CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
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The Boy is making me a bit nuts.
His therapist and I had a "compare notes" session a couple of weeks ago, and he's been manipulating/ hiding things from both of us. We agreed I need to take better care of myself, because he's manipulating the situation to his benefit/ my detriment.
So, I worked up a plan (with her approval), and we started a daily "system" of tasks, work, etc he has to do. Basic life skills and functionality sorts of things, with consequences for blowing it off.
He did great. For a week. Then it wasn't really interesting anymore... then it was too hard... this past week has turned into threatening suicide because it's just.too.overwhelming.
Seriously. It took FOUR HOURS to get him to do the dammed dishes, because OMG KNIVES are in the kitchen and what if I accidentally decide to maybe cut myself howcanyouaskmetodothiswhenitmightleadtomyDEATH??????
So the autonomous list, broken down by hour, with daily assigned tasks, and "done" check boxes next to each task, to get him to do something OTHER than sit in his room playing video games and chatting online (because that environment is safe and he has complete control) was supposed to give me a little breathing room, and him a little accountability.
Instead, I spend half my day reminding him he has work to do. What work? Check your chart. Lather, rinse, repeat severnty-million times, sprinkled with (IMO faked) panic attacks, claims that it's too difficult (to sweep the floor), and drama filled threats of suicide.
Because I expect him to do more than sit in one spot, pushing buttons on the keyboard. Which leaves him feeling miserable, lethargic, and sad.
Alternatively, he could do the fucking list, which he openly admits leaves him feeling accomplished, happy, energetic and successful.
Except that it's so.hard.
WAH!
:headdesk:
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His therapist and I had a "compare notes" session a couple of weeks ago, and he's been manipulating/ hiding things from both of us. We agreed I need to take better care of myself, because he's manipulating the situation to his benefit/ my detriment.
So, I worked up a plan (with her approval), and we started a daily "system" of tasks, work, etc he has to do. Basic life skills and functionality sorts of things, with consequences for blowing it off.
He did great. For a week. Then it wasn't really interesting anymore... then it was too hard... this past week has turned into threatening suicide because it's just.too.overwhelming.
Seriously. It took FOUR HOURS to get him to do the dammed dishes, because OMG KNIVES are in the kitchen and what if I accidentally decide to maybe cut myself howcanyouaskmetodothiswhenitmightleadtomyDEATH??????
So the autonomous list, broken down by hour, with daily assigned tasks, and "done" check boxes next to each task, to get him to do something OTHER than sit in his room playing video games and chatting online (because that environment is safe and he has complete control) was supposed to give me a little breathing room, and him a little accountability.
Instead, I spend half my day reminding him he has work to do. What work? Check your chart. Lather, rinse, repeat severnty-million times, sprinkled with (IMO faked) panic attacks, claims that it's too difficult (to sweep the floor), and drama filled threats of suicide.
Because I expect him to do more than sit in one spot, pushing buttons on the keyboard. Which leaves him feeling miserable, lethargic, and sad.
Alternatively, he could do the fucking list, which he openly admits leaves him feeling accomplished, happy, energetic and successful.
Except that it's so.hard.
WAH!
:headdesk:
[/rant over]