Gentlemen: Can you explain the appeal of cuckolding?

In my case, I think it has to do with the appeal of humiliation. I enjoy feeling humiliated and objectified. To know that other people look upon me as being an object of pathetic degradation excites me.

suckonsimon said:

Perhaps I'm unusual in this, but my deep desire to pleasure a married woman with her husband's knowledge and willingness is about honouring the generosity of a man who acknowledges that his woman has need for more than one man can give her. That's alongside the extreme appeal to me, as a man who knows a shedload about loving sex, of sex-appeal sex - the sheer beauty of the foreplay and the fuck and the afterglow stuff without any relationship element: just lust and sexellence and the massive prowess from giving it good to a woman who already gets it good with her man. Kind of a respectful bull thing.

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You'd make the perfect bull simon. You get the psychological aspect of it all which is really important. I hope you get a chance to play the "Bull" role one day stud

magicalmoments said:

I read a theory once that a cuckolded husband has subconscious homosexual urges and that the act of cuckolding is an expression of latent homosexuality.

Basically the guy can't bring himself to indulge in male on male contact but if his wife, his other half, his "property", is indulging in sex with a guy then, in a way, he is doing it himself.

Not saying I agree with it, just that it is out there as a theory.

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Your comment is a surface take on sharing. First to get cuckolding out of the way, it is WHEN THE MAN DOESN'T KNOW and the wife is doing it behind his back, causing the man to become a laughing stock of his community.

Sharing is another thing . . . The belief that it is prompted by homosexuality is a shallow take on the real impulse and cause. My wife really is my other half. I feel wondrous adventure, risk and arousal for and about her. Yes, as an extension of myself, but not homosexual. To see her fulfilled, aroused, enjoying the absolute freedom of sex with another man when condoned by her husband, me, allows me to share in the adventure without either of us betraying the other.

Since, as a man, I want only my wife, then the only option open is to allow, condone and encourage her to enjoy sexual adventure. I've kissed and fondled her everywhere why she is penetrated by another man and she aggressively seeks her own enjoyment, effectively fucking him.

Homosexual, no. Sexual, yes.

Well, there are a lot of different reasons it's hot to me, and no, there is no gay fantasies or anything here. For one, I found/find it hot for a woman to fuck multiple guys.. We never saw/see that side of our spouses, if they were doing it before we got together. So it made me very hot thinking who all she might have fucked, before she was my girl.
Another thing is, it's something very rare to see, a couple having sex, third person, with you in the room. You get to see everything with different views and angles, than when you were the one fucking her. It's like your own personal porn, you can see, smell, and taste if you desire. Also, a few years back, my cock wasn't cooperating, my wife has never been one to "help" me at all, no blowjobs or masturbation unless I asked, so I had to find porn to read or view, with a theme so hot, it would get me off every time I masturbated.

Another thing was, right before me and my wife got married, one day we were talking, as we were going to get a Christmas tree in my old pickup. We were talking about sex, and both of us said we would like to see the other having sex with someone else...but that turned into the 'ol, "You just want me to have sex with another man, so you can have sex with other women." So I quickly had to change what we had talked about to, "No, I don't care about that, I just want you to do it, or want to watch you do it, that would be so damn hot!" So then, I started talking about it when we had sex, and she would make sounds and cum very hard, that let me know she liked the idea, but wouldn't just up and do it on her own. She never ups and does anything on her own...

Another thing was, when I was single, I used to smoke weed, and jack off to porno, when I didn't have a girl friend, which was too often. Of course I started trying to imagine something hotter and hotter to get me off harder. Finally one night, I was watching a man and women fucking, and thought, "How hot would it be to be able to lick them while they fucked?" I immediately blew my load.

So part of the thrill to me, is to be able to be with a couple, watch them pleasure each other, help them turn up the heat, and and see them have mega cums. It helps me to cum, when I had difficulty. After watching my wife fuck and see cum in her pussy, it made me so hot, I mounted her and fucked her immediately without a problem.

I have told my wife, and I believe (just my opinion here) people are no different than animals. Way, way back when we were cave people, etc... when a woman went into heat, there were probably several males trying to breed her, just like we see dogs and other animals do. Now of course, we are "civilized", and that's not deemed proper, even though, it's nature, we fight it, and look down on those that can't resist the urges. Something about that stokes me too, I love a woman that will fuck several men, not be committed to one, as long as she isn't passing on disease or making babies with them all. Or a woman that will fuck several men at a time, like she's in heat.

magicalmoments said:

I read a theory once that a cuckolded husband has subconscious homosexual urges and that the act of cuckolding is an expression of latent homosexuality.

Basically the guy can't bring himself to indulge in male on male contact but if his wife, his other half, his "property", is indulging in sex with a guy then, in a way, he is doing it himself.

Not saying I agree with it, just that it is out there as a theory.

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I think that explanation starts from the flawed premise that the perspective of the accepting cuckold is inherently abnormal. It may be uncommon but that isn't the same as abnormal. And truth is that we don't really know how prevalent it is because it is still shunned and shamed.

