and ejaculate few times, it might be hard to deny yourself of the pleasure.. But slowly, you'll master it..

Your partner also needs to help you when you stop, I normal tap my partner in thighs, and she knows she has to stop a bit, before starting again... We never said "this is our sign" it just came naturally...

So when you agree of the signs, she must be obedient when you give it.

Also, it's not about entering her, so many times, a woman can reach orgasm by playing her... And in many occasions, orgasms of that kind makes her feel wanted, as her body, as whole, is being "taken care of"

All the best, brother!