^that's the link to the BDSM Library stickie. In there you'll find a lot of useful topics separated into categories that are fairly easy to navigate. Take some time and read topics that interest you. A little self exploration is a great place to start. (^.^)
Also, avoid anyone that offers to give you more info via PM. If they can't post it in the public forum it's most likely self serving bullshit.
Instead, I would suggest reading the forum and participating in discussions (or starting your own threads with questions). In that way you'll be able to get different viewpoints that can help you to better understand what it is you want.
Once you have an idea of what you'd like for yourself and for your potential relationships, just date.