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Why is it even necessary to even state that decent conversation should be included?

I'm curious, what percentage of people who PM you jump straight to sex-related issues in the first 2-3 messages? I keep getting the impression that anyone who identifies as female on personals and dating websites is subjected to a barrage of men like this.
 
Aren't we all a little sex crazed though? It's just hard to find guys who realize that decent conversation and getting to know the person is important for making a connection (pun intended).

Haha not *all* of us are sex crazed. I think if you're getting enough, you can be well balanced and have a normal conversation. Although I totally agree, the number of women who are open to this vast outnumber the number of men. But the crowd here is a bit skewed anyway ;)
 
Barrage of Men With Poor Manners

I'm curious, what percentage of people who PM you jump straight to sex-related issues in the first 2-3 messages? I keep getting the impression that anyone who identifies as female on personals and dating websites is subjected to a barrage of men like this.

Bingo. This is the reason why I've never posted on this thread.
While I may be very interested in phone sex, the barrage of messages you will inevitably get is kind of irritating. It's not like you're going to get a ton of viable candidates. Typically it's a ton of one sentence messages such as: What do you like? or xx/swm Tell me what gets you off. or What are you looking for? Typically from very new people or people who only lurk so you have no idea who they are and if you would even be well matched.

Finding people on here is a difficult thing because unless you've had a chance to sample their voice or their "wares" you're basically calling up some stranger who may be a super poor fit. And getting out of that phone call has now become awkward.
 
I really would like just normal, not married guys to get to know that is comfortable with voice, think not socially awkward or sex crazed. Why unattached? Because when it's really late at night and I'm free, I rather just talk rather than deal with a man trying to cyber secretly, typing away in the dark while his wife is in the next room :rolleyes:

what if the wife is away for the weekend and he is all alone?

Not all of us. I'm very sex-positive and more times horny than not but I'm not sex crazed that I'm blinded and all formalities are out the window. Why is it even necessary to even state that decent conversation should be included? It's the basics. Especially with voice chat that ENGAGES two people, it's not the same as porn where you can press play, pause and stop on a person.

and decent conversation should be a given, whether it be online, on the phone or in person. Although....it is easier to hang up when on phone/voice.
 
Haha you could easily set up a questionnaire to filter out viable candidates. Looking through yours:

1) What're you doing outside of here?
2) What do you like to read?
3) Making money? By slinging dope or in the tech industry?
3) Biggie or 'Pac? ;)

All rhetorical questions obviously. If they can't answer in well-formed sentences and it inevitably comes back to "What are you looking for?", then CUT.

I also agree. The voice is a big indicator (turn on/off), so that can be some trouble. Hey, if you really need to cut the conversation, lol just make up an excuse: storm, cat, house fire, zombies, whatever. I'm sure they'll get it ;)


Bingo. This is the reason why I've never posted on this thread.
While I may be very interested in phone sex, the barrage of messages you will inevitably get is kind of irritating. It's not like you're going to get a ton of viable candidates. Typically it's a ton of one sentence messages such as: What do you like? or xx/swm Tell me what gets you off. or What are you looking for? Typically from very new people or people who only lurk so you have no idea who they are and if you would even be well matched.

Finding people on here is a difficult thing because unless you've had a chance to sample their voice or their "wares" you're basically calling up some stranger who may be a super poor fit. And getting out of that phone call has now become awkward.
 
I'm always amazed at the amount of people that just want to jump into it. There's a learning phase, so to speak. It's not unlike courting someone. Just because i'm horny and you're horny doesn't mean we're just going to work. But when there is some sort of vibe between both parties, phone is probably the best way to self pleasure.
 
Could not agree more with Mims. A decent conversation goes a long way.

:D:kiss:

I'm curious, what percentage of people who PM you jump straight to sex-related issues in the first 2-3 messages? I keep getting the impression that anyone who identifies as female on personals and dating websites is subjected to a barrage of men like this.

As a female on personals, this is how I break down my PMs from someone new and the likelihood that I will reply.

About 75% of PMs I receive is straight sex talk in the first text, in varying degrees from 'looking for fun?' to sending me dirty pics to "wanting to ravish my sopping wet pussy". I ignore these.

The next biggest percentage will send me a PM that tells me all the things HE wants to do but it's nicely written out and not rude at all. He states his name, his location and then just goes on about what turns him on or that one of my posts got him hard. This is not something you send a random person you never interacted with on the threads or in private. This is not an introduction, though I was not offended, I'm not keen on connecting. But I do reply to these PMs with a thank you but I'm not interested.

Then there's the awesome yet small percentage but they get a reply for sure. Guys that eventually became friends that I keep around for fun naughty times and good laughs :cattail:. These men remember how to talk to people, they introduce themselves, say something funny or lighthearted about their own likes or hobbies and conclude the PM by asking about me but not the standard "How are you?" but something more personal like "Hey I see that you like to cook in your interests, what's your favorite dish to make?" (guys forget this is how you insure a response...get to know someone by being interested in their interests) I'm not asking for a huge essay, actually I would hate that lol but relaxed and casual PMs go a long way - for me at least.

I'm always amazed at the amount of people that just want to jump into it. There's a learning phase, so to speak. It's not unlike courting someone. Just because i'm horny and you're horny doesn't mean we're just going to work. But when there is some sort of vibe between both parties, phone is probably the best way to self pleasure.

Sensible comments like these can get a girl so hot ;)
 
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As a female on personals, this is how I break down my PMs from someone new and the likelihood that I will reply.

About 75% of PMs I receive is straight sex talk in the first text, in varying degrees from 'looking for fun?' to sending me dirty pics to "wanting to ravish my sopping wet pussy". I ignore these.

