Brokenheart43
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- Oct 18, 2014
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I've been in this great relationship for about 3 years. I've also been into D/s for several more years and helped my partner who had never experienced it before learn to enjoy it with me. I started her as a sub because what's a better way to learn other then sitting back and enjoying the ride, right? The problem is I enjoy both sides but she doesn't seem to want to learn to dominate and only wants to submit. Now my inner Dom is tired my inner Sub is neglected.
I've tried to lay down little hints such as "accidentally" cuffing myself to the bed in a compromising outfit, or saying things like "why don't you show me how you want it " but it always turned into something more of her just laughing and unlocking the cuffs or just telling me a list of things "I want you to get creative, be meaner, don't do this, don't do that, use more this...". So rather then us getting to mess around and my inner Sub getting taken care of I get a giggle and long lecture (and not the sexy student/teacher kind either).
I've also tried to bring it up more straight forward. "Its fun getting to knock you around a little but how about tonight we flip roles?" or "Tonight I think it would be fun if you were the dom". But those ended up worse. She just kind of brushed them off as jokes, told me she wasn't in the mood, or said she wasn't comfortable dominating.
When I do manage to convince her to take a little power it turns into this really weird, quiet, boring, vanilla session where she kind of acts like its a chore, gets the deed done, and then moves on.
She has this inner demon in her I've seen before. It's sexy, powerful, strong, demanding and perfect!! She just refuses to let it come out to play for more then a quick flash that she uses to seduce me into being the dom... again.....
I love her with all my heart. Our relationship is perfect except for this one thing.... any advice?
I've tried to lay down little hints such as "accidentally" cuffing myself to the bed in a compromising outfit, or saying things like "why don't you show me how you want it " but it always turned into something more of her just laughing and unlocking the cuffs or just telling me a list of things "I want you to get creative, be meaner, don't do this, don't do that, use more this...". So rather then us getting to mess around and my inner Sub getting taken care of I get a giggle and long lecture (and not the sexy student/teacher kind either).
I've also tried to bring it up more straight forward. "Its fun getting to knock you around a little but how about tonight we flip roles?" or "Tonight I think it would be fun if you were the dom". But those ended up worse. She just kind of brushed them off as jokes, told me she wasn't in the mood, or said she wasn't comfortable dominating.
When I do manage to convince her to take a little power it turns into this really weird, quiet, boring, vanilla session where she kind of acts like its a chore, gets the deed done, and then moves on.
She has this inner demon in her I've seen before. It's sexy, powerful, strong, demanding and perfect!! She just refuses to let it come out to play for more then a quick flash that she uses to seduce me into being the dom... again.....
I love her with all my heart. Our relationship is perfect except for this one thing.... any advice?