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CuriousThroat2

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Asking for a friend's wife. (The friend just happens to look, talk, act and sound exactly like me, and is also me).

Anyways-- the wife in question whoever she may be-- has never given a blowjob to completion before. She's willing to go down on me, but stops right before. I'd really love to cum in her mouth, but she's terrified. Her points are:

1) She hasn't liked the taste of the precum so far, and is afraid of the taste of a mouthful
2) She thinks she'll gag when it happens and maybe throw up
3) Or the mouth full of it will do the same
4) Because that's her mindset, the very thought of the act repulses her, and if she went though with it, is afraid the evening will end right there with her throwing up, and not wanting to do anything sexy for a long time.

I do completely understand her points, don't want to push her into anything she finds repulsive, and fully admit the only reason to do it is for my benefit. HOWEVER, I feel that she's built it up in her head as such a horrific thing that she'll hate, that she's pre-biased herself, and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But I can't think of any way of helping her to see beyond it. I can't think of any "halfway point" or "baby steps" one could take. You either cum in her mouth or not. Surely it can't be that binary, but I don't know what the in between steps are.

I mean, for me, I would just do it (and would love to). It isn't a waste product. It isn't poisonous or bacteria ridden. I don't taste awful as far as I can judge. It seems to me like it'd be ten seconds of maybe having a not perfect taste in your mouth, certainly less salty than most soups on the market-- a swallow, a smile, and then done-- not to mention I'd be willing to do anything in return for her.

And I'd also be willing to accept that after she tries it once or twice, if it is a truly horrendous experience for her, I wouldn't ask her again. But she has never even tried it yet, and I think that's the worst part of all. Not trying.

So, any advice? How to address her "phobia"? How to build her up to the experience? Or am I completely off base, and even wanting her to try is wrong?
 
CuriousThroat2 said:
Asking for a friend's wife. (The friend just happens to look, talk, act and sound exactly like me, and is also me).

Anyways-- the wife in question whoever she may be-- has never given a blowjob to completion before. She's willing to go down on me, but stops right before. I'd really love to cum in her mouth, but she's terrified. Her points are:

1) She hasn't liked the taste of the precum so far, and is afraid of the taste of a mouthful
2) She thinks she'll gag when it happens and maybe throw up
3) Or the mouth full of it will do the same
4) Because that's her mindset, the very thought of the act repulses her, and if she went though with it, is afraid the evening will end right there with her throwing up, and not wanting to do anything sexy for a long time.

I do completely understand her points, don't want to push her into anything she finds repulsive, and fully admit the only reason to do it is for my benefit. HOWEVER, I feel that she's built it up in her head as such a horrific thing that she'll hate, that she's pre-biased herself, and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But I can't think of any way of helping her to see beyond it. I can't think of any "halfway point" or "baby steps" one could take. You either cum in her mouth or not. Surely it can't be that binary, but I don't know what the in between steps are.

I mean, for me, I would just do it (and would love to). It isn't a waste product. It isn't poisonous or bacteria ridden. I don't taste awful as far as I can judge. It seems to me like it'd be ten seconds of maybe having a not perfect taste in your mouth, certainly less salty than most soups on the market-- a swallow, a smile, and then done-- not to mention I'd be willing to do anything in return for her.

And I'd also be willing to accept that after she tries it once or twice, if it is a truly horrendous experience for her, I wouldn't ask her again. But she has never even tried it yet, and I think that's the worst part of all. Not trying.

So, any advice? How to address her "phobia"? How to build her up to the experience? Or am I completely off base, and even wanting her to try is wrong?
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Get a divorce. They are expensive because they are worth it.
 
An ex girlfriend of mine said her sister had told her, its like taking medicine, hold your breath and swallow quickly.


To me swallowing is over rated, The show is taking it in the mouth then letting it drool down the chin and tits.
 
Garnate said:
Are you giving or receiving the cum here? :confused:
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I think OP is speaking about herself but pretending to be...oh...Idk...a man?

