CuriousTxGuy
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I completely agree with this statement. Desire is a basic feeling. What we desire can't me dictated by religion...how that desire manifests itself can be though.
I've been following this thread, not commenting because, really most people know my story here...but I'll tell it again for those who haven't seem me around (I usually hang out in the playground).
I've been married for almost 27 years. The last 8 or so I've been unfulfilled sexually and the last (almost) year has been completely sexless.
We never had spectacular sex, I'll be honest. Husband was the first guy to care if I had an orgasm and to me, that was good sex. I got married young (21) and didn't know any different. We had sex regularly for several years, then went through infertility issues that made sex less desirable and more of a chore. I think that was the beginning of the end for us (and that was over 15 years ago...)
Flash forward to about 8 years ago after 2 kids and I find my sexuality..find what I want and how I want it. Try to introduce new things into the bedroom - nothing crazy! Just some toys, maybe a little light bondage, dirty talk... NOPE. All of that is a no go in my house.
I have a theory about this, but it has nothing to do with religion, but more with his past and the women he'd dealt with. Suffice it to say that the mother of his children shouldn't want to be treated the way that I want to be (his thoughts). So I spent a few years trying to figure out what to do...and then I found Lit.
And while our sex was several weeks in between, and the same thing over and over again, at least there was sex. Over the past three years or so that has even diminished. For our 25th anniversary we were on a tropical island with no kids and we had sex ONCE! (It was also my birthday and still no sex).
As of right now...I'm looking at 8 months. Not even the hint of it on Valentine's Day...
So that's my story. Can I be in the club?
Yes.
Fascinating story.
Reminds me of a quote from some classic, I don't know which, and am not sure I even have it right.
"It's the mistress in your lap horseback that will fuck, never the wife." (obviously from a male author)
I don't agree that the wife should be "proper."