Old 05-14-2018, 12:33 PM   #1
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Help!! How to ride a man

I need all the tips and tricks to drive a guy wild. I'm very submissive in bed and apparently it comes off that I'm blank or boring. Anyone care to give some advice? I should clarify that I'm a woman.

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Old 05-14-2018, 03:19 PM   #2
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Honestly this is easy, he will get on his back, you simply make sure he is hard. Mouth or hand for that so even if he wasn't hard to begin with he will be when you climb on top. Line it up with you sink down slowly or fast, your choice, then move.

Men are simple, they want women willing to have sex with him. After that so long as you move it's awesome.

Little tip, think about that hard cock moving about in you. Seriously focus on what he is doing to your body, you should be helping, and you will find orgasms coming easy. At least in theory, we are all built differently.
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Putting aside the tastelessness of calling a lover blank and boring, being 'submissive' means different things to different people. Giving off a vibe of being blank and boring may be the result of being passive, which is different than being submissive (IMHO). What I mean by that is that is that you might not be showing that you are eager and interested in sex, or interested in either of your pleasure, regardless of who you prefer be leading your sexual encounters.

Being passive and acting like you simply don't care if sex happens at all (much less if either of you is enjoying it) is a turn off. "Just do what you want, I don't care" is apathetic and completely uninteresting. I can only speak for myself, but I need more. You can be submissive and still be enthusiastic and engaging. You can show that you are enjoying sex by being engaging and encouraging with eye contact, your body language, and verbally cues. You can be submissive and still anticipate what your partner likes and focus on giving them a great sexual experience. If you're not with a partner who inspires you to want all of that, then your choice of partners may be the problem.

My suggestions would be to talk to your partner and ask questions. Show that you want and like sex. Have an opinion. It's okay to be submissive and yet let your partner know your preferences. I think demonstrating a hunger for sex, a desire to please, and a need to be be pleased would go a long ways. If your lover enjoys having you on top, then making eye contact and smiling is a good start.

It's like anything else in a good relationship. There's going to be give and take, but showing that you're in the game makes all the difference.
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Old 05-14-2018, 06:32 PM   #4
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From a male point of view it's great if you play a more active role some of the time. You can watch videos.
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.p...h57101a7a98ec2
Straddle him and take him in your hand for a while, get him very hard.
To get the angle right you need to get your knees in the right place, roughly level with his chest, then lower yourself over him guiding him in with your hand. Move your hips either forward or back until he goes in easily. Lean forward and dangle your breasts over his face. You do not have to bounce up and down nonstop like a pornstar. Just sinking all the way down and then clenching your muscles around it feels amazing. And for visual stimulation it's probably the best position. Just doing it will drive him wild. You don't need any special tips or tricks.
Try it facing the other way too (reverse cowgirl). Some women don't like that because the guy is looking at her ass, but men love it for the same reason.
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Old 05-14-2018, 10:57 PM   #5
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two ways

There are two ways, sometimes known as "Cowgirl", in which you face your partner's head, and "Reverse Cowgirl" in which you face his feet.
Cowgirl roughly approximates missionary position in function, Reverse Cowgirl is similar to "Doggie style".

When doing it cowgirl, make sure to offer your nipples to his mouth.

When doing it reverse cowgirl, remember to gently stroke his balls and perineum (The skin between his scrotum and his anus) with your fingers.

Beyond that, it should all come naturally.
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Depends on the guy and what he wants.

Tell him that you want to suck him.

When in a car (but not while he's driving) or in public, snuggle close and give his cock a squeeze through his pants.

When you are standing or sitting and kissing, undo his pants and start playing with him.

When he is fucking you, depending on the position you are in, reach for his balls but be gentle with them unless you know he likes otherwise. If he is on top, rise up with your hips to meet his thrusts. Squeeze your pussy hard around his cock to make it good for him.

Talk dirty to him. Whisper if you are out in public.

Call him and tell him how much you want him.

Buy some rose petals and leave a trail to the bathroom where you will take a mutual bath/shower. Be sure to wash him well. Have his favorite drink chilled and ready. Then dry him off and take him to bed and have your way with him.

Take him on an hike and keep pulling him off the path and behind a tree or something where you will kiss him or feel his cock through his pants.

Dance for him. Or get him to dance with you.

Strip him slowly and give him a massage. Men usually like a rather deep/rough massage. Make sure to use your hands on every part of his body.

Start masturbating in front of him.
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Depends on the guy and what he wants.

Tell him that you want to suck him.

When in a car (but not while he's driving) or in public, snuggle close and give his cock a squeeze through his pants.

When you are standing or sitting and kissing, undo his pants and start playing with him.

When he is fucking you, depending on the position you are in, reach for his balls but be gentle with them unless you know he likes otherwise. If he is on top, rise up with your hips to meet his thrusts. Squeeze your pussy hard around his cock to make it good for him.

Talk dirty to him. Whisper if you are out in public.

Call him and tell him how much you want him.

Buy some rose petals and leave a trail to the bathroom where you will take a mutual bath/shower. Be sure to wash him well. Have his favorite drink chilled and ready. Then dry him off and take him to bed and have your way with him.

Take him on an hike and keep pulling him off the path and behind a tree or something where you will kiss him or feel his cock through his pants.

Dance for him. Or get him to dance with you.

Strip him slowly and give him a massage. Men usually like a rather deep/rough massage. Make sure to use your hands on every part of his body.

