policywank
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I think an important step in understanding cuckolding is to recognize that our own bias and starting assumptions are not as universal as we imagine.
Consider that in some cultures a man would lose his mind if another man so much as sees his wife's face uncovered and fully expects her to be a virgin before meeting him. He really feels that way and in the absence of exposure to different cultures he might have a very hard time believing other men might not feel the same way. In his mind a man who "allows" his wife to frolick on the beach in a bikini or greet other men by hugging them must lack something of his manhood. It could not possibly be a different attitude or set of values.
But in western culture millions of men really, sincerely genuinely do not have any problem with other men seeing their wife in a bikini or giving them a hug goodbye. Moreover they would consider it oppressive to deny her that latitude. And they accept that they enjoy no such equivalent potential for positive attention - even a guy with a great body knows he will not garner as much attention as an equally attractive woman.
Now try to transport yourself into that other culture I describe. Would you not want to see a more liberal approach to women? Would you not want to liberate your wife from those oppressive expectations? Would you not find the women who rebel to be more sexy and appealing than those who comply? Would you not look at your wife in a skirt and heels compared to the others in head to toe covering and think 'fuck ya that is the woman I want'? Should you feel otherwise because the locals call her a whore.
Realistically the average wife is more able to find and manage multiple sex partners than the average husband. She has greater physical capacity and opportunity. There are lots of wives who are sexually unsatisfied because their husband lacks the ability to satisfy them and those women could find satisfaction elsewhere. Most husbands twist themselves up in knots convincing themselves this could never be either because they are a stud or their wife only wants whatever it is they offer.
Some cuckolds are simply men who recognize this bullshit and prefer to accept reality. They don't feel constrained by the traditional view of relationships. They are relieved to not have to conform to those expectations and find their wife's unwillingness to conform to be sexy and appealing.
Consider that in some cultures a man would lose his mind if another man so much as sees his wife's face uncovered and fully expects her to be a virgin before meeting him. He really feels that way and in the absence of exposure to different cultures he might have a very hard time believing other men might not feel the same way. In his mind a man who "allows" his wife to frolick on the beach in a bikini or greet other men by hugging them must lack something of his manhood. It could not possibly be a different attitude or set of values.
But in western culture millions of men really, sincerely genuinely do not have any problem with other men seeing their wife in a bikini or giving them a hug goodbye. Moreover they would consider it oppressive to deny her that latitude. And they accept that they enjoy no such equivalent potential for positive attention - even a guy with a great body knows he will not garner as much attention as an equally attractive woman.
Now try to transport yourself into that other culture I describe. Would you not want to see a more liberal approach to women? Would you not want to liberate your wife from those oppressive expectations? Would you not find the women who rebel to be more sexy and appealing than those who comply? Would you not look at your wife in a skirt and heels compared to the others in head to toe covering and think 'fuck ya that is the woman I want'? Should you feel otherwise because the locals call her a whore.
Realistically the average wife is more able to find and manage multiple sex partners than the average husband. She has greater physical capacity and opportunity. There are lots of wives who are sexually unsatisfied because their husband lacks the ability to satisfy them and those women could find satisfaction elsewhere. Most husbands twist themselves up in knots convincing themselves this could never be either because they are a stud or their wife only wants whatever it is they offer.
Some cuckolds are simply men who recognize this bullshit and prefer to accept reality. They don't feel constrained by the traditional view of relationships. They are relieved to not have to conform to those expectations and find their wife's unwillingness to conform to be sexy and appealing.