Trans Curious?
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Curiosity meet the fetishist. Nothing wrong with that, but keep in mind we are people, too. We have feelings and desires, most of us struggle with acceptance - not just from others but ourselves. If all you are looking for is “sex”, I wish you the best of luck. I never went looking for just sex because there is so much more between two people than just “sex” I’m sure I’m not the only one to feel this way
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Curiosity meet the fetishist. Nothing wrong with that, but keep in mind we are people, too. We have feelings and desires, most of us struggle with acceptance - not just from others but ourselves. If all you are looking for is “sex”, I wish you the best of luck. I never went looking for just sex because there is so much more between two people than just “sex” I’m sure I’m not the only one to feel this way
I think it might take more than a few months to fully wrap your head around being intimate with a trans person. First off, there's no such thing as a generic 'trans'. Each person is walking a unique life, with unique desires, dreams and expectations. But, don't take my comments as meant to discourage you...just to help you understand better. To separate the porn ideas into real life, etc.
As Kantarii said, we all have feelings and very often struggle with our own insecurities. Hope this helps you on your own discoveries!
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Curiosity meet the fetishist. Nothing wrong with that, but keep in mind we are people, too. We have feelings and desires, most of us struggle with acceptance - not just from others but ourselves. If all you are looking for is “sex”, I wish you the best of luck. I never went looking for just sex because there is so much more between two people than just “sex” I’m sure I’m not the only one to feel this way
Well said, Kant! You are absolutely right! There is a lot more than just sex between two people!! Feelings, desires and acceptance are a huge part of it! Thank you for bringing it to people's attention!
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If you are simply aroused by transexual women solely for sexual gratification than just visit an escort. Assuming you are in the US, every large city there has an abundance of lovely transexual escorts that earning a living fulfilling men's fantasies. Do your research, there are a number of websites that post such reviews. Find someone you like and book an appointment. These women want you to enjoy yourself and becoming a regular client and will take great care of you.
If you are truly interested in dating and possibly build a relationship with a transgender woman be honest with her and yourself. Make sure you are ok going out and being seen in public with this woman. She may not always be made up and "passable" so to speak and you need to be able to handle that. It's not fair to the woman to actually fall for a guy to then have him feel ashamed to go out in public or introduce to friends/family. If you are secure enough with you own self then there are plenty of trans women out there that would love to meet a nice guy and do things with. If you just want sex hire a pro and don't jeopardize anyone's feelings.
If you are simply aroused by transexual women solely for sexual gratification than just visit an escort. Assuming you are in the US, every large city there has an abundance of lovely transexual escorts that earning a living fulfilling men's fantasies. Do your research, there are a number of websites that post such reviews. Find someone you like and book an appointment. These women want you to enjoy yourself and becoming a regular client and will take great care of you.
If you are truly interested in dating and possibly build a relationship with a transgender woman be honest with her and yourself. Make sure you are ok going out and being seen in public with this woman. She may not always be made up and "passable" so to speak and you need to be able to handle that. It's not fair to the woman to actually fall for a guy to then have him feel ashamed to go out in public or introduce to friends/family. If you are secure enough with you own self then there are plenty of trans women out there that would love to meet a nice guy and do things with. If you just want sex hire a pro and don't jeopardize anyone's feelings.
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Curiosity meet the fetishist. Nothing wrong with that, but keep in mind we are people, too. We have feelings and desires, most of us struggle with acceptance - not just from others but ourselves. If all you are looking for is “sex”, I wish you the best of luck. I never went looking for just sex because there is so much more between two people than just “sex” I’m sure I’m not the only one to feel this way
I agree, and that's without a doubt what draws readers to your stories. While your sex acts are arousing, your emotional investment is what draws me from one chapter to another, hungering for more.....
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I'm an emotional person who doesn't "see" differences in people based on gender, in someways I guess I'm "gender blind".....I've had a couple of what I would call serious relationships with Trans girls. Serious meaning, I loved them for who they were as people, emotionally, intellectually, and physically. Physically, the fact they still had their males part was not at all the reason I was drawn to them, but I love the melding of the feminine and those parts too...the common rhetoric sometimes is conflicted and from a lack of understanding by many people....
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Curiosity meet the fetishist. Nothing wrong with that, but keep in mind we are people, too. We have feelings and desires, most of us struggle with acceptance - not just from others but ourselves. If all you are looking for is “sex”, I wish you the best of luck. I never went looking for just sex because there is so much more between two people than just “sex” I’m sure I’m not the only one to feel this way
Its curiosity and fetish about the same thing ?
I agree we are all people, I like what I like, I do what I do,
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Okay, I came back to look at this thread in a different way since you are asking for advice. The term you are using “trans” is an umberella term. I can’t speak for transsexuals or transgenders. I’m a Transvestite so my advice comes from that perspective.
You are thinking about sex, I get that. Let me give you a scenario. You come over to my house. All you want is “sex”. Maybe, just maybe I want something a bit more than just sex. What if I wanted to go out in public to dinner with you? Yeah, I’m passable, but I’m not on hormones so my voice is going to give me away if I’m not careful. Are you comfortable with that? If you aren’t willing to go beyond just sex with me, about all you’ll be doing after that will be thinking about it because it will never happen.
