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The beauty of submissive men

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kindlykinky said:
Male submission is definitely a beautiful thing, but the thing is that it comes in many shapes and forms. Erochic, you speak of wanting to get away from stereotypes of what male submission is, yet you speak of enjoying "Control, teasing, service, face sitting" which are all things which generally come to mind when thinking of Female Domme/male sub interactions. (Control, teasing, service more so in D/s as a whole, likely).

Additionally, many of the photos on the Tumblr's featured here (and the photos shared within this thread) are of strong muscular men as the examples of submissive men. So does that mean male submission is only sexy/beautiful if the male is strong/sexy/muscular? Is it only sexy if the male is perceived as being able to physically overpower his female partner but through submission he chooses not to?

The thing about male submission, and I suppose submission in general, is it comes in MANY shapes and forms and should be valued in all of them.

- male submission is a skinny effeminate man who wishes to explore his feminine side with a strong caring woman who embraces him as a whole and helps him explore who he is.

- male submission is a older executive man who desires to submit to a Woman to be controlled and commanded so he can shed the stress of having to be commanding and in control every day.

- male submission is a small quiet man who has always felt women to be the superior sex and wishes to devote his life to serving a Goddess and ensuring she has everything she needs.

- And yes, male submission can be a normal everyday guy who wants to submit to the Domme who enjoys inflicting pain, dressed in latex, and can appear to be a bit vicious. But outside of that stereotypical play, they may have a deep and passionate love for one another and their roles as Domme/sub.

Male submission comes in many different colours and there's undoubtedly Dominant women out there who are drawn to a particular colour within that rainbow as well.

Hopefully I
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pensive - I think Your reply may have gotten messed up a bit in the formatting department :)
 
tributemisty said:
What's with these men that like to wear ladies panties and have you tell them they have a small cock? If you are this sort of man you need to have a long hard look at yourself in the mirror, find your bollocks and man up.

Maybe have a look for some men's pants. There are plenty of places that sell them. Luv Misty xxxxxxx
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It doesn't take long to get from the above intolerant attitude to the belief that - THE WAY I HAVE SEX IS THE ONLY WAY THAT IS NATURAL! EVERY OTHER WAY IS WRONG AND WE SHOULD PASS LAWS TO STOP THOSE FREAKS!

Be careful judging others. When you do so it's easy to forget that others may just be judging you.
 
tributemisty said:
What's with these men that like to wear ladies panties and have you tell them they have a small cock? If you are this sort of man you need to have a long hard look at yourself in the mirror, find your bollocks and man up.

Maybe have a look for some men's pants. There are plenty of places that sell them. Luv Misty xxxxxxx
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What's with these folks that are so insecure in their own gender that they piss themselves at the very idea of someone else doing whatever the hell they want?

Maybe have a look at some boxes if Kleenex if you're gonna cry like a baby about people messing with gender roles. xxxxxxx
 
kindlykinky said:
Male submission is definitely a beautiful thing, but the thing is that it comes in many shapes and forms. Erochic, you speak of wanting to get away from stereotypes of what male submission is, yet you speak of enjoying "Control, teasing, service, face sitting" which are all things which generally come to mind when thinking of Female Domme/male sub interactions. (Control, teasing, service more so in D/s as a whole, likely).

Additionally, many of the photos on the Tumblr's featured here (and the photos shared within this thread) are of strong muscular men as the examples of submissive men. So does that mean male submission is only sexy/beautiful if the male is strong/sexy/muscular? Is it only sexy if the male is perceived as being able to physically overpower his female partner but through submission he chooses not to?

The thing about male submission, and I suppose submission in general, is it comes in MANY shapes and forms and should be valued in all of them.

- male submission is a skinny effeminate man who wishes to explore his feminine side with a strong caring woman who embraces him as a whole and helps him explore who he is.

- male submission is a older executive man who desires to submit to a Woman to be controlled and commanded so he can shed the stress of having to be commanding and in control every day.

- male submission is a small quiet man who has always felt women to be the superior sex and wishes to devote his life to serving a Goddess and ensuring she has everything she needs.

- And yes, male submission can be a normal everyday guy who wants to submit to the Domme who enjoys inflicting pain, dressed in latex, and can appear to be a bit vicious. But outside of that stereotypical play, they may have a deep and passionate love for one another and their roles as Domme/sub.