Anyway OP: the things you seem to be scared from catching ejaculation seem to just be the taste and the popping exploding sensation in your mouth. Practice on a can of whip cream or a garden hose with warm H2O like I did when I was a kid and get used to the feeling of a mouthful and a busting or projection or some kinda force in your mouth. It's...really not that bad. Now for the taste, you just have to be aroused by knowing it's a sign of relief and pleasure from your man that you gave him. It's just sperm, girl. A lot of people don't like the taste but most of sex is psychological. I know my girlfriends tell me and I do myself: when you taste it while sucking just keep it in your mouth and keep sucking, it'll spread over his dick and it'll be easier to suck it down, if you don't wanna swallow. Or whatever the issue is.
 
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Kitty92 said:
I think OP is speaking about herself but pretending to be...oh...Idk...a man?

Anyway OP: the things you seem to be scared from catching ejaculation seem to just be the taste and the popping exploding sensation in your mouth. Practice on a can of whip cream or a garden hose with warm H2O like I did when I was a kid and get used to the feeling of a mouthful and a busting or projection or some kinda force in your mouth. It's...really not that bad. Now for the taste, you just have to be aroused by knowing it's a sign of relief and pleasure from your man that you gave him. It's just sperm, girl. A lot of people don't like the taste but most of sex is psychological.
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All sex is physiological. Quit giving bad advice.
 
Felix_Jones said:
All sex is physiological. Quit giving bad advice.
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It's psychological as well. Physiological means the body works independently. Sex is significantly psychological. Pleasure is in the brain. Attraction. Stimuli. Endorphins. There are women who can't expand their vaginas; this is a mental roadblock. Or men who can't get hard. A lot of it is in the blood but also in the brain and the person not relaxing. Ok why am I explaining this to an adult.
 
CuriousThroat2 said:
... no, no that isn't it.

I guess it's my fault for trying to be funny? I'm a man. I am married. It says so in my sig.
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"A friend's wife" "no, it's me." So that makes you the wife...

If you meant you, you should've said, "it's for my wife." Not that it's you. :rolleyes: I didn't read your sig, it didn't catch my eye. Sorry.
 
Kitty92 said:
It's psychological as well. Physiological means the body works independently. Sex is significantly psychological. Pleasure is in the brain. Attraction. Stimuli. Endorphins. There are women who can't expand their vaginas; this is a mental roadblock. Or men who can't get hard. A lot of it is in the blood but also in the brain and the person not relaxing. Ok why am I explaining this to an adult.
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Narcissism.
 
Or like one girlfriend did when I started to cum she deep throated me.

Not my favorite place to cum, but back in the day I found it difficult to complain...;)
 
FGB said:
Or like one girlfriend did when I started to cum she deep throated me.

Not my favorite place to cum, but back in the day I found it difficult to complain...;)
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I agree. She doesn't really need to taste it at all. I cum in my partner's mouth all the time. I'm not sure that she cares one way or the other about how it tastes, but I do know that she likes the feeling of me shooting it straight down her throat. She always has my cock deep in her mouth with the head in to just before she feels like she's choking. When I start cumming, she starts swallowing. It never touches her tongue or her taste buds. When I'm done I pull out, she has a little drink of orange juice and we keep on going. Hope that helps.
 
My guess is the problem would be psychological because no cum I've ever had in my mouth had much taste AT ALL. Easy to swallow, but I'm sure an oral fixation helps.
 
If she doesn't like it though, if already she doesn't like the taste of pre-um, I don't think anything the OP will be told here and which he'll tell her, is going to change her mind.

And if you keep brining the subject up, Curious, she'll only think something like: "Oh no, not again!"
 
It's in her head that she won't like it, which makes it very difficult for you to try it and maybe prove otherwise, it's all psychological as you say she's never tried it, but you can't change that straight away.

