The beauty of submissive men

SEVERUSMAX said:

?... I prefer to be called a switch, because I have both dominant and submissive sides to my sexuality. Sometimes, the dominant and sometimes the submissive side is more apparent in my behavior. However, given that most of my fantasies involve myself in a dominant role, I tend to view myself as a switch with dominant leanings.

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Erochic said:

Thank you for bumping the thread.

I have abandoned this forum and this thread shamefully, and I'm glad that others are still here and posting.

I've had a lot going on in my life and it ended up being better for me to step away from this forum and from these topics for a while.

But I'm glad to be back and I will try to post more often again

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JayJ42 said:

This is an area of our lovelife that me and my lady have only recently begun to explore, though I've wanted it my life for quite some time.


My favorite ending to our bdsm liasons is when she is sufficiently pleased with the marks she's left on my back, she holds me down, lotions my tailbone, and grinds me until I feel her hips shuddering against me, then her body collapsing into my back, usually resulting in a few more scratches across me to finish her artwork, sometimes taking pictures of her handiwork to show off to her friends, and my heart beating warmly at helping quench that need in both of us, only finishing myself in those instances if she lets me

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may_I_please said:

This resonates

I'm a switch with submissive leanings

But very much dependent on context I think

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WildViolet said:

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Veroe said:

This an interesting topic. I think alot women dont try to take over the reigns of a sexual relationship because they worry over the line between domineering and being feminine.

Thats a stramge term itself: what does it mean to be feminine? Every woman defines the word herself.

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eroticspank said:

This is a good point. I can't speak for every woman but I have certainly talked to a few that agree with this above ... It is about having no shame for satisfying ones carnal desires.

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I have written an article regarding SUBMISSIVE both men and women might find interesting. It can be found HERE.

biseattlegirl said:

I do so much love facesitting a good boy.

https://40.media.tumblr.com/d0e0cc99e4eda77f5ca01449c855b8b4/tumblr_nkuy7ntWOW1r2z5szo1_500.jpg

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turnofthepaige said:

This is very well said. I've found that through my limited experiences that having a good connection with a Domme is much more important than denial or allowing orgasm. I must say that when my ex would top me and allow me to cum that I would just feel an incredible bond with her that made me want to submit even more. Most subs don't stop being sub just because they cum, they submit because it is in their nature and they truly want to serve their Dominant and make him or her happy.

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switchersm said:

Since my wife agreed to keep me in chastity three years ago, our relationship has become much more better and closer. She has discovered her dominant side and it's very satisfying for both of us. It's not only chastity and denial our sub/dom relationship is sometimes helpful in daily problems. For example my wife has a very exhausting job and sometimes she is really stressed and brings home a lot of frustration that makes her insufferable and unbearbeitet. Then I give her the cane and present my bare ass knowing it will become very painful but it is so satisfying to see during the spanking how her face looses it's frustration, how she let's her anger out and when finished she is so grateful and says "that's what I needed ". In former times we often argued for hours in those situations and went to bed speaking no word.

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switchersm said:

cold cream on my sore ass, kisses, cuddling and often she wants a full body massage with oral pleasure for her pussy and asshole. no release for me. I am caged for ever

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ShyGuy1855 said:

Maybe we can revive this thread...

For me it is entirely about the woman's pleasure. I find it very erotic thinking that a woman who lets her self go in the moment, wild and maybe harsh, can use me and my body or mind, or I can assist her, in a achieving great pleasure and that in-turn gives me great and very deep pleasure.

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Erochic said:

An interesting rant about the state of Femdom/male submissive pornography

http://maybemaimed.com/2008/11/19/malesubmissionartcom-or-why-i-am-crowdsourcing-my-own-pornography/

"So, here’s the problem: There is not enough porn wherein submissive men are the erotic subject matter.

If you’ve read even a little bit of this blog, you’re probably already well-versed in many of my rants about how paltry the available porn is for submissive men like me (and, by extension, dominant women like Eileen). But the problem is actually two fold. One problem is, of course, that there’s simply an insanely disturbing general lack of the stuff. In fact, it’s so bad that if you Google for the three words “male submission art,” you actually get female submission links littering the first page of results.

This is actually even worse if you go actively hunting for porn with the hopes of finding erotica depicting men who are submissive. Instead, you’re much, much more likely to find erotica depicting women who are dominant. This is actually a major nuisance for a lot of people—including many submissive men, I might add.

Arguably even more frustrating than that, however, is that what male submissive porn is out there is total shit relative to the porn available for other sorts of orientations. In such erotica (unless it’s gay imagery, of course) men are portrayed as impotent, ugly creatures. That is not sexy. It’s also insulting."

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