It is interesting that the theory references homosexuality which itself was once deemed an abnormality that needed to be explained or justified.

At this point we don't think in terms of why is a person attracted to their same sex. It just is. And it doesn't require anymore justification or explanation than why we many of us are attracted to the opposite sex.

Why does nobody ask the question as to why do we feel compelled to force our spouses to be monogamous and pretend they have no interest in other partners?

There are all kinds of reasons that people put forward as to why monogamy is the right way and surely it is for many people. But the arguments aren't incontrovertible and universal. We accept it as the default relationship model because it has been forced into us through dogma and social conditioning.

Most of the comments here are about the sex, itself, but for us, much of the appeal lies outside of that. For us, cuckolding is a lifestyle, and while it doesn't define our marriage, it does shape it heavily.

In short, he caters to me. He is my "boy," and I regularly make use of him in that manner in our normal daily life, and I often call him that, too. We like it. We like it a lot! I am sure some would find this sort of relationship completely abhorrent, and I can understand that, but we are all different.

Some people like caviar, some people don't. Neither opinion makes any of them any less of a person.

For us it feels needs we both share. As I have gotten older I can not always fill her physical needs. But when we talked about our problems we discovered that me supporting her our intimacy greatly improved.
Yes early on there were bumps in the road. But over the years it has led to a closer and more caring marriage. We have discovered a closeness that few of our friends relationships seem to lack.
It isn't so much the sex that defines our life together it is the knowledge that we love each other. We love each other enough that we want both of our lives to be as full as they can possibly be.

littlecordelera said:

Most of the comments here are about the sex, itself, but for us, much of the appeal lies outside of that. For us, cuckolding is a lifestyle, and while it doesn't define our marriage, it does shape it heavily.

In short, he caters to me. He is my "boy," and I regularly make use of him in that manner in our normal daily life, and I often call him that, too. We like it. We like it a lot! I am sure some would find this sort of relationship completely abhorrent, and I can understand that, but we are all different.

Some people like caviar, some people don't. Neither opinion makes any of them any less of a person.

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I agree that the appeal got well beyond sex. The mental, emotional and interpersonal dynamics affect many aspects of life.

But on the sex front I have to say one simple thing. Our sex life got much better when her horizons were expanded. Whether we both realized the same net improvement in our sex life is debatable but it definitely got better for both of us.

Wild_Honey_66 said:

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

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For me I'm turned on by cuckolding because I know that I'm not good in bed, because I have trouble getting it up and because I don't last very long at all. But just because of my shortcomings I don't think that the woman I'm with should be deprived of having good sex as long as she still cares for me and treats me with respect.

littlecordelera said:

Most of the comments here are about the sex, itself, but for us, much of the appeal lies outside of that. For us, cuckolding is a lifestyle, and while it doesn't define our marriage, it does shape it heavily.

In short, he caters to me. He is my "boy," and I regularly make use of him in that manner in our normal daily life, and I often call him that, too. We like it. We like it a lot! I am sure some would find this sort of relationship completely abhorrent, and I can understand that, but we are all different.

Some people like caviar, some people don't. Neither opinion makes any of them any less of a person.

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I wonder if Cuckolding can just be a choice like mentioned above. Two people decide they like it as part of their lifestyle, it does not have to include any kind of sexual problems, inadequacy, humiliation, guilt, etc. It is just deciding to share the wife with others, for her pleasure and his enjoyment of that.

I see it similar to Strapon play or pegging. That type of play seems to come with an expectation of Femdom, Humiliation, Sissification, Crossdressing, Chastity, pain, etc vs just two people that like to explore sensual anal play.

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betabrad said:

For me I'm turned on by cuckolding because I know that I'm not good in bed, because I have trouble getting it up and because I don't last very long at all. But just because of my shortcomings I don't think that the woman I'm with should be deprived of having good sex as long as she still cares for me and treats me with respect.

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And for those couples who learn to use these things to their advantage, it can be highly erotic and create a very strong relationship.

eroticspank said:

I wonder if Cuckolding can just be a choice like mentioned above. Two people decide they like it as part of their lifestyle, it does not have to include any kind of sexual problems, inadequacy, humiliation, guilt, etc. It is just deciding to share the wife with others, for her pleasure and his enjoyment of that.

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I suppose a couple can call it anything they want, but everyone I know in our sex-social circles would call what you have described, swinging.

Originally Posted by suckonsimon View Post
Perhaps I'm unusual in this, but my deep desire to pleasure a married woman with her husband's knowledge and willingness is about honouring the generosity of a man who acknowledges that his woman has need for more than one man can give her. That's alongside the extreme appeal to me, as a man who knows a shedload about loving sex, of sex-appeal sex - the sheer beauty of the foreplay and the fuck and the afterglow stuff without any relationship element: just lust and sexellence and the massive prowess from giving it good to a woman who already gets it good with her man. Kind of a respectful bull thing.

ADIDAS00 said:

You'd make the perfect bull simon. You get the psychological aspect of it all which is really important. I hope you get a chance to play the "Bull" role one day stud

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Well said . . . At last, two men who get it! (Great definition, Simon.)