The next biggest percentage will send me a PM that tells me all the things HE wants to do but it's nicely written out and not rude at all. He states his name, his location and then just goes on about what turns him on or that one of my posts got him hard. This is not something you send a random person you never interacted with on the threads or in private. This is not an introduction, though I was not offended, I'm not keen on connecting. But I do reply to these PMs with a thank you but I'm not interested.

Then there's the awesome yet small percentage but they get a reply for sure. Guys that eventually became friends that I keep around for fun naughty times and good laughs :cattail:. These men remember how to talk to people, they introduce themselves, say something funny or lighthearted about their own likes or hobbies and conclude the PM by asking about me but not the standard "How are you?" but something more personal like "Hey I see that you like to cook in your interests, what's your favorite dish to make?" (guys forget this is how you insure a response...get to know someone by being interested in their interests) I'm not asking for a huge essay, actually I would hate that lol but relaxed and casual PMs go a long way - for me at least.



Sensible comments like these can get a girl so hot ;)

While one should not respond ;personally this is a first ;to such posts but in lit terms that is .t..y
 
I must admit I've never been called sensible before. This is definitely going in my diary today. Thank you kindly, ma'am.

Good rule of thumb...if you're selfish in your communication, you're most likely a selfish lover/whatever you want to call yourself. And that's probably not the best foot to put forward right away.
 
phone sex, erotic, mysterious,,,,,,

I simply love the mystery behind phone sex, the buildup, the erotic fantasy, and above all the thought of someone from your own fantasies saying and exploring any perverse thing imaginable without being judged. I love phone sex, have only had the opportunity with two women but truly amazing, sexy, erotic experiences.
 
Happy Thursday

Hi,
I find myself home alone today and feeling like a little fun. Would love to have some erotic talk on the phone with someone. PM me if you are in the same boat and interested.
 
Bingo. This is the reason why I've never posted on this thread.
While I may be very interested in phone sex, the barrage of messages you will inevitably get is kind of irritating. It's not like you're going to get a ton of viable candidates. Typically it's a ton of one sentence messages such as: What do you like? or xx/swm Tell me what gets you off. or What are you looking for? Typically from very new people or people who only lurk so you have no idea who they are and if you would even be well matched.

Finding people on here is a difficult thing because unless you've had a chance to sample their voice or their "wares" you're basically calling up some stranger who may be a super poor fit. And getting out of that phone call has now become awkward.

there should be a manners/dating/how to speak to women app for men. this is what I want to say ..Input it the app and then it gives you the percentile chance this woman will talk or continue to keep talking a digital magic 8ball if you will ...if you want to get off the phone call just say you have a cake In the oven and have to go
 
I haven't had regular for phone in quite sometime as I was with a girl for last couple years. Before that I had a few regulars and I agree with the poster above you want someone who can get down with but actually talk to about other things in life and start to develop an actual friendship.

I'm still pretty new here, few days , so no idea how hard that kinda stuff is to find here but we shall see.
 
I really would like just normal, not married guys to get to know that is comfortable with voice, think not socially awkward or sex crazed. Why unattached? Because when it's really late at night and I'm free, I rather just talk rather than deal with a man trying to cyber secretly, typing away in the dark while his wife is in the next room :rolleyes:

<waves> :D

Though at my advanced years, I am usually in bed after the Early Bird special.

:cattail:
 
phone sex quiz,,,, find your perfect phone lover. I posted my answers!

So I wanted a place - with people that do enjoy phone sex and up for it - that can get together. A place for people to mingle, shoot the shit and let your own colors show and appeal to potential playmates.

I'm hoping it helps other people find satisfaction and make new friends. Feel free to post about experiences, likes, dislikes and/or self introductions.

I had posted this on page 2 (my answers are there) but someone suggested I post it here as well so why not :) I added a few questions so that we can get to know you a bit better and it's nice to be able to reply to something instead of a 'hi everyone' :)

1) Are you the quiet, talkative, dominate or laid back type? Are you typically shy or outgoing?
Talkative

2) Do you like to lead or wait for her/him to lead?
I am a leader, but i am also a giver!

3) What's a trait you look for in a phone buddy?
Trust, and a woman not afraid to say; "fuck me harder"

4)What's your favorite food?
Sweet honey nectar from a wet horny woman. Mmmm love to lick and drink up that sweet cum!
 
Minnesota Fun

Metro area but up for a little travel too.

I have a Whitty banter and humor mixed in with sexual perverted intensions
 
what's great about phone sex

  1. hearing someone else get breathless on the phone
  2. telling someone what you would do to them if they were next to you
  3. putting the phone next to different parts of your body so the person can hear
  4. making someone else cum over the phone

What do you love about phone sex?

Looking for people to play with. Male with a hot English accent :heart:
 
  1. hearing someone else get breathless on the phone
  2. telling someone what you would do to them if they were next to you
  3. putting the phone next to different parts of your body so the person can hear
  4. making someone else cum over the phone

What do you love about phone sex?

Looking for people to play with. Male with a hot English accent :heart:

I agree with all four points. Especially #1 & #3.
 
hi again

This kind and experienced truly oral Sir (mature educated WM) is online today. Hoping to talk to women who have had or want to have a gentleman pleaser off to the side, a man she knows who is focused on one thing: oral pleasure for her, one way, no reciprocation. When they're together he is there for her use, on call for when when needed.

That is not 'erotica' to me; it's my experience, something I have done a lot of. Does a situation like that interest you? If so, we should talk. If we get that far, you can masturbate while I tell you about being an assertive woman's oral pet, cum slut, personal toy, either from my experience or by explaining how I would propose to serve you in a similar way.

sircrystalline on yhaoo IM :)
 
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