"i'm surprised at the people who are suggesting that you get yourself a little something on the side. i totally recognize that regular sex is a part of a healthy marriage, but you can come back from a low sex marriage. for a lot of people, you can't come back from infidelity."
Everyone needs to go out and get laid once in awhile! Keep talking keep trying. read all this god advice, speak to professionals but in the mean time, go out and get laid! But for God Sakes stay away from her best friend and other people in town or co-workers.
what i meant was...don't do it behind her back. he may not consider the marriage to be over, and if he doesn't, it's probably best to be upfront with her. if she finds out, she might very well consider it a grand betrayal, no matter how valid his reasons. if he respects and loves her, talking to her about it is the only way to go. unless, of course, there's a definite understanding that it's an open arrangement. i doubt he'd be here if that were the case, though.