JasonClearwater
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What I can't understand about discussions like this, is the contingent of men who, instead of being concerned about the clear and obvious problem women face, are far more concerned about how gaining consent might impact their sex lives and land them with false rape allegations. Given rapists generally don't get caught, this seems highly unlikely, but the average self involved toss monkey wont acknowledge that or care about those particular stats. Rather than being the rapey problem, lads, whyndont we concentrate on what the bloody woman wants? Learn to read the body language of discomfort, and prioritise it over your need to get your dick wet. This week, I hugged a colleague in a group where this was the norm (I'm not fond of it, but I do try to fit in), and even as I did it, I saw him stiffen up. He wasn't comfortable. He didn't argue, he even smiled, but he was not okay with being touched. I apologised to him afterwards and I won't make the same mistake again. Consent is about giving a fuck about the other person's experience and respecting their space. If you don't, then stay out of the dating pool, so that women can start to trust again. Men also need their space respected. Just because you're happy to suck a dick, doesnt mean you're up for anything. #metoo was a chance to learn a new skill and become more aware. Hopefully it'll make our society a little less dangerous and hostile for women, and in fact for all of us. Consent is not a pain in the arse, it's a beautiful thing.