Finding out a co worker is bi

Despite my wife renewing her interest in sex I'm still looking for meetings with guys. My wife still doesn't know about my bi side as she would not approve. I was looking on a site earlier today and I got chatting to a guy who was about 15 miles away. We chatted about what we like and although he was fairly new to this he had some experience with guys. He then said he was on here as his wife was keen to watch him with a guy.

He sent me a pic and I couldn't believe that I knew him. I used to work with him up to a few months ago until I moved departments. He is younger than me and in his mid 30's. I have only had this once before and just told the guy I wasn't interested. This time I messaged back and said it wouldn't be a good idea as I knew him. I didn't say where from though, he went offline straight away . I thought that would be the end of it.

I got a message a few minutes ago from him, he suggested meeting as we both wanted the same thing and we also want to be discreet. I told him I would think about it and get back to him. It sounds tempting especially if his wife wants a 3some. But I'm not sure how I would feel meeting somebody I know.

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Definitely a tough question! He has a point in the fact that you're both wanting the same thing.

Personally I think that I might prefer it that way. I guess it would be a little strange that instead of standing around chatting at the water cooler you would want to be getting naked and doing things with each other.
My dad had a cousin that was gay and everyone knew it. One day while I was on Silver Daddies I saw his profile that had a picture of him naked. If I would have lived closer I might have made a visit or two or three or.......

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nexttome said:

Have you had any experience or desire

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I have been sucked off a few times, but want so much more. I am looking for a friend/partner who I can explore all of these thoughts I have. Definitely looking to enjoy totally uninhibited sex with another man.

Carling229 said:

Despite my wife renewing her interest in sex I'm still looking for meetings with guys. My wife still doesn't know about my bi side as she would not approve. I was looking on a site earlier today and I got chatting to a guy who was about 15 miles away. We chatted about what we like and although he was fairly new to this he had some experience with guys. He then said he was on here as his wife was keen to watch him with a guy.

He sent me a pic and I couldn't believe that I knew him. I used to work with him up to a few months ago until I moved departments. He is younger than me and in his mid 30's. I have only had this once before and just told the guy I wasn't interested. This time I messaged back and said it wouldn't be a good idea as I knew him. I didn't say where from though, he went offline straight away . I thought that would be the end of it.

I got a message a few minutes ago from him, he suggested meeting as we both wanted the same thing and we also want to be discreet. I told him I would think about it and get back to him. It sounds tempting especially if his wife wants a 3some. But I'm not sure how I would feel meeting somebody I know.

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I would jump at that chance!

I'm more inclined to have sex with someone I know than strangers.

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joelafayette said:

I know we're not supposed to pass moral judgment, but I have to because it's relevant. Your wife not knowing or approving is a big issue. Whether or not the guy you want to bang knew you way back is much less important. It's only important to the extent that this will get back to your wife and really embarrass you.

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That would be a concern of mine too. It's one thing to throw the word "discreet" out there, but I'd be nervous about things taking a turn and having her find out. I guess this is why I'm so hesitant to actually go through with my fantasies. My guilty conscience always gets the best of me.

Finding a coworker is bi
Seams it will make a friendship that much easier, hangout, activites, sex and the misses wouldn't know you have
swimmers in your stomach...

I had a barracks room mate in the late 70s who was gay and I'm bi. It worked out well for us, but we were both single.

thongpanty said:

Finding a coworker is bi
Seams it will make a friendship that much easier, hangout, activites, sex and the misses wouldn't know you have
swimmers in your stomach...

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May have accidentally stumbled upon such a scenario. A guy on another site, local, looking for a suck and stroke buddy.

Turns out we work at the same place.

Could make things easier.

thongpanty said:

Finding a coworker is bi
Seams it will make a friendship that much easier, hangout, activites, sex and the misses wouldn't know you have
swimmers in your stomach...

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May have accidentally stumbled upon such a scenario. A guy on another site, local, looking for a suck and stroke buddy.

Turns out we work at the same place.

