Hello, I'm hoping for some advice from you lovely people. A little about me first, having been with the same guy for years and only experiencing the same predictable routine for that time I've not realised I wanted or was missing out on a more interesting sex life.
I met someone online who first was a friend but then became an online sexual relationship, he fired up my imagination by introducing me to new ideas through roleplay on messenger and sending me to here where I have had fun reading the stories/threads then chatting with him about them. I've known him almost two years now and recently we decided to meet and have done so a couple of times. Both of us keen to try the things we have been talking about for months.
He is much younger than me, I am his first partner and our connection when we meet is just as lovely as its been online. However, he just can't seem to relax with me, he has a mental health issue which means he finds it difficult to be around people. Able to maintain an erection for a long time he just can't finish, he says its fine but he must be frustrated! That blissful state where the body and instinct takes over seems to elude him, for example kissing, is not becoming those long deep slow tongue tangling kisses that go on forever but feel stiff, slightly awkward, almost like its all considered "I should kiss her here and touch her there".
I'm hoping you may have some advice for me on finding ways to help him relax, which hopefully would help with the finishing problem as well.
I met someone online who first was a friend but then became an online sexual relationship, he fired up my imagination by introducing me to new ideas through roleplay on messenger and sending me to here where I have had fun reading the stories/threads then chatting with him about them. I've known him almost two years now and recently we decided to meet and have done so a couple of times. Both of us keen to try the things we have been talking about for months.
He is much younger than me, I am his first partner and our connection when we meet is just as lovely as its been online. However, he just can't seem to relax with me, he has a mental health issue which means he finds it difficult to be around people. Able to maintain an erection for a long time he just can't finish, he says its fine but he must be frustrated! That blissful state where the body and instinct takes over seems to elude him, for example kissing, is not becoming those long deep slow tongue tangling kisses that go on forever but feel stiff, slightly awkward, almost like its all considered "I should kiss her here and touch her there".
I'm hoping you may have some advice for me on finding ways to help him relax, which hopefully would help with the finishing problem as well.