Ways to explore female dominance

Charmolypi said:

I’m toying with some scenes where a woman demonstrates dominance over a man. Tying him up is the usual but it is everywhere. I would like to go more psychological and subtle. She could undress him first and spend time gazing at his body before letting him undress her. She could order for him at a restaurant and smile away his surprised expression. Or she could just make him shave her legs with a Gillette razor. What else?

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yukonnights said:

For it to be believable, obviously submissiveness must already be a part of 'husbands' deeper personality background. For the story to work, IMO this is the place to start. The best set-up to begin would be; 1. the husband knows this and hints to his wife/gf...or 2. The wife recognizes this through the understanding that comes to couples over time. (James was never assertive, even as a teen he strove to avoid conflict and befriended those who were leaders.)

Then comes the exploratory and development phase of the new power dynamic. Again, IMO to make it believable this would begin with simple things and ratchets up over time. ex: wife rejects his suggestions on everyday things...could be anything from where to eat out to the friends she will allow him to keep...to when they have sex. etc. ( "I told you no. We're not going to go to their party, and that's final," Barbara said with an edge of frustration signalling him to not ask again. Not wanting to upset her, James called Bill and told him they wouldn't be able to make it.)

Next, it notches up again; Maybe she tells him that she is not satisfied with their sex life...and tells him how it needs to change...or she's not satisfied with the way he is keeping the house clean, etc.

You get the point. At each step he submits. I find that writing these kind of scenes are easier with a combination of third person narration mixed with the dialogue. Domination/submission is primarily in the mind/emotions that are triggered by actions. The actions are just props to enable the emotions. These acts can range from subtle to extreme depending on the overall plot and vision of the author.

That may not be what you were looking for, but w/o knowing the story better it's hard to suggest specific actions...hope some of this might help. The D/s dynamic is very interesting. In whatever degree, most relationships settle on who's the leader (D) and who's the follower (s)...often in surprising way

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