Bi Married and closeted

I, too, fit this category.

I cannot express to you all how much I associate with the statements you've made in this thread. I also want to thank all of you for sharing, as it helps me realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I feel. :heart:

My wife and I are both in our mid-40's. We've been married for over two decades. We most definitely love each other. Of course our sex life could be better, but the stresses of daily life and her hormone issues definitely have a detrimental impact on it.

Like some of you, I never really thought about cock in my earlier years. I've still never had an attraction to men in general. The thought of kissing, cuddling, etc. does nothing for me. In fact, it is somewhat revolting to me personally. Most of the time I've expressed that opinion other places and have received ridicule. I hate labels, and do not consider myself gay.

Most of my masturbatory fantasies focus on submitting to an older, well-hung, "alpha" male in an oral servitude role. I fantasize about what it would be like to orally service a big cock and large pendulous testicles. To taste the sweetness of another man's precum. To successfully pleasure him while servicing his cock until he ejaculates his seed in my mouth and I have the privilege of swallowing it.

Telling my wife is not an option. She wouldn't understand. She just wouldn't...

There needs to be some kind of private support group for guys like us. A secret society of married, curious cocksuckers. I constantly ache to talk to someone who shares my fantasies, yet no one wants to be open in the "real world" about this when their identities are known.

Please, keep sharing your thoughts, your fantasies, and your ideas on this thread. Or perhaps maybe we could take this elsewhere. Feel free to PM me as well! Regardless, I desperately want to have a group of like-minded me to communicate with.

This turned out a little longer than I intended. Thank you in advance for reading! :rolleyes:
 
Telling my wife is not an option. She wouldn't understand. She just wouldn't...

Yep, in the same boat here too. Sticking my toe into the waters, I told her of a one night stand I had with a guy when I was about 20. She didn't take well to it, but after a few days said if there were anymore instance, she didn't want to know and she'd chalk that one up to "youthful curiosity". She also said that if she had thought I was bi when we meant, she never would have went out with me. She believes in the myth that bisexuals can't hold their end of a long term committed relationship.

So, I've never told her the full story. My ex knew most of it though and has kept that to herself all these years.

Forgot to add: I have that same fantasy about having an alpha male that I could just melt into his arms and let him have me any way he wants. I'm usually the masculine one. But I still have the dreams of a big guy with a very deep voice that makes passionate love to me, fucking my mouth and ass.
 
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I cannot express to you all how much I associate with the statements you've made in this thread. I also want to thank all of you for sharing, as it helps me realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I feel. :heart:

My wife and I are both in our mid-40's. We've been married for over two decades. We most definitely love each other. Of course our sex life could be better, but the stresses of daily life and her hormone issues definitely have a detrimental impact on it.

Like some of you, I never really thought about cock in my earlier years. I've still never had an attraction to men in general. The thought of kissing, cuddling, etc. does nothing for me. In fact, it is somewhat revolting to me personally. Most of the time I've expressed that opinion other places and have received ridicule. I hate labels, and do not consider myself gay.

Most of my masturbatory fantasies focus on submitting to an older, well-hung, "alpha" male in an oral servitude role. I fantasize about what it would be like to orally service a big cock and large pendulous testicles. To taste the sweetness of another man's precum. To successfully pleasure him while servicing his cock until he ejaculates his seed in my mouth and I have the privilege of swallowing it.

Telling my wife is not an option. She wouldn't understand. She just wouldn't...

There needs to be some kind of private support group for guys like us. A secret society of married, curious cocksuckers. I constantly ache to talk to someone who shares my fantasies, yet no one wants to be open in the "real world" about this when their identities are known.

Please, keep sharing your thoughts, your fantasies, and your ideas on this thread. Or perhaps maybe we could take this elsewhere. Feel free to PM me as well! Regardless, I desperately want to have a group of like-minded me to communicate with.

This turned out a little longer than I intended. Thank you in advance for reading! :rolleyes:
You are describing my exact same situation and feelings. Even the same age!
 
How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this
I am 57 bi mwm been married for 36 years.
I do have FWB that we get together 3-4 times a year. We have been friends for 25 years but only FWB for 2 years. We live 5 hours apart. I want to find another trustworthy buddy closer to me but afraid of wife finding out! She can never know, because she would never understand!
 
I am 57 bi mwm been married for 36 years.
I do have FWB that we get together 3-4 times a year. We have been friends for 25 years but only FWB for 2 years. We live 5 hours apart. I want to find another trustworthy buddy closer to me but afraid of wife finding out! She can never know, because she would never understand!

Out of curiosity, how did things start with your FWB? How did the ice get broken? I, too, have a friend of 30+ years but I'm too scared to reveal my "interest" to him.
 