Could make things easier.

newhere2learn said:

May have accidentally stumbled upon such a scenario. A guy on another site, local, looking for a suck and stroke buddy.

Turns out we work at the same place.

Could make things easier.

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That could become an interesting and rewarding situation.

Meeting someone that you already know would be the ideal situation, I would think.
You already know you share the same interests.

I understand why you woudn't want to.
In my situation it would be ideal as I'd be able to justify spending time at a co-workers place without arousing (haha) suspicion.

I'd go for it. You're both in the same boat. Wanting the m2m experience. Both looking for discretion. Depending on the other guys character (trusting or not so much) it would seem a better choice than someone you didn't know from Adam. I'd at least give it a try and meet him/them and see if the chemistry is there. If you hit off, it could be the perfect scenario.
Good luck and post back your decision and outcum!

blowit said:

That could become an interesting and rewarding situation.

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One lives in hope

As a married man in a similar position I know the dilemma. I'm not sure what I'd do in your position. I got to know an American guy online who just happened to move to the UK with his wife.. about 5 miles from me. But after chatting a while longer he said he couldn't go through with anything sexual.

newhere2learn said:

One lives in hope

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That's two lives in hope lol.

blowit said:

That's two lives in hope lol.

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I would feel more comfortable playing with a guy that I knew. You would not have to worry about any disease or anything like that. He would also want to keep it quiet so you would not have to worry about that. I say take the opportunity and get his hard cock in your mouth

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I'd have to agree. He's about as known of a quantity as you'll find. If you think he's attractive enough both in looks and personality, then I'd pursue it.
I think about all the men I've known who'd have entertained a conversation like that and there are definitely a few I should have confided in.
You've got yourself a nice opportunity...

load69 said:

I would feel more comfortable playing with a guy that I knew. You would not have to worry about any disease or anything like that. He would also want to keep it quiet so you would not have to worry about that. I say take the opportunity and get his hard cock in your mouth

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Perfect scenario in my opinion.

The BI friend at work

Back when I was in my mid-thirties, I discovered one of the guys who worked in the same area as me was bi. We were both married at the time and basically became almost friends first. We didn't work in the same job, but we saw each other fairly frequently and were of similar age and became friendly. This was about 1994 or so and personal computers were something that he and I would tinker with from time to time. He invited me over to his house to check out his computer stuff one afternoon right after work, and of course we started watching some sexual mpegs he had on his system. One of them popped up and it was two men having anal sex. He rushed to shut it down quickly, but I had seen enough and told him I had no problems with it. Since his wife was gone until later in the evening, we decided to try it ourselves and had a great time. For the next five years, off and on, we got together when we could to indulge ourselves in man to man sex and it was wonderful. Then, he and his family had to move across the country.

Last week, I discovered he was back in town by seeing him at Walmart. We were both shocked and happy to see each other! We shook hands and hugged and caught up some. His marriage had finally ended after over thirty years. His wife decided she wanted to move on to different things, and he had no problem with it. So, he had moved back "home" and was alone for the time being. He invited me over to his apartment to catch-up some more and I accepted gladly! Once there, our conversation gravitated back to our days of being sexual together and he told me he thought about it all the time. (I do too!) The last time we were together was late in 1999, and we are both somewhat older and fatter, but we decided to try again, even though we're both in our fifties now.

I was always the bottom in our relationship and nothing had changed, except the need for him to take part of a Viagra in advance. Once we were naked together, it felt like we were the last two pieces missing from a puzzle that was years in the making. We hugged and kissed and laughed about how different we looked now. Eventually, I was on my back and he was on top of me, between my legs, looking down at me just like he had so many times all those years ago. When he entered me, I felt like laughing and crying at the same time. As our bodies became one, I felt my legs encircle his back, right above his butt, and felt my ass contracting each time he thrust inside me. Every deep thrust made me whimper and hold him tighter, until I felt him go stiff all over, and I felt the familiar warmth and wetness of his hot seed deep inside me. As his mouth found mine for a deep kiss, I felt my cock throb and release hot cum between our bellies.