The Last Thing You Thought...

Light Ice said:

I stand behind it. Of course, if people are going to justify lying to their real spouses for the sake of their E-spouses, I'd like to throw scumbag into the mix, too.

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grant_s said:

What makes you think they are lying, I know couples, who sit and have fun on Lit, and read each others posts

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dragonrazor said:

No, it just goes back to the most important point of the internet. It's the internet. No one's opinion matters, not even one's own. That's something you and LI still seem to need to learn.

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grant_s said:

Then how do you justify you statement, you know nothing of the people on the other side of the computer, and yes, Dragon is right, a lot of couples get off reading each others posts.

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dragonrazor said:

Let's see. Reviewing instructions for basic forum use again. "If you don't like what someone says, don't read. If that doesn't work, click Ignore User." Right then...

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Light Ice said:

Wow. You don't even know what I said or why you have a problem with it, do you?

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grant_s said:

And without mentioning names, if you have a partner off the computer and claim to love someone here? What's that say about how you value your partner? What's that say about your perspective and appreciation? What's that say about your maturity and understanding?

Okay. You saying that if you in a relationship, and you claim to have a partner on lit, the value of the relationship in the RW is in question. Now, I pointed out that there are couples that read each others posts and get off on it, then you decide to exclude them, but how do you know who and what the relationship these couples have in the RW.
For example, they may be married, but only staying together for the sake of children, or, family pressure.

My biggest problem is that you lump everyone under one umbrella, and call us all names, How dare you? Are you perfect, does your crap smell like baked bread that you can point fingers. I know I am not perfect, so what, I am who I am

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Britwitch said:

Honestly, the last thing I thought was... "NO, I don't and I don't want to be 'lumped in' with those that do as this is a topic that touches a nerve with me but if I say this I'm going to get a mouthful from those that do agree with him. I must be monster for having my own opinion."

You all accuse LI and Ahren of bullying but there is more than an element of mob mentality to those of you that jump on everything they say because it's not what you personally think.
They shouldn't judge, fine, neither should you.

Sticking up for friends is great, if someone attacks someone you like for no good reason then by all means, go at it. But just because someone makes a comment that, personally, they don't agree with your 'friend'...this is not an attack. It's a statement of opinion. Nothing more. Answering back on the defensive is what turns passing comments into fights like these.

And...statements like these...



...what impression do you think that gives off...? Do you not think it smacks a little of we're right, you're wrong. Oh yes, very mature given that's what you accuse LI and Ahren of doing on a regular basis. By this theory, am I to take it that my opinion doesn't matter? It might not matter to you, but it matters to me. And people who harp on about there being 'people behind the personas' should remember this.

Personally, I don't agree with Grant's sentiments. While I don't agree completely with what LI has posted, there are elements I have to agree with. Yes, online relationships can and do lead to real life commitments and friendships that last a life time. Heck, I'm attending a friend's wedding in the summer and, yep, they met online. But then they met offline. I'll say that again. They met offline.

I personally believe and will maintain that you can't love someone until you meet them, spend time with them, face the highs and lows with them in real life.
Yes I have friends here and in other online places that I care about, a lot about, who I don't like to see low, who I would try to help if I thought I could. I think lots of people do and that's awesome.

But...romantic online relationships that are just that, interactions online (and with that I include relationships that are conducted via the phone, via messenger and via email without meeting in real life) might make you feel good, being able to be lovey dovey when it suits, to have someone give you a compliment whenever you want one will probably make you feel very special, but, to me...they're not real...

And I think they are kidding themselves if they think differently. My husband and I face the good times and bad, we have arguments and disappointments to go with all the good stuff. In my eyes people that have online relationships can avoid all that.

Now I know, you're going to tell me I can't judge other people by my standards and I'm not. I haven't named names. I'm just giving my opinion.

Read it or not, agree with it or not, that's your choice but I am entitled to give it.

And now, the last thing I thought was..."Jesus I've typed a lot...breakfast is needed, and it's needed now!"

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Alana_ said:

My last thought..I admire Brit most of all here.

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Alana_ said:

My last thought..I admire Brit most of all here.

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Light Ice said:

She certainly blends many wonderful elements together perfectly.

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Britwitch said:

My last thought was that I thought I had obviously wasted my time posting earlier...but then again it made me feel better to say what I did even if it was ignored and belittled by Dragon to whom I addressed a couple of questions and was hoping to get an answer from and was misunderstood, I think, by Grant given that I specified my 'issue' was people who claim to have romantic relationships online as I feel it's a poor imitation of the real thing. I have no issue with online friendships and would like to think I have a fair few around here and the marriage I mentioned was to prove my point that people have to meet for such things to be real and to work...ah well...such is the wondrous world of the interweb...



Thanks Lady



...you smoothie...

And most recent thought... Mmmm, Twix...

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Light Ice said:

Wow, this is something. So, basically, right and wrong are entirely subjective. Right? So, because those people aren't happy its TOTALLY fine if one of them is being dishonest. And further, according to you, nobody should judge anyone right?


Well, fuck that noise. Lying is bad. Cheating on your partner is bad. Hiding your online perving from your partner is dishonest. Claiming you love someone you've never met is stupid. Claiming you love someone you've never met as much or more than your actual partner is disrespectful and retarded.

I don't see how right and wrong are wholly subjective.

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