sweepthefloor
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I was thinking about your words when I was at the beauty parlor today.
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It just makes life easier, when you can competently take care of the everyday stuff by yourself. And it's not so much just about learning the task, it's about getting into the habit and routine of doing those tasks on a regular basis. Training yourself to accept them as second nature.
I was thinking about your words when I was at the beauty parlor today.
Yeah!Oh yeah?
*listening too* are we whispering?*sits in to listen*
Yeah!
*listening too* are we whispering?
No, I don't think so but I like whispering sometimes. It's emotional whispering. The nail salon did this to me, and I thought of ES words and didn't feel so strange about it.*i guess so*
are we supposed to be quiet in here?
No, I don't think so but I like whispering sometimes. It's emotional whispering. The nail salon did this to me, and I thought of ES words and didn't feel so strange about it.
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I was thinking about, what the hell is going on in my brain today at the beauty parlor. I go to this regular place around the corner from me. The first time I went in there, the only man that works there approached me. I said no, I wanted a female. I just didn’t want his hands on my hands or face. I have a favorite girl because she smells good, and I trust her with my eyebrows.
Today I went in and only the man was available. I sat down in his chair. My mind quickly turned the whole experience into something controlling and powerful, which surely it was not, but it did not lessen my secret lust as I quickly learned his routine with my hands.
I kept my feet on the floor and my head down. I wouldn’t even look at him. He didn’t talk. The few times my mind got lost, he would gesture where my hands should be. My hands went over, under, into the bowl, into the lamp, into his hand, switching hands, as if some invisible thing was controlling me, or that I am trained to anticipate what to do next. By the end my hand relaxed enough to rest on his hand while he painted my thumbnail. I didn’t want it to end and I wanted to jump out of my seat at the same time. He put on three coats. I almost died with my feet on the floor.
When this exercise in discipline ended, the girl who cleans up my thick eyebrows takes me to the back and inflicts pain on my body and says: no more baby hairs.
I do this every week. The manicure is regular. I work myself up and daydream about everything the experience is not. Luckily, they don’t know this. In my opinion it is a cheap way to feel pain for a minute, be controlled and vulnerable for forty-five minutes. If I really want to suffer happily: I sit still while they touch my feet. The end product doesn’t look so bad either.
By the end my hand relaxed enough to rest on his hand while he painted my thumbnail.
I wanted to add something too, in reference to this thought. This makes sense to me, but I have not been able to live it.
I did chores my whole childhood, clearly defined and non-negotiable, going to the laundromat with my mom, cooking for myself in the morning and my family in the evening. As an adolescent, I was our "cleaning lady," and earned $18 week (the going wage back then) to scrub the house from top to bottom.
Since I moved out of my mother's house, though, I have never, ever, been able to keep my own house clean. Why? A total lack of motivation. And, before my kids were born, our house was filthy. Bad. I mean, so bad that I don't even want to admit anonymously how bad it was.
Having kids increased my motivation, but it wasn't until I linked the domestic chores to my sexuality that I actually began doing them on a regular basis.
In other words, it isn't only the kids who don't do chores around here.
On the other hand, in those wonderfully ironic twists that life offers, I am considered a very competent woman within my community. When I do something I do it very thoroughly.
I just don't do everything there is to do.
See, this is the moment I keep working towards. The moment when I can finally relax into whatever is happening.
I want to accept instead of constantly questioning and I want to submit instead of allowing my fear to drive me to fight for control. When I manage it and I'm in that place, I love the sense of inner peace I get, so why's it so bloody hard to stay there?
I know what I have to do. I know what I want to do. I just dont seem to be able to do it consistantly.
Have you ever felt that way? Does it shift and if so how?
Any words of wisdom or insight would be much appreciated ES.
I cant seem to just let things happen and take their natural course, instead I seem to sabotage things before they go wrong. Kick the dog to make sure it's alive I think the saying goes, or something to that effect.
I want to accept instead of constantly questioning and I want to submit instead of allowing my fear to drive me to fight for control. When I manage it and I'm in that place, I love the sense of inner peace I get, so why's it so bloody hard to stay there?
I know what I have to do. I know what I want to do. I just dont seem to be able to do it consistantly.
As I read this thread and think about slavedom, I keep having questions like "what if the power unbalance gets abused", "what if the master makes a mistake and does not admit it", etc. And I am wondering if it's me not meant to be a slave (i.e. unwilling to accept certain asymmetries), or if it's that there are just simply very few doms who are worthy of having a slave. I am sorry for the redundancy if this has already been addressed before (I don't come often so haven't perused all 80 pages), is it that the masters take responsibilities to ensure certain degrees of fairness, or that it is understood that at heart they will never mean the slave any harm, so any "wrong" is accepted quietly? Does a slave ever resent something the master has done, or transforms that into some sexual energy? I'd appreciate it if someone could explain their view on this, thanks.