Okay, scenarios two. Let’s say we actually did make it to having sex. Cool. You probably did something to impress me. Nothing wrong there, but what if I didn’t want you to leave? What if I wanted you to spend the night and sleep in the same bed with me? Everything’s cool, but I don’t go to sleep wearing makeup. I might be wearing just a satin nightgown or satin pajama’s. Without makeup and a majority of the clothes, I look less feminine. You might be down with that because you’ll think -what the heck, you’re going to be asleep. That’s fine, but you’re going to wake up to that side of me before I spend an hour or so getting dressed again. Most guys are not patient to wait and lose their attraction to some degree until the image is back in place. What I’m saying here is can you deal with the periods between me being partially dressed and totally feminine? If not, sex definitely wouldn’t happen again, because I’m complex yet not difficult to understand.
In your scenario, it sounds like you want to meet for sex, leave, then come back when I’m ready again. That sounds like having a fuck buddy. Some people go for that, but when I’m with someone; I’m with them because I love the person, certainly not for the clothes they’re wearing.
Okay, I’m babbling, but it’s a nice “thought” you have. It wouldn’t go far with me, but I’m only speaking from my experiences as a Transvestite. I no longer have “fetishes” and fantasies. I’ve reached a point to where I’m a fantasy in someone else’s eyes; their fetish.
Sound advice here: I have slept with plenty of guys, some as their first time. It wasn’t bad sex, but I never liked the idea of being a notch in a guy’s bedpost because they wanted to sleep with someone like me. You’ll get further with someone like me if you are willing to get past the clothes I choose to wear and see me as a person and not an object of sexual desire.
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Okay, I came back to look at this thread in a different way since you are asking for advice. The term you are using “trans” is an umberella term. I can’t speak for transsexuals or transgenders. I’m a Transvestite so my advice comes from that perspective.
You are thinking about sex, I get that. Let me give you a scenario. You come over to my house. All you want is “sex”. Maybe, just maybe I want something a bit more than just sex. What if I wanted to go out in public to dinner with you? Yeah, I’m passable, but I’m not on hormones so my voice is going to give me away if I’m not careful. Are you comfortable with that? If you aren’t willing to go beyond just sex with me, about all you’ll be doing after that will be thinking about it because it will never happen.
Okay, scenarios two. Let’s say we actually did make it to having sex. Cool. You probably did something to impress me. Nothing wrong there, but what if I didn’t want you to leave? What if I wanted you to spend the night and sleep in the same bed with me? Everything’s cool, but I don’t go to sleep wearing makeup. I might be wearing just a satin nightgown or satin pajama’s. Without makeup and a majority of the clothes, I look less feminine. You might be down with that because you’ll think -what the heck, you’re going to be asleep. That’s fine, but you’re going to wake up to that side of me before I spend an hour or so getting dressed again. Most guys are not patient to wait and lose their attraction to some degree until the image is back in place. What I’m saying here is can you deal with the periods between me being partially dressed and totally feminine? If not, sex definitely wouldn’t happen again, because I’m complex yet not difficult to understand.
In your scenario, it sounds like you want to meet for sex, leave, then come back when I’m ready again. That sounds like having a fuck buddy. Some people go for that, but when I’m with someone; I’m with them because I love the person, certainly not for the clothes they’re wearing.
Okay, I’m babbling, but it’s a nice “thought” you have. It wouldn’t go far with me, but I’m only speaking from my experiences as a Transvestite. I no longer have “fetishes” and fantasies. I’ve reached a point to where I’m a fantasy in someone else’s eyes; their fetish.
Sound advice here: I have slept with plenty of guys, some as their first time. It wasn’t bad sex, but I never liked the idea of being a notch in a guy’s bedpost because they wanted to sleep with someone like me. You’ll get further with someone like me if you are willing to get past the clothes I choose to wear and see me as a person and not an object of sexual desire.
I waited a day or two before I responded to your post Kant. In a previous post I said....."I'm an emotional person who doesn't "see" differences in people based on gender, in someways I guess I'm "gender blind".....
That's not completely true. I am a very emotional guy. I do see differences, but would rather embrace them than point them out with a label or as a fetish. I said I was gender blind, which I feel may have a selection of realities. I feel I'm "blind" to the differences in people as far as divisive judgement and or politics. But, of course I'm not completely gender bind, I'm attracted to femme males, transvestites, traps, trans girls, all who are different from each other under the "big umbrella," but are thrown in one ignorant collective basket by many in society.
I feel many of us are under educated socially and sexually. We can't admit we might be attracted to a member of our same sex, not generally, but to some unique individual who touches in a special way, and happens to be the same sex as we are. And, if we are, it must be "female" in nature.
I've had a number of relationships in my life. I love females, been married, am married, have children, but I've also been with men. One of my earliest relationships in life was with a transvestite. With all her male trappings, I always thought of her as female, because that's how she defined herself. There were a few more transvestites, but she was a special friend and mentor.
A number of years ago I dated a pre-op trans girl, who is now post-op. We're still amazing friends, and her gender re-assignment is not a deal breaker or maker in our relationship. I would be absolutely lying if I said I did not love her penis. But what I loved the most was how insanely intelligent she was, her humor, and the way she kissed, and yes the sex. But I expect that from my wife. All human things. Sounds simple.
Maybe I'm odd. I don't think someone who is determining a gender choice for their self, is a fetish. And I also think that is were the bizarre rub is and the confusion. I'm speaking from and about the male perspective as I see it. Many men would never date a cross dresser or transvestite. But a cute trap or trans girl with a cock? What's the defining difference in this equation?