Male submission comes in many different colours and there's undoubtedly Dominant women out there who are drawn to a particular colour within that rainbow as well.

Hopefully I
Nope, wasn't ram
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A very well-reasoned argument, KK.

Do all submissive men come in all shapes and types: big fat Yeppity yepp. The pictures I've posted here recently are of strong muscular men. I agree with you that it isn't necessarily representative of all submissive men, but it represents my fascination with that dynamic of a strong man choosing to submit himself to a woman's power. So in that way it represents me not all submissive men out there. Sorry, that was my fault.

Perhaps you could search tumblr sites and post pictures of submissive men that don't fall into that category and I'll keep in mind to look for examples of the beauty of submissive men that aren't strong and muscular as well. That way together we can provide a broader spectrum of images (as long as they don't violate Lit's pic posting policy) of all submissive men out there.
 
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Veroe said:
A very well-reasoned argument, KK.

Do all submissive men come in all shapes and types: big fat Yeppity yepp. The pictures I've posted here recently are of strong muscular men. I agree with you that it isn't necessarily representative of all submissive men, but it represents my fascination with that dynamic of a strong man choosing to submit himself to a woman's power. So in that way it represents me not all submissive men out there. Sorry, that was my fault.

Perhaps you could search tumblr sites and post pictures of submissive men that don't fall into that category and I'll keep in mind to look for examples of the beauty of submissive men that aren't strong and muscular as well. That way together we can provide a broader spectrum of images (as long as they don't violate Lit's pic posting policy) of all submissive men out there.
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Appreciate it, Veroe.

I have no real desire to search out and share photos at this time, but can assure you it will be a mixed bag should I feel that urge. Of course, you're free to share whatever you like and am glad you do. My commentary was more that it's easy to speak against one set of stereotypes while at the same time perpetuating a different set.

This is great discussion!
 
KoPilot said:
What's with these folks that are so insecure in their own gender that they piss themselves at the very idea of someone else doing whatever the hell they want?

Maybe have a look at some boxes if Kleenex if you're gonna cry like a baby about people messing with gender roles. xxxxxxx
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"You have a penis, you must be MANLY MAN" ;)
 
kindlykinky said:
Appreciate it, Veroe.

I have no real desire to search out and share photos at this time, but can assure you it will be a mixed bag should I feel that urge. Of course, you're free to share whatever you like and am glad you do. My commentary was more that it's easy to speak against one set of stereotypes while at the same time perpetuating a different set.

This is great discussion!
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Isn't this a great discussion!!
I'm so very happy I started this thread now:)
(I've had a number of PMs from submissive men who are really happy with seeing different views and different images.)

And I really thank you for all your great contributions:)

I think you are absolutely right about the stereotypes. And I think I was guilty of that.
That is also a very good point about the images. Of course a lot of the images on threads are of "beautiful" people ... But we don't want to have too narrow a view of what is beautiful.
My personal preference tends the the smaller, less muscular kind of guy. I also like a kind of strength... But it's more a quiet mental strength. I don't mind doing some fun objectification if someone has been working out, but it's not a prerequisite at all.

So to the guy who said he had to work on his abs - no you don't have to;)
 
Erochic said:
Isn't this a great discussion!!
I'm so very happy I started this thread now:)
(I've had a number of PMs from submissive men who are really happy with seeing different views and different images.)

And I really thank you for all your great contributions:)

I think you are absolutely right about the stereotypes. And I think I was guilty of that.
That is also a very good point about the images. Of course a lot of the images on threads are of "beautiful" people ... But we don't want to have too narrow a view of what is beautiful.
My personal preference tends the the smaller, less muscular kind of guy. I also like a kind of strength... But it's more a quiet mental strength. I don't mind doing some fun objectification if someone has been working out, but it's not a prerequisite at all.

So to the guy who said he had to work on his abs - no you don't have to;)
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Damn.. I already ordered my AbFlex! ;)

Thank-you for your great reply. I like your comment on mental strength too.

Your AV is distracting. :rose:
 
kindlykinky said:
Appreciate it, Veroe.

I have no real desire to search out and share photos at this time, but can assure you it will be a mixed bag should I feel that urge. Of course, you're free to share whatever you like and am glad you do. My commentary was more that it's easy to speak against one set of stereotypes while at the same time perpetuating a different set.

