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And it isn't only other men you "compete" with her. I have a firm belief that many of the women here really just want another woman's ear to talk about their ideas, life struggles and fantasies with. No man needed. So with a 100 to 1 male to female ratio and that, it's rough.
I'm a woman and I have zero interest in talking to other women here.
I agree, it is a lot of fun. very interesting people from varied backgrounds coming together. that's always a wonderful thing.
if you do send random PMs and such, remember that friends are well worth the effort to make sure you stand out from the crowd.
I think making the effort is important. Most messages are just asking if I want to play or a simple "hi". If that's the level of energy being put forth in an introduction then it's never going forward.
I can’t see pouring so much energy into a message to a woman or guy for that matter if it’s your thing only to get ignored or a no. I love to have a conversation, if I bore you then, at least I had a shot. My thoughts.Do you think that initial messages may be reduced because people get tired of writing an in-depth message that never receives a response?
How many times have you written a "long" introduction message and never gotten a response, when that happens do you feel less inclined to write a lot, and just put out quick "feelers"?
I can’t see pouring so much energy into a message to a woman or guy for that matter if it’s your thing only to get ignored or a no. I love to have a conversation, if I bore you then, at least I had a shot. My thoughts.
I kinda figure if they are into you like you are them they are checking the box regularly. I sent a message and saw the person online I know they didn’t replyHow long do you wait for a response before you delete a message you sent from your sent box? And, do you check to see if that person has been online since you sent it? Does that effect whether you delete it or not?
If you get a message that is just a simple hello, "Hi there." do you respond or just delete it?
I guess some folk figure that it's a huge internet out there, so they can be more picky here than in real life. I have some irl friends, and even exes from lit, and except for one, I would not trade those experiences for anything. I get deleting "Hey babe, wanna fuck" but being offended by just a simple "hello" or "greetings" is a bit ridiculous. Some of us work HARD during the day, and still have things to do around the house after work. If I take the time, after all that, and a simple greeting is beneath you, then it is your loss.
Most folks on here are great, given the chance, but others really need to check their expectations. Since my last ex, I hardly am on anymore. I met a wonderful woman, and we are getting married next month. The only think I look for on here anymore is to catch up with a few friends, and maybe find a willing female for the occasional 3way.
Do you think that initial messages may be reduced because people get tired of writing an in-depth message that never receives a response?
How many times have you written a "long" introduction message and never gotten a response, when that happens do you feel less inclined to write a lot, and just put out quick "feelers"?
How about the other side of the spectrum, you have someone that you talk to a lot. 4 or 5 messages a day, a good conversation going. What does the temptation to look at your page every 5 minutes do? Do you become obsessed with looking to see if they have responded?
I guess it can be bad to have a friend here and god at the same time. Always hoping to hear from them, being nervous for them when you know something bad is near them.
Just random thoughts.
How long do you wait for a response before you delete a message you sent from your sent box? And, do you check to see if that person has been online since you sent it? Does that effect whether you delete it or not?
If you get a message that is just a simple hello, "Hi there." do you respond or just delete it?
So the expectations of an on-line connection is handicapped because of the high amount of people that are here.
I have seen in profiles "If you have less than 1,000 posts don't bother saying hello." Is that an understandable demand or a far fetched one?
How often do you think the worse when you do not hear from someone you have been talking to for some time? When there is sudden radio silence and your pretty sure you are not being ghosted?
If you receive a message and the sender has no posts, no profile and well, they wouldn't have profile pic, are you less likely to reply?
How many "good" conversations can you have on here at once? Is it possible to have more than 10 people that you keep up with?
I guess ghosting doesn't really bother me so much unless it was someone I was talking to for a while. Then it might.