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Old 03-23-2019, 12:37 PM   #1601
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I wonder if I do this?

Can we go over what it means?
Iím passionate, and I love reaching out for him. Is that the same thing?
No.

As a sub, i am very active, engaged, and assertive. You can do that and still be responsive to your Dominant's leading. This is actually trying to be the one in control, while masquerading as a sub. Let me tell you, it's annoying af.

The guys i knew had what we commonly think of as submissive kinks: anal play, feminization, pussy worship, forced bi play, directed masturbation, etc. But they only let me be in control as long as what i did went along with what they wanted. If i wanted something that wasn't a priority for them, they would guide the action away from that. If i was uncomfortable with one of their kinks, they would still try to manipulate me into doing it.

This wasn't about a lack of common ground, this was about a lack of submission. There really was no power exchange, i really wasn't the one in control. What they actually needed was a service top, someone who would top them in the ways that they chose. I will and have done that for a dominant partner, and am happy to do it, because service.

But when a man approaches me as a submissive in need of a dominant? He better fucking be ready to actually submit or find someone else, cause I'm not playing those bullshit power games.
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Old 03-23-2019, 12:40 PM   #1602
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No.

As a sub, i am very active, engaged, and assertive. You can do that and still be responsive to your Dominant's leading. This is actually trying to be the one in control, while masquerading as a sub. Let me tell you, it's annoying af.

The guys i knew had what we commonly think of as submissive kinks: anal play, feminization, pussy worship, forced bi play, directed masturbation, etc. But they only let me be in control as long as what i did went along with what they wanted. If i wanted something that wasn't a priority for them, they would guide the action away from that. If i was uncomfortable with one of their kinks, they would still try to manipulate me into doing it.

This wasn't about a lack of common ground, this was about a lack of submission. There really was no power exchange, i really wasn't the one in control. What they actually needed was a service top, someone who would top them in the ways that they chose. I will and have done that for a dominant partner, and am happy to do it, because service.

But when a man approaches me as a submissive in need of a dominant? He better fucking be ready to actually submit or find someone else, cause I'm not playing those bullshit power games.

Youíre so hot.
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Old 03-23-2019, 12:46 PM   #1603
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Youíre so hot.
LMAO!!!

I do alright.
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Old 03-23-2019, 01:28 PM   #1604
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I am lucky to have an excellent working relationship with the sub guy i currently spend time with. He is unquestionably submissive, but he is also an active participant in the whole process. It's a collaborative effort, we work together, not against each other. He is creative, open-minded, doesn't hesitate to take the initiative and suggest ideas. He's a great team player, but ultimately the final call is always mine, and we both like it that way.

It's a partnership with a common goal, and a common means of getting there, and it rarely if ever feels like work.
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Old Yesterday, 08:55 AM   #1605
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Topping from the Bottom

Have you experienced it? How? How did you handle it?
How do you avoid or help your partner avoid it?
Apparently I've tried a few times, but my Dom shuts that down IMMEDIATELY! A stern look does the trick
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Old Yesterday, 09:09 AM   #1606
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Apparently I've tried a few times, but my Dom shuts that down IMMEDIATELY! A stern look does the trick
What??

You are so naughty!
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What??

You are so naughty!
Yeah, apparently he doesn't think it's cute *sulks*
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Old Yesterday, 03:52 PM   #1608
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Yeah, apparently he doesn't think it's cute *sulks*
What, did you get mouthy with him?

I'd kill to have seen that exchange. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
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