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Stuck in a sexless marriage? Come to literotica and tease yourself into a blue ball/ovary coma.
My balls ache all the time.
My balls ache all the time.
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Stuck in a sexless marriage? Come to literotica and tease yourself into a blue ball/ovary coma.
My balls ache all the time.
Hi everyone
I am a recent new member to this forum and this thread describes the very reason I signed up!
I feel for everyone on here, I know for me I adore my wife in so many ways but overall, there is something just simply missing between us sexually. That's really the only thing that is missing and it's tough to know what to do!
As a lover of words and erotic things, I came here...
Hope to get to know some of you better and especially those within this thread.
Please do not judge me. I am 35, healthy, attractive and in a sexless marriage. My husband and I have not been intimate in over 3 years.
He has zero desire - you may speculate all you want but no I do not think he is gay, no he will not go to marriage counseling. I have gone on my own but it is hard to fix a marriage from one side. We otherwise get along, and yes there is a child which makes leaving very hard - especially since we otherwise function very well as a family!
That said, should I be complacent with with a life of celibacy? We are friends, get along but it is platonic? Maybe, maybe there is nothing really wrong with that?
I have has affairs - both long term and short and was left feeling empty, more alone than before.
Truly I want to LOVE(!!!) - hard, unabashedly, passionately, devotedly, endlessly. And I want to be so loved in return.
But maybe that isn't what marriage is about? Maybe what I have is as close to good as it gets?
Sorry for my late night and tipsy ramble ... I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio and I am waxing philosophic.
Did the marriage end and have you found happiness yet veronica?sorry to hear that mouse
the very last time my ex and i had sex i tried masturbating for him....he said he was bored....the remaining 2.5 years of our marriage involved nothing intimate, not even hugs or kisses.
That sounds like a good plan. Great job dropping that initial weight, I know how difficult that is. Continue to plan to leave, but if you can get his head screwed on straight when it comes to sex, it might be worth the effort.Just read your reply, and I feel you.
I'm in FTW.
My married sex life: the annual event, and I have to push for that.
It's been giving me severe stress headaches, and I dealt with my frustrations by putting on a lot of weight. I've lost 38 pounds since Halloween, but losing momentum.
Our marriage was never good. The only happy times were when he was gone on business. We didn't have sex for first 2 years 7months of marriage. I would have gotten an annullment except I was financially strapped.
After 8 years, I've had it, so now I'm getting things set so I can leave. He seems to have picked up on it, and so is trying to be mr nice, but still no sex. he says it's new medication, but after 8 years of excuses (allergies making him sick, back is out, has to get up extra early for work, etc), I just don't give a crap.
I'm no expert...sure as hell no Dr. Phil either. But, a long time ago I decided that stuff I didn't like I wasn't going to do anymore. I'm a widower but prior to my wife's passing we were headed in opposite directions. It happens, people grow and not always in the same direction. People change. It can hurt, it can hurt others but staying in a miserable situation simply isn't an option...in fact it can be unhealthy mentally & physically. I'd rather be alone than with someone I can't or couldn't live with. Independence, a new start......that might just be what all of you need if you're unhappy. Just saying.
How sexless is sexless???
Everyone's got an opinion, Every situation is different and has it's own set of unique issues! What might or coulda worked for one, won't work for another!
You can "JUST SAY" all ya want but, it's not ever as simple as it may seem! And ya see, you were STILL with her, contemplating, procrastinating but, hadn't left, huh?
Nope, was working in another community in another part of the state. We had discussed the inevitability of our splitting up, it just hadn't been formally executed.. so you see, part of your response, the first part is right on point and the second part was a assumptive and misguided as your profile seems to indicate that you really are. You see, your profile mini bio speaks to who you are, what YOU believe and the way YOU want to live and interact. You strike me as self serving despite your claims to the opposite and your alleged vow to serve women. Remember what YOU wrote..."Everyone's got an opinion, Every situation is different and has it's own set of unique issues! What might or coulda worked for one, won't work for another!"
That Is true but what I advocate is people being happy. It is irrefutable that someone should stay in an unhappy relationship. Which, is what YOU apparently advocate.
YOU need to live your life and worry about YOU. You don't strike me as someone who really understands people or relationships very well. Good day to you...and good riddance.
I have never heard of so many woman complaining about men not wanting sex. My wife is like this once or twice a year and I better kiss her ass for it too.
Geekgirl, do what you need to do to make you happy, do not loose weight for someone else If they cant love you for who they are then they are crazy. you sound like a good woman to me.
Just read your reply, and I feel you.
I'm in FTW.
My married sex life: the annual event, and I have to push for that.
It's been giving me severe stress headaches, and I dealt with my frustrations by putting on a lot of weight. I've lost 38 pounds since Halloween, but losing momentum.
Our marriage was never good. The only happy times were when he was gone on business. We didn't have sex for first 2 years 7months of marriage. I would have gotten an annullment except I was financially strapped.
After 8 years, I've had it, so now I'm getting things set so I can leave. He seems to have picked up on it, and so is trying to be mr nice, but still no sex. he says it's new medication, but after 8 years of excuses (allergies making him sick, back is out, has to get up extra early for work, etc), I just don't give a crap.