So, I have questions for experienced people.
A little bit about myself to start off.
I'm a 25 year old heterosexual male, in a relationship with a pan sexual female. We have been talking recently about kinks and other interests we have. I am rather inexperience by comparison having only been intimate with about 10 women, while she has been with upwards of 30 plus. That puts a big difference between us experience wise. She is firmly established as a submissive. But I personally have never been with any partners willing to try any of my kinks. I am from what i can tell, a bit of an exhibitionist, or voyeur. But again these are things that I feel inclined to try, but have yet to experience them. When in the bedroom, I am the type to do whatever it takes to please the partner whether I get reciprocation or not. As I am in most cases however, I respect my partner the utmost, and would not normally do something like slap her in the face for example. But having done that a couple times and receiving a positive response from her, I get a positive reaction myself. I thoroughly enjoy doing things to her that fulfill her kinks. As said before though, my sexual experience is almost exclusively vanilla. I am trying to experience new and different things with her, and she is my first partner willing to do so. I feel very confused and conflicted however, I took a test as she told me to, to find out where I might fall into different categories. But I feel like the test is not the end all- be all law to what I am in this regard, using my previous example of doing something that I would never do normally, but at the time of doing it I enjoyed it because it was satisfying to her, not because I get off on slapping her. But it was my idea as I was just improvising at the time. So where do I go from here? I don't know really a good way to classify my desires based on the test below, because I haven't had experiences to find out whether I like it or hate it. Sorry for the long post, but I have been thinking this through for a few weeks without any outside opinions. Any insight is helpful as always.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
94% Voyeur
84% Exhibitionist
76% Vanilla
74% Switch
65% Experimentalist
60% Submissive
57% Rigger
56% Rope bunny
55% Dominant
46% Non-monogamist
42% Daddy/Mommy
39% Slave
13% Brat
5% Primal (Hunter)
4% Pet
2% Ageplayer
1% Boy/Girl
1% Degradee
1% Master/Mistress
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Masochist
0% Degrader
0% Owner
0% Sadist
A little bit about myself to start off.
I'm a 25 year old heterosexual male, in a relationship with a pan sexual female. We have been talking recently about kinks and other interests we have. I am rather inexperience by comparison having only been intimate with about 10 women, while she has been with upwards of 30 plus. That puts a big difference between us experience wise. She is firmly established as a submissive. But I personally have never been with any partners willing to try any of my kinks. I am from what i can tell, a bit of an exhibitionist, or voyeur. But again these are things that I feel inclined to try, but have yet to experience them. When in the bedroom, I am the type to do whatever it takes to please the partner whether I get reciprocation or not. As I am in most cases however, I respect my partner the utmost, and would not normally do something like slap her in the face for example. But having done that a couple times and receiving a positive response from her, I get a positive reaction myself. I thoroughly enjoy doing things to her that fulfill her kinks. As said before though, my sexual experience is almost exclusively vanilla. I am trying to experience new and different things with her, and she is my first partner willing to do so. I feel very confused and conflicted however, I took a test as she told me to, to find out where I might fall into different categories. But I feel like the test is not the end all- be all law to what I am in this regard, using my previous example of doing something that I would never do normally, but at the time of doing it I enjoyed it because it was satisfying to her, not because I get off on slapping her. But it was my idea as I was just improvising at the time. So where do I go from here? I don't know really a good way to classify my desires based on the test below, because I haven't had experiences to find out whether I like it or hate it. Sorry for the long post, but I have been thinking this through for a few weeks without any outside opinions. Any insight is helpful as always.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
94% Voyeur
84% Exhibitionist
76% Vanilla
74% Switch
65% Experimentalist
60% Submissive
57% Rigger
56% Rope bunny
55% Dominant
46% Non-monogamist
42% Daddy/Mommy
39% Slave
13% Brat
5% Primal (Hunter)
4% Pet
2% Ageplayer
1% Boy/Girl
1% Degradee
1% Master/Mistress
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Masochist
0% Degrader
0% Owner
0% Sadist