This is great discussion!
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Erochic said:
Isn't this a great discussion!!
I'm so very happy I started this thread now:)
(I've had a number of PMs from submissive men who are really happy with seeing different views and different images.)

And I really thank you for all your great contributions:)

I think you are absolutely right about the stereotypes. And I think I was guilty of that.
That is also a very good point about the images. Of course a lot of the images on threads are of "beautiful" people ... But we don't want to have too narrow a view of what is beautiful.
My personal preference tends the the smaller, less muscular kind of guy. I also like a kind of strength... But it's more a quiet mental strength. I don't mind doing some fun objectification if someone has been working out, but it's not a prerequisite at all.

So to the guy who said he had to work on his abs - no you don't have to;)
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For me I like the contrast of a big guy kneeling before a smaller woman visually and thematically.

I'm afraid I am not coming at this with the practical real world experience as some but what I like in stories I've read.
 
kindlykinky said:
"You have a penis, you must be MANLY MAN" ;)
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Sorry I keep sniping at trolls in the thread when I am neither a sub dude or dom lady, but the celebration of masculine submission and servitude is incredibly valuable to me. :rose:
 
KoPilot said:
Sorry I keep sniping at trolls in the thread when I am neither a sub dude or dom lady, but the celebration of masculine submission and servitude is incredibly valuable to me. :rose:
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I may be wrong but it seems this thread is attracting more trolls than others. Why is that, I wonder?:confused:
 
Veroe said:
I may be wrong but it seems this thread is attracting more trolls than others. Why is that, I wonder?:confused:
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Think about it this way: a woman doing something "manly" is a novelty, but a man doing something "womanly" is a crime against nature.

Aka... it fucks up peoples' ideas of how the world aught to work. :rolleyes:
 
KoPilot said:
Think about it this way: a woman doing something "manly" is a novelty, but a man doing something "womanly" is a crime against nature.

Aka... it fucks up peoples' ideas of how the world aught to work. :rolleyes:
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I hear you. You got that right, KP.

So any male submission thread here is going to attract the haters?:(
 
Much of what has been said he thus far in my opinion, (minus the troll trash) mirrors what I believe in the reverse situation, which is the camp I have resided in until recently. This thread has also served to provoke me into considering other possibilities for myself. Thank you Erochic for starting this thread. The beauty of a relationship between people isn't dependent upon which partner or gender the Dom is. I believe that beauty is contained within the dedication of the partners to one another and to the relationship itself. When the relationship serves only to entertain one or more of the partners, that is where things tend to get off track. Unfortunately, the porn industry has portrayed bdsm to its advantage, which for the most part is skewed from the vision that is presented in this thread. Loving relationships usually aren't what makes money in that arena. Sex sells, so that's what drives the portrayed images and many of the stories I believe. Hence the vast confusion and stereotyping of bdsm in general. People also tend to be afraid of going against the grain, so its easy to adopt the "mob rules" mentality.
I have never even considered taking on the role of the sub, it has never appealed to me until recently. What I have encountered here in this thread is much more than I thought I would. So Thank you to most everyone who has posted here. Please continue!
 
This has been making me think a lot
Erochic, you speak of wanting to get away from stereotypes of what male submission is, yet you speak of enjoying "Control, teasing, service, face sitting" which are all things which generally come to mind when thinking of Female Domme/male sub interactions. (Control, teasing, service more so in D/s as a whole, likely).
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The funny thing is that it took me a while to recognize that's what I want - even though if I look back at things I've enjoyed and the kinds of interactions I've had it's pretty obvious;)
And until recently I never thought of looking for a submissive man... Though I have to say it saves time and effort to know that they are into what I want and the way I want it:D

You see I never thought of what I wanted as Female Dominance - I don't fit the image of what I thought female dominance had to be... I'm not tall and imposing... I'm much more the sweet girl next door. I don't like boots or high heels ... In fact rather than a shoe fetish I have a shoe shopping phobia:D

And the things I want to do... I don't want to do them to punish a guy or something, I want to do them because it feels damn good that way;)
 
Erochic said:
This has been making me think a lot


The funny thing is that it took me a while to recognize that's what I want - even though if I look back at things I've enjoyed and the kinds of interactions I've had it's pretty obvious;)
And until recently I never thought of looking for a submissive man... Though I have to say it saves time and effort to know that they are into what I want and the way I want it:D