I don't know how your sex life is, but is it possible to cum on her tits or belly then maybe pick a bit up on your finger and see if she'll taste a little bit? Or if you don't mind it, kiss her tits so you get some on your lips, then kiss her so that she gets a taste that way? Whichever way you go about it, it has to be baby steps.

As a few people have said, the taste is barely noticeable, in my experiences it just goes straight down like medicine, a quick mouthful of water then carry on.
 
Well, speaking as a gal, I'd say the most important thing is not to pressure her. That's a huge turn-off. If she's that grossed out by it, maybe just let the issue go. I mean, imagine really thinking you're going to puke as a result of doing sexual with/for your partner.

I'm not sure it's totally fair to say to say that YOU would do it for HER--that doesn't mean she owes it to you! (I don't feel like you're saying that or I wouldn't be responding, but I wanted to point out an implication of that line of thought).

Does she want to get over this, or do you want her to get over this? You're getting head already, which is awesome! High five! Help her feel confident and sexy and be appreciative of what she's already doing, and maybe eventually the idea will appeal to her. My two cents!
 
IreneElwood said:
Well, speaking as a gal, I'd say the most important thing is not to pressure her. That's a huge turn-off. If she's that grossed out by it, maybe just let the issue go. I mean, imagine really thinking you're going to puke as a result of doing sexual with/for your partner.

I'm not sure it's totally fair to say to say that YOU would do it for HER--that doesn't mean she owes it to you! (I don't feel like you're saying that or I wouldn't be responding, but I wanted to point out an implication of that line of thought).

Does she want to get over this, or do you want her to get over this? You're getting head already, which is awesome! High five! Help her feel confident and sexy and be appreciative of what she's already doing, and maybe eventually the idea will appeal to her. My two cents!
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Well said Irene. I agree.
 
IreneElwood said:
Well, speaking as a gal, I'd say the most important thing is not to pressure her. That's a huge turn-off. If she's that grossed out by it, maybe just let the issue go. I mean, imagine really thinking you're going to puke as a result of doing sexual with/for your partner.

I'm not sure it's totally fair to say to say that YOU would do it for HER--that doesn't mean she owes it to you! (I don't feel like you're saying that or I wouldn't be responding, but I wanted to point out an implication of that line of thought).

Does she want to get over this, or do you want her to get over this? You're getting head already, which is awesome! High five! Help her feel confident and sexy and be appreciative of what she's already doing, and maybe eventually the idea will appeal to her. My two cents!
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What I said, but much better worded.

If you keep going on about it, Curious, she might stop giving you head because she might get the feeling you won't pull out one day.
 
Orinocoflow has some good tips. Try coming on her body, then pick up a little on your finger and taste it yourself, then see if she's willing to taste it also. IF she's willing to try,by coming deeper in her mouth rather than the front of her mouth like porn shows do, can allow her to avoid tasting it much at all. And she's also free to spit it out if she really doesn't like it.

Unless she's expressing a desire to get over this phobia, I wouldn't push it and stop bringing it up. Otherwise, you're building up the fear that you'll go ahead and cum in her mouth regardless of her wishes. Whether it's your goal or not, you can be breaking down trust and she'll be even more fearful of going down on you and making that phobia even more intimidating, spreading the fear to the act of giving a blow job itself.

If you want to keep experiencing blow jobs, leave the subject alone and respect her wishes. Big deal if you come on another part of her body rather than her mouth. When she's good and ready, she'll bring it up and experiment.
 
Tell her to put her big girls pants on (or take them off).
I've heard making the man drink pineapple juice sweteens it. Hope this helps
 
orinocoflow said:
I don't know how your sex life is, but is it possible to cum on her tits or belly then maybe pick a bit up on your finger and see if she'll taste a little bit? Or if you don't mind it, kiss her tits so you get some on your lips, then kiss her so that she gets a taste that way? Whichever way you go about it, it has to be baby steps.
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That's a good idea. I love cumming on her, and I have no problem with the taste myself. It's a sexy thought, too. Normally I get her off first, then we focus on me. This might be a nice reversal.
 
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