I cannot express to you all how much I associate with the statements you've made in this thread. I also want to thank all of you for sharing, as it helps me realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I feel. :heart:

My wife and I are both in our mid-40's. We've been married for over two decades. We most definitely love each other. Of course our sex life could be better, but the stresses of daily life and her hormone issues definitely have a detrimental impact on it.

Like some of you, I never really thought about cock in my earlier years. I've still never had an attraction to men in general. The thought of kissing, cuddling, etc. does nothing for me. In fact, it is somewhat revolting to me personally. Most of the time I've expressed that opinion other places and have received ridicule. I hate labels, and do not consider myself gay.

Most of my masturbatory fantasies focus on submitting to an older, well-hung, "alpha" male in an oral servitude role. I fantasize about what it would be like to orally service a big cock and large pendulous testicles. To taste the sweetness of another man's precum. To successfully pleasure him while servicing his cock until he ejaculates his seed in my mouth and I have the privilege of swallowing it.

Telling my wife is not an option. She wouldn't understand. She just wouldn't...

There needs to be some kind of private support group for guys like us. A secret society of married, curious cocksuckers. I constantly ache to talk to someone who shares my fantasies, yet no one wants to be open in the "real world" about this when their identities are known.

Please, keep sharing your thoughts, your fantasies, and your ideas on this thread. Or perhaps maybe we could take this elsewhere. Feel free to PM me as well! Regardless, I desperately want to have a group of like-minded me to communicate with.

This turned out a little longer than I intended. Thank you in advance for reading! :rolleyes:

i agree what happens is women once they've been married beyond 10 years let themselves go and lose all interest in sex. i'm early 40's and i believe it starts with all the porn on the net specifically bi and gay porn and it manifests from there also with me more sensitivity to breasts as mine have grown slightly and it is not due to any weight gain 6'0 205lbs also increased errogenous area with the anus.
 
In the same boat. Bi, mwm in the closet.

I'm in the same position as a lot of the men posting here. I have a wife who has lost interest in sex and after many years of viewing porn I began to have an interest in cock. Finally at the age of 34 I acted on that interest and sucked my first cock in an adult bookstore. It's been one long 15 year journey of sucking dick since then. She would never understand so I have to keep that part of my life to myself. It's too bad because I would love to share that activity with her.
 
Seems to be a common theme. I'm same as all the other fantasying and frustrated guys on here. 63yo and craving my first cock in many years.
 
Add me to this list as well. Would love to tell wife but not possible at all.
 
How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this

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I’m not sure if I fit in. I’m 66, been married for 36 years, and our sex life has gone to 0. My fantasy is to have a MFM with my wife and a stranger, and have my wife tell me to suck the other guy’s cock after he fucks her.
 
It would be a VERY long drive, I moved from Syracuse, NY to North Carolina 12 years ago.

I get to Morehead City and Wrightsville Beach now and then... :devil: I am bi, divorced, and pretty much closeted. Would love to have fun at the beach!
 
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I think I'm in the same boat as several folks here. I'm in my early forties and married. I've never been with a guy in person. I think I've had some level of sexual interest in guys for years, but I guess I had never given myself permission to really think about guys sexually. Recently, for whatever reason, I've been thinking about guys more and more, and the result has been some very intense sexual fantasies. More often than not, I think about guys when I jack off these days. I don't know how far this will go - whether I want to do anything in person with a guy, or just keep it virtual - but I want more and more to have some sort of sexual experience with a guy.

I’m pretty similar, just older.
 
Pretty similar here too, with the now Ex, after we played with another Couple, it turned her like crazy seeing it, while it lasted anyway.
 
There needs to be a secret society of married cocksuckers to meet and fulfill their urges with each other. Might make for a good story...
 
There needs to be a secret society of married cocksuckers to meet and fulfill their urges with each other. Might make for a good story...

Certainly will make a good story - but even a better real life network!

I find myself very often perusing the ads on craigslist, but find most of them distasteful (no pun intended) and those that do spark an interest have different schedules or live far away!

Can't we just plan some group fishing trip in the mountains of Montana??? Oh, that's already a movie... :rolleyes:
 
yes something, at least those who have taken the plunge tell us about it.do not those of us who dress also
 
I lived an active bisexual lifestyle for 2 yrs. I like the idea of a secret gathering of married bi curious (curious Again) meeting....
 
I think I'm in the same boat as several folks here. I'm in my early forties and married. I've never been with a guy in person. I think I've had some level of sexual interest in guys for years, but I guess I had never given myself permission to really think about guys sexually. Recently, for whatever reason, I've been thinking about guys more and more, and the result has been some very intense sexual fantasies. More often than not, I think about guys when I jack off these days. I don't know how far this will go - whether I want to do anything in person with a guy, or just keep it virtual - but I want more and more to have some sort of sexual experience with a guy.
ditto
 

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