As a bi domme, I keep running into something interesting, and I was wondering if I was the only one.
I notice that I am less willing to dominate a female as fiercely as I dominate a male. Males get much harsher language, heavier beatings, painful peggings. I am softer and gentler with the females, and that includes the level of desire I have to be forceful. I tend to be more playful, hit less hard, and not use as many words that people would consider pejoratives if used in day to day conversation. I have zero problems verbally degrading a male sub in the same way. The scenarios and play are all just as interesting, just less forceful or degrading with females.
This is not to be confused with treating men and women differently; any sub I've ever had who is a gender variant has been treated as their sex and not their gender. What I mean by that is that, if I have a male sub who identifies as feminine or as a woman, I have no problem hitting hard, but if I have a female sub who identifies as masculine or male, I seem to hold back.
Physical size or build of the sub doesn't seem to be involved in the equation, just the sex.
I notice that I am less willing to dominate a female as fiercely as I dominate a male. Males get much harsher language, heavier beatings, painful peggings. I am softer and gentler with the females, and that includes the level of desire I have to be forceful. I tend to be more playful, hit less hard, and not use as many words that people would consider pejoratives if used in day to day conversation. I have zero problems verbally degrading a male sub in the same way. The scenarios and play are all just as interesting, just less forceful or degrading with females.
This is not to be confused with treating men and women differently; any sub I've ever had who is a gender variant has been treated as their sex and not their gender. What I mean by that is that, if I have a male sub who identifies as feminine or as a woman, I have no problem hitting hard, but if I have a female sub who identifies as masculine or male, I seem to hold back.
Physical size or build of the sub doesn't seem to be involved in the equation, just the sex.