Start masturbating in front of him.
I think this will work just fine. 😈 i
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Old 05-24-2018, 06:49 PM   #11
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Men are simple, they want women willing to have sex with him. After that so long as you move it's awesome.
Uh, I take issue with this...maybe some men, maybe a lot of men. I am so not interested in having sex with anyone who is not really authentically into sex, liking the pleasures of both emotional and physical pleasure and connection in what ever form that happens to take in a relationship. Just moving a little is so not going to be ok with me.
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While you are on top...
Try not letting him penetrate... and slide along his length for your fun
(Cameltoe slide)
Try his face

Try some anal

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Old 05-28-2018, 09:39 PM   #13
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Alternate

Move like your going to ride his dick and just move right up to his face and let him lick you, give him a good face grind. Then move to his dick and ride him good. After a while slide down off him and just take his dick in your mouth right after riding him. Alternate between these three as the mood, how you feel and how he feels develops. I bet he will like this if you surprise him some.

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Old 05-28-2018, 09:56 PM   #14
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I need all the tips and tricks to drive a guy wild. I'm very submissive in bed and apparently it comes off that I'm blank or boring. Anyone care to give some advice? I should clarify that I'm a woman.
Hiya hot hot mess,

I doubt you are 'blank or boring' that seems like you are being a rather harsh critic of yourself. I don't know if this is applicable to your situation as you have not given much information but maybe this will help. It is certainly somethin gi enjoy:

I once went out with a lovely lady who was a little shy and one thing that I found very odd about her when we first started sleeping together was that she was very quiet during sex she also admitted to not enjoying sex as much as she thought she could (not just with me but in a previous relationship as well, I was her second lover).

Her apparent lack of enthusiasm and pleasure was a bit of a turn off for me as I like to please so I talked to her about it and encouraged her to express herself a little more vocally.

She did and she found that her pleasure during sex increased from doing that as well allowing her to incrementally go a little further each time we slept together.

The end result was that she became one of my favorite lovers and we both had very satisfying sex and she became quite a wild thing in bed.

I learnt something from the experience as well and that was that I am very aroused by the sound of a woman enjoying sex... so further to the advice you have received from many others so far I would also like to suggest that you try also being vocal and going a little wild... It doesn't have to be all at once if it seems unnatural at first. Just build up to it

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Sigh, I can say that it depends on a guy. Some may like one position more than the other. For example for a long time I didn't really like cowgirl position at all, and only in recent years I got a feel for it.

It all depends on a specific guy you are with.

As for certain techniques, you are much better off seeking tutorial videos online. People make such things.

I don't know you who told you that you're boring in bed, but riding a man isn't really a solution. You should know much more things than that. Thankfully, there are videos, articles and tutorials online made by women for women how to drive your man crazy in bed.

Generic advice:
- If you aren't, work on being more vocal. Doesn't mean loud, but even soft moaning makes a world of difference. And all you need to do is let go a bit and allow your voice to express your feelings.
- Look into his eyes. Be interested.
- Move. Shift poses even in the same position. If you do doggie, you stand on all fours or lie your front down, keep your back straight or arch it, reach out with your hand to your clit or his balls, or to hold onto his arm. You could look back at him over the shoulder. Same diversity is in every position. Doesn't mean you switch every 5 seconds, but don't stay still for 2-3 minutes.
- Touch him. If he's going in the same position too long - urge him to switch. For example you could break missionary by reaching up to kiss him, then shifting your weight to turn. Or you could just ask.
- Talk dirty. That's a skill. Do it too much, and he thinks that you just can't shut up. But a few well-placed phrases make a world of difference. Tell him to hold your breasts, or rub your clit, or even just hold you. Tell him (only once or twice) that it feels good. In the end, you can simply tell him that you're cumming. That's always effective.

So I guess my main advice is that you should ask google, and not literotica forum. maybe someone will give you a tip or two, but the same and much more you'll find elsewhere.

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Men are simple, they want women willing to have sex with him.
That just isn't true.
Sure, a rare man would forgo an offering of free pussy if he's single.

But a woman CAN be really disappointing in bed. If that's the case, then you will NOT get a satisfied man. He'll either break the relationship after he'd seen everything he can. Or if you managed to spark some emotion and actually keep him for long, then he will either be sexually unsatisfied or cheat on you.

Sex is a skill that needs to be learned by both genders.
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Old 05-29-2018, 07:37 AM   #17
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Move so you have orgasms and let him know.
I notice most girls move so there gspot is hit and cum that way when they are on top of me.
Show your happiness. That is a big turn on.
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Move like your going to ride his dick and just move right up to his face and let him lick you, give him a good face grind. Then move to his dick and ride him good. After a while slide down off him and just take his dick in your mouth right after riding him. Alternate between these three as the mood, how you feel and how he feels develops. I bet he will like this if you surprise him some.

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From a male point of view it's great if you play a more active role some of the time. You can watch videos.
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.p...h57101a7a98ec2
Straddle him and take him in your hand for a while, get him very hard.
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Try it facing the other way too (reverse cowgirl). Some women don't like that because the guy is looking at her ass, but men love it for the same reason.
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I totally agree. Recently had a lovely lady stay overnight and was looking forward to hot steamy sex. She seemed reluctant to let me eat her pussy and, after I came (cowgirl position), couldn.t wait to get off and go clean up. I much prefer to relax after orgasm and wind gently with a nice cuddle.
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