You see I never thought of what I wanted as Female Dominance - I don't fit the image of what I thought female dominance had to be... I'm not tall and imposing... I'm much more the sweet girl next door. I don't like boots or high heels ... In fact rather than a shoe fetish I have a shoe shopping phobia:D

And the things I want to do... I don't want to do them to punish a guy or something, I want to do them because it feels damn good that way;)
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And that is exactly the way it should be. Enjoyable. :)
 
Erochic said:
And the things I want to do... I don't want to do them to punish a guy or something, I want to do them because it feels damn good that way;)
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I like this. I feel like a lot of the porny D/s is portrayed as the sub is being punished.. He's bad, he's a bitch, he's worthless. But that's not only what D/s is about. Is there punishment? Absolutely, if the sub has done something to deserve it. But D/s is so much more. It SHOULD be because both parties feel damn good in their roles and like that.
 
I would consider myself submissive. I enjoy lots of the kinky sexual activity with subtle punishment and faux humiliation. However, that isn't really the essence of it.

I would say I am slightly above average in physical size and have been employed in positions of high authority and responsibility. I am used to being in charge and quite able in the role. But I don't want it all the time.

Most people who are not in a position of power tend to think you get to do whatever you want. That is not true at all. With relatively few exceptions people who abuse power or use it selfishly lose it. And the perks of power are often there simply to alleviate the burden. Yes the CEO flies first-class........but she is on the plane 100 days a year and believe me the best seat in first class is still a lot less comfortable than that old recliner in your basement. She has power which she must exercise for the good of everyone else. Someone is always unhappy and blames it on her. When things don't go right she gets the blame. She is the one who lays awake at night wondering if she has done the right things.

I don't want to feel responsible for making decision for other people. The simple act of picking the restaurant is a great kindness extended by my mistress. I'll make the reservation, drive the car and pull out her chair but I don't want to play the game of "guess what will make me happy?" No please just tell me. Give me something tangible and clear on which to focus. Take all the perks and enlist me to provide them. Her gift to me is peace of mind and I'll do anything for her.
 
SlutAddicted said:
I would consider myself submissive. I enjoy lots of the kinky sexual activity with subtle punishment and faux humiliation. However, that isn't really the essence of it.

I would say I am slightly above average in physical size and have been employed in positions of high authority and responsibility. I am used to being in charge and quite able in the role. But I don't want it all the time.

Most people who are not in a position of power tend to think you get to do whatever you want. That is not true at all. With relatively few exceptions people who abuse power or use it selfishly lose it. And the perks of power are often there simply to alleviate the burden. Yes the CEO flies first-class........but she is on the plane 100 days a year and believe me the best seat in first class is still a lot less comfortable than that old recliner in your basement. She has power which she must exercise for the good of everyone else. Someone is always unhappy and blames it on her. When things don't go right she gets the blame. She is the one who lays awake at night wondering if she has done the right things.

I don't want to feel responsible for making decision for other people. The simple act of picking the restaurant is a great kindness extended by my mistress. I'll make the reservation, drive the car and pull out her chair but I don't want to play the game of "guess what will make me happy?" No please just tell me. Give me something tangible and clear on which to focus. Take all the perks and enlist me to provide them. Her gift to me is peace of mind and I'll do anything for her.
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That sounds a lot like my husband. It isn't simply a matter of recognizing his own submissive nature. He has also been in positions of authority enough to conclude that he prefers the opposite. I think that makes him a better submissive because he knows the challenges of leading and tries to be helpful instead of whiny.
 
Erochic said:
This has been making me think a lot


The funny thing is that it took me a while to recognize that's what I want - even though if I look back at things I've enjoyed and the kinds of interactions I've had it's pretty obvious;)
And until recently I never thought of looking for a submissive man... Though I have to say it saves time and effort to know that they are into what I want and the way I want it:D

You see I never thought of what I wanted as Female Dominance - I don't fit the image of what I thought female dominance had to be... I'm not tall and imposing... I'm much more the sweet girl next door. I don't like boots or high heels ... In fact rather than a shoe fetish I have a shoe shopping phobia:D

And the things I want to do... I don't want to do them to punish a guy or something, I want to do them because it feels damn good that way;)
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Amen, sister.
 
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