Gil_T2
KICK ASS !
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bertrande said:I posted here a long time ago....maybe close to 2 years give or take a month or two....
I had suffered abuse as a child from a health professional - one who used hypnotyism as part of his treatment....to cut a long story short one particular day I didn't end up hypnotised to blank everything out, yet I wasn't aware enough to stop what he did...I was only 12 years old.
I have posted long and hard about this in the past as I have said, and I thought I had dealt with it all...............but I found myself in a situation some 28 years later where a 'friends' husband tried it on......she stumbled across him trying to get me to give him oral sex.....I wasn't screaming, but I wasn't willing, I was in shock....she walked out at just the right time to catch him trying...
Of course I am the worst person in the world...in her perception I was willingly giving him a blow job - a minute later and she would have seen me saying 'no fucking way mate'....
Since that day just over a week ago..I have been subjected to total humiliation, like waking up and finding 'cock sucker' written all over my car...just in time to drive my kids to school... and her sister screaming abuse at me in my work place...
I am writing the whole thing off as a really bad drunken night on her husbands behalf...cos we had all had a crap load to drink...and to smoke....I in all honestly don't believe him to be a rapist as such...
My major problem is that I find myself as a victim again....and even in this day and age the victim is often the one who receives the shit treatment...I am the one everyone believes is the perpertrator....I am the one who is getting harassed by the wife......he seems to have gotten away with it....If she could write it off as a drunken mistake on his behalf, it would be a bit wierd for a while....and in the same token I could probably cope with the forcing aspect...but she isn't letting it go....but as I said - I am not the victim (in her eyes) but the perpertrator. I am the one that our workmates aren't talking to....At this point I haven't repeated the whole facts to everyone either....cos who would believe me....not very many I am finding...
Life is a bit shitty at the moment....although the man in my life is very understanding and a great support...but aside from that I wonder everyday what the wife is going to do next...
I find myself abused by the husband ...........and the wife...
Bertrande as a person who has met you I totally believe what you have posted as what you are accused of isn't the lady I met at all.
As for the blame by the wife this is all to common as they don't want to believe the fact that hubby is a waste of space cheater, I have seen this happen between some of my friends years ago & wasn't till someone took her to where he was having sex with yet another female but still blamed that female for it too, we had to sit her down & make her face what HE was doing.
I agree with Noor too about speaking up on this as it sounds that it will only escalate till it becomes dangerours for you.
I see you on chat often so if you want to chat or even vent to let off some stress just say Hi.