lavenderblue42
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Here's the question! Hi all btw, first post
I have the same boyfriend for the last two years. I'm 42, he's 52. Sexually, we are doing okay. It's not the best, it's not the worst but we do have a constant connection and we both achieve orgasm 99% of the time.
But the thing is...I've always always had a strong desire to be spanked and dominated in a mild way by a man. And I've never been able to really achieve that for the same reason: Men i've been with all had an aggressive nature.
It scares me since i don't wanna end up beaten up or something, because one could not control his anger. My present boyfriend and i had a discussion last nite about this and he was like: Yeahhhh i'll tie you up real good and you won't be able to do a damn thing, i'll decide everything, you'll be like this and that etc, you'll serve me, yada yada....
I said it was not exactly how it works, that things had to be discussed and both partners had to agree but...he disagreed saying " what's your point of wanting to be dominated then ? I get to decide it all or nothing"
So, i forgot that idea right away. That's not appealing.
Is there such thing as a man who is not suitable for this, who doesn't understand how it works? I would never let myself being tied up by him, i'd be scared to death!
It's like some men, you can't give them that kinda power over you, they'll abuse it.
Right?
I have the same boyfriend for the last two years. I'm 42, he's 52. Sexually, we are doing okay. It's not the best, it's not the worst but we do have a constant connection and we both achieve orgasm 99% of the time.
But the thing is...I've always always had a strong desire to be spanked and dominated in a mild way by a man. And I've never been able to really achieve that for the same reason: Men i've been with all had an aggressive nature.
It scares me since i don't wanna end up beaten up or something, because one could not control his anger. My present boyfriend and i had a discussion last nite about this and he was like: Yeahhhh i'll tie you up real good and you won't be able to do a damn thing, i'll decide everything, you'll be like this and that etc, you'll serve me, yada yada....
I said it was not exactly how it works, that things had to be discussed and both partners had to agree but...he disagreed saying " what's your point of wanting to be dominated then ? I get to decide it all or nothing"
So, i forgot that idea right away. That's not appealing.
Is there such thing as a man who is not suitable for this, who doesn't understand how it works? I would never let myself being tied up by him, i'd be scared to death!
It's like some men, you can't give them that kinda power over you, they'll abuse it.
Right?