KnightInShiningArmour
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- Aug 30, 2016
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So, I am caught up in a marriage that I never should have gotten into in the first place and I am just doing my time until I can be in a position to fight the court wars (rich father-in law and complicated situation law-wise). There is a great deal of incompatibility to start with but, the one that is the hardest to bear is the sexual incompatibility.
The wife doesn't refuses sex when asked mostly, but then it feels like being offered a vagina to masturbate when she just spreads her legs and insists thats the most she would do sexually. Its gotten so bad that I don't even want sex anymore. I, on the other hand have that Dom element of BDSM so dominant in my mind that I can't even cum without involving a highly imaginative mental sex session involving domination. I haven't participated much in the local BDSM community because of being married legally and I don't wanna go out there and lie to some girl that I am single and available. If I turn to the vanilla world, the conversation almost borders around reporting me to the cops- people don't understand the consensual element, do they? I feel so much for the gay men trapped in marriages with women, for I feel the same way. When is the world going to accept that people like us do exist and are normal otherwise.
For the world, I do put up a socially acceptable face. I am a self made guy who went to one of the world's top schools, got a great job, still works out, well groomed, etc. However the other me doesn't give two hoots about money or society. When I get in that "zone", only the act of dominating someone can calm my body down- for I feel like I lose control. Its like the women who cum when being spanked - it sounds a-sexual but somehow they don't have the control over their bodies anymore- they might want to stop but their body enjoys it.
I remember a time when I had some online friends who lived in their own secret worlds - trapped like I was. Talking to each other gave us hope and let us escape into our worlds where we were free and before we knew some of the friendships blossomed into relationships. If not, it gave me the affirmation that I wasn't "sick". I would love to have some more friendships like that - being trapped in your old little world is not a blessing!
The wife doesn't refuses sex when asked mostly, but then it feels like being offered a vagina to masturbate when she just spreads her legs and insists thats the most she would do sexually. Its gotten so bad that I don't even want sex anymore. I, on the other hand have that Dom element of BDSM so dominant in my mind that I can't even cum without involving a highly imaginative mental sex session involving domination. I haven't participated much in the local BDSM community because of being married legally and I don't wanna go out there and lie to some girl that I am single and available. If I turn to the vanilla world, the conversation almost borders around reporting me to the cops- people don't understand the consensual element, do they? I feel so much for the gay men trapped in marriages with women, for I feel the same way. When is the world going to accept that people like us do exist and are normal otherwise.
For the world, I do put up a socially acceptable face. I am a self made guy who went to one of the world's top schools, got a great job, still works out, well groomed, etc. However the other me doesn't give two hoots about money or society. When I get in that "zone", only the act of dominating someone can calm my body down- for I feel like I lose control. Its like the women who cum when being spanked - it sounds a-sexual but somehow they don't have the control over their bodies anymore- they might want to stop but their body enjoys it.
I remember a time when I had some online friends who lived in their own secret worlds - trapped like I was. Talking to each other gave us hope and let us escape into our worlds where we were free and before we knew some of the friendships blossomed into relationships. If not, it gave me the affirmation that I wasn't "sick". I would love to have some more friendships like that - being trapped in your old little world is not a blessing!