...but THEN, which would you rather do?
None2None2 and Suckonsimon, I understand your positions and would not argue with them, but in fact applaud you both for your monogamous believe and adhering to it. I cannot say the same for myself as I have been anything but monogamous, but with and for the pleasure of my husband before he passed. I also know None2 none2 you have never kissed a man since you are incorrect about feeling the beard of even a fairly close clean shaven man when kissing. I mean a real kiss, not just a peck on the cheek.
I find this entire thread fascinating as the vast majority of men would prefer to suck another man. instead of kiss him. My husband was the same way. He sucked many other men in threesomes and such, and 99% of the time with me present, but I never saw or heard him say anything about desiring to kiss another man. I wonder just how prevalent this is outside of the men here on Lit and this being a sexually oriented site. Interesting.
I would buck the system too. Unless we are talking about a really unattractive man or a man with really bad halitosis, dirty teeth, or visible cold sores on his lips, of course I would kiss him over oral sex. If cocks were a thing of beauty, the big man upstairs would have put it where our noses are located.
Why would I want to put a stranger's junk in my mouth? I think it is weird how people complain about facial hair. Men don't have hair on their lips. Unless they have a lot of facial hair you are not going to feel it unless the person is the kind of guy whose idea of kissing includes licking a person's face. Where as with a real man (I'm not talking about boys as I'm not a pedo, nor am I talking about effeminate men who do their darndest not to appear like men), you are going to have all sorts of pubs that can get in your mouth if you try to deep throat or lick their balls. Likewise, if they are uncirmsized and unclean, it really does stink and sorry but parmesan belongs on spagetti -- not cock.
I also do not crave having my air cut off, my skull fucked, my gag reflex choking me, nor someone trying to pull on my hair or the back of my head. There isn't anything erotic about that, let alone the fearful "romantic" word. I also don't crave cum.
Now on the other hand, kissing a man is a relazing experience. Some may think that because I get romantic with men, that obviously I love to kiss. Actually, my partner tend to kiss when one leaves the house as to doing it during sex. However, that is just a pattern we got into. Actually, in general, if you kiss and hug a man prior to sex it is called foreplay. Men and women are not that different. We all like sex to make our day when we have it. If all it involves is kneel, unzip, suck, cum, zip up, and leave, then it is not much more exciting than pissing in the pot.
My experiences is that men are actually better at kissing then sucking. If all it took to get me off was a suction sensation, then I would simply stay home with a hoover vaccume cleaner. If a guy is not willing to give you a whole sexual experience then to be quite honest, he is a little bit frigid. The experience is rather lacking. It isn't just the love-cock-but-not-gay guys, but also the cheating gays. It always seemed kind of crazy. Like their partners will never detect that they have cum breath, but one whiff of another man's saliva, and they will know right away that you were missing ground.
I'm in a monogamous relationship myself. It has only been 13 years for us, but still I find it very comforting. While some may see it as a cramp on their style. I find that there is something so touching and thus erotic about someone who knows all your flaws, yet love the hell out of you enough to stick around. Sex leave a lot to be deisred right now because I am having erection problems, but I still remember all the good times. There is nothing more erotic than smelling your cum inside a person you know and knowing that they have freely chosesn to save their insides for you.
The other thing special about the non-sex parts of bonding is that a man's orgasm can only take so long. Where as there is no specific limit for activities such as kissing, hugging, touching. There is something special about just intertwining your bodies while you fall asleep. For me another real special thing is I like to simply cup my partner's balls. Some people may not find balls erotic, but I guess I put them in a special class as that is the heart of malehood. That is where both testostrone and sperm is produccted. My partner wouldn't have his kids, his deep voice, his muscles, his hairy body if it had not been for the functioning of his balls. So I don't cup them because they are a fettish, but because I give his balls the greatest respect. From a Biblical perspective some may not know but to swear an oath, you would hold the other man's balls.
So the rest of those on here can suck to their heart's content. I have to have something more real. Kissing is part of that as is being inside a guy's ass. Even on the subject of fucking it is not the jackhammer race to the finish line, but a voyage to journey to the finish line and with a hope that it is the voyage and not just the destination that made it all worth while.