It sounds like you understand me. I have these really strong desires as well.

MilkFountain said:

Your comment is a surface take on sharing. First to get cuckolding out of the way, it is WHEN THE MAN DOESN'T KNOW and the wife is doing it behind his back, causing the man to become a laughing stock of his community.

Sharing is another thing . . . The belief that it is prompted by homosexuality is a shallow take on the real impulse and cause. My wife really is my other half. I feel wondrous adventure, risk and arousal for and about her. Yes, as an extension of myself, but not homosexual. To see her fulfilled, aroused, enjoying the absolute freedom of sex with another man when condoned by her husband, me, allows me to share in the adventure without either of us betraying the other.

Since, as a man, I want only my wife, then the only option open is to allow, condone and encourage her to enjoy sexual adventure. I've kissed and fondled her everywhere why she is penetrated by another man and she aggressively seeks her own enjoyment, effectively fucking him.

Homosexual, no. Sexual, yes.

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This is the one topic that sets me off sexually. My wife was a closet exibitionist and with lots and lots of encouragement I convinced her enjoy her passion free from any kind of reprisals from me. It's all about her pleasure. You are spot on! Finding a well endowed man to share her with is soo satisfying for both of us. Going up escalators with nothing more than a thin, clingy short summer dress and nothing underneath nonchalantly putting her charms on display drove me delirious. She loved to show off to much older men at the supermarket. I'm the voyeur and she's the exibitionist.

docoral said:

This is the one topic that sets me off sexually. My wife was a closet exibitionist and with lots and lots of encouragement I convinced her enjoy her passion free from any kind of reprisals from me. It's all about her pleasure. You are spot on! Finding a well endowed man to share her with is soo satisfying for both of us. Going up escalators with nothing more than a thin, clingy short summer dress and nothing underneath nonchalantly putting her charms on display drove me delirious. She loved to show off to much older men at the supermarket. I'm the voyeur and she's the exibitionist.

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My wife was a tad exhibitionist and had a very strong sex drive. When I met her she was occasionally doing life modelling for a bit of extra cash but she also enjoyed showing off her body. She was very sexually uninhibited and adventurous. Our relationship wasn't predominantly based on sex but it was of no small importance either. I (at first) reluctantly consented to engage in a MFM threesome but discovered in the first experience I was massively turned on when I watched the much better endowed guy give her much more pleasure screwing her than I ever managed. This was the early days of my realisation I had an SPH fetish. From this our general sex life expanded and had a lot to do with our marriage lasting a few years longer than it may have. We eventually parted ways for other reasons but remain friends.

Never done it, she'd never agree BUT for me it's the idea of watching her take her time to ease in a big cock, and watching it pulse as it unloads inside her as she cums.

I have always admired sluts. I see in them what I wish I could do myself. I'm jealous of their ability to attract men and to have sex whenever they want. I guess I married my first wife because she had a reputation of being a slut so it should have come as no surprise that after we were married she continued behaving as she always did. The fact that my small cock was unsatisfactory to her only fueled her infidelities. I used to jerk off whenever she went out with her girlfriend and left me home watching our kids knowing she was getting fucked by other men.

sterculius said:

I have always admired sluts. I see in them what I wish I could do myself. I'm jealous of their ability to attract men and to have sex whenever they want. I guess I married my first wife because she had a reputation of being a slut so it should have come as no surprise that after we were married she continued behaving as she always did. The fact that my small cock was unsatisfactory to her only fueled her infidelities. I used to jerk off whenever she went out with her girlfriend and left me home watching our kids knowing she was getting fucked by other men.

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What is a slut? I think that terminology is quite harsh. If a woman has an active sex life, maybe multiple partners in her lifetime, does that make her a slut? My ideal woman is one that has a sexual appetite equal to mine. I desire a woman that love's to fuck, is adventurous , loves to change things up. I had a woman like that, a wife like that, and I called her the love of my life, not a "slut". I think many women hold in their feelings for fear of society labeling them as sluts. We want them to engage with us and when they do we inappropriately label them.

i think i am going through the same feeling of being a cuck however i am yet to become one as in when she goes and enjoy her time out...

I_am_done said:

i think i am going through the same feeling of being a cuck however i am yet to become one as in when she goes and enjoy her time out...

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She has enjoyed herself with another but I never felt like that. We agreed I had control over the situation.

Dreamer110 said:

She has enjoyed herself with another but I never felt like that. We agreed I had control over the situation.

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That's called sharing. Not to be confused with cucking.

docoral said:

That's called sharing. Not to be confused with cucking.

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True. I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle being a cuck.

Dreamer110 said:

True. I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle being a cuck.

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I agree, neither could I, however I have shared my wife with a friend and we found it to be a very enjoyable event, hot , actually.

docoral said:

I agree, neither could I, however I have shared my wife with a friend and we found it to be a very enjoyable event, hot , actually.

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Hot is an understatement. It was something I'd never trade.