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my husband told me he thinks it hot to be called Daddy during Playtime ;) which means sex in our house lmao but im not much of a talker or dirty talker during sex so i am not sure how to get him turned on by calling him Daddy? i really could use some advice PLZZZ lol
 
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Goldenfire said:
Hmm.. How long you been married?
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well about 1 year this month :) but he has always been shy i was his first so he inst that knowledgeable on what he likes kinky wise at least he is starting to come out of his shell a little more ive noticed since i told him my fantasy's and stuff i guess he feels less embarrassed about it.
 
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my husband told me he thinks it hot to be called Daddy during Playtime ;) which means sex in our house lmao but im not much of a talker or dirty talker during sex so i am not sure how to get him turned on by calling him Daddy? i really could use some advice PLZZZ lol
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Don't feel bad nither am i. My fiance is awesome at the dirty talk thing he has one of those deep masculine voices, because he's an older man, I hate it when he gets right in my ear, because at that point alot of women lose control. But with me I just lay there and pretend i'm listening to a porn and I make funny jokes. He hates it but I crack him up. I always have the power stick in the end. He hates that i'm not open to incest ideas about my father, I draw the line at sex with women. I'll only dance with them, let them watch, and occasionally make out with them, and go shopping with them on my lunch hour. But I will never go all the way.

That's kindof what Bi-curios is, it's a sexual peferance. And so is sub, dom, and switch.

I refuse the bottom role in any area of my life. Sense i'm going to be working for a marketing company and working my way to the top. And still working my HEB cashier job on the weekends I don't need to talk dirty. I just, "Act dirty ;)" Which speaks louder then words.

I don't need to work my way to the top in the bedroom do I? Heck no! lol
 
Maybe start calling him it in less charges situations at first. During light foreplay, or when you're asking him to get you something. It can start out as something that makes both of you giggle, even. But once you start saying it, it'll become a lot less embarrassing, and become much easier to use when things are hotter and heavier.
 
I think "daddy" is hot to hear. Getting used to talking during sex does take some concentration. You have to force yourself to say lines even though it feels stupid and awkward for a while.:eek:

"Daddy, that feels so good!" "Daddy, stop please" (which is not a safe word) "yeah, daddy," "come on, daddy.."
 
IrisAlthea said:
It's the new telegram style.

STILL LOVE YOU MADLY STOP WILL RETURN SHORTLY STOP

is now going to be

ur hot lol brb lol

Who said romance is dead?
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That would be so funny if it wasnt too close to the truth.

Actually it is funny, I snorted my coffee.
Do they ever realize how stupid they sound?
 
StrayKat said:
That would be so funny if it wasnt too close to the truth.

Actually it is funny, I snorted my coffee.
Do they ever realize how stupid they sound?
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Agree wholeheartedly. Everyone hates my texts because I insist upon using complete words and sentences and, get, this, punctuation. The single-letter response "k" makes my brain bleed. It's even worse when it's used in verbal conversation, though. I had to ban textspeak in my house after my kids started speaking in acronyms.

But, back to the OP and topic at hand. My husband hasn't asked me to call him Daddy, but he does like it when I talk dirty. It can be really ackward and unnatural for me, but I am getting more used to it and seeing/hearing his response makes any discomfort worth it.
 
I've never been called "daddy", but I think it would be hot.

As for dirty talk, it all depends on the person. I knew one lady who was totally offended by it; I know another that practically demands it.

Like everything else involved with good sex, it all starts with communication. If you want your partner to talk dirty, ask them to do so.

As so often is the case, it may turn out that they've always wanted to, but didn't because they thought YOU wouldn't like it...
 
fun_size_sub said:
Agree wholeheartedly. Everyone hates my texts because I insist upon using complete words and sentences and, get, this, punctuation. The single-letter response "k" makes my brain bleed. It's even worse when it's used in verbal conversation, though. I had to ban textspeak in my house after my kids started speaking in acronyms.
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I am not English. English is supposed to be my 3rd language.
Yet I take pride in writing properly and I get very annoyed when I see people native to it butcher it. It feels like they are pissing on all that time and effort I invested to be able to communicate with them.

I make an exception when I game, if I dont use voice chat and have to type, it gets a bit awkward to type a proper sentence in the heat of the battle. And it is really expected to use abbreviations then.

And I do it sometimes when I want to be annoying. Nothing can get one of my Dutch friends so bent out of shape like when I answer his long message with "k lol". But that is a deliberate tease. Normally I do my best to type properly and I expect nothing less from somebody who wants to communicate with me.
 
BurningMonkey said:
Like everything else involved with good sex, it all starts with communication. If you want your partner to talk dirty, ask them to do so.

As so often is the case, it may turn out that they've always wanted to, but didn't because they thought YOU wouldn't like it...
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This^^^^. I love being on the receiving end of dirty talk, but always hesitated to talk dirty myself. I was fearful of sounding and saying something stupid. My husband sort of guided me into it by asking questions--e.g, "Does that feel good?" and "Tell me where you want me to come." If I refused to answer, he refused to continue until I did respond.

kitten, perhaps you can ask your husband to try guiding you by referring to himself as "daddy" either in statement or comment form and you can respond in kind. In time it should start to feel more natural. e.g., He could ask you, "Do you want daddy to..." or "Do you you like it when daddy..." and you could respond with "Yes, daddy, please..." or "I love it when daddy..."

I hope that makes sense and maybe helps.
 
kitten, perhaps you can ask your husband to try guiding you by referring to himself as "daddy" either in statement or comment form and you can respond in kind. In time it should start to feel more natural. e.g., He could ask you, "Do you want daddy to..." or "Do you you like it when daddy..." and you could respond with "Yes, daddy, please..." or "I love it when daddy..."
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That's a great tactic. I'm going to try it! :D
 
Stella_Omega said:
That's a great tactic. I'm going to try it! :D
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Thank you. Sometimes it's easier at first to be the responder than the initiator, especially when it's something the other person requests. It also allows the originator of the idea to demonstrate how and in what context s/he finds the words, etc hot. I might say it one way, thinking that's what my partner wants to hear, but I might not even be in the ballpark. Hope that makes sense.
 
fun_size_sub said:
Thank you. Sometimes it's easier at first to be the responder than the initiator, especially when it's something the other person requests. It also allows the originator of the idea to demonstrate how and in what context s/he finds the words, etc hot. I might say it one way, thinking that's what my partner wants to hear, but I might not even be in the ballpark. Hope that makes sense.
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Absolutely it does. it would work both ways, too, if you are a bottom or submissive that wants your buttons pushed a particular way.

Wish I'd thought of this about thirty years ago:eek:
 
Stella_Omega said:
Absolutely it does. it would work both ways, too, if you are a bottom or submissive that wants your buttons pushed a particular way.

Wish I'd thought of this about thirty years ago:eek:
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That is sort of what's happening with me and my still-mostly-vanilla husband. I want to be careful not to top from the bottom, but D/s is still a relatively foreign concept to him in many ways and I can't except him to guess my needs. Any advice on that would be welcome, but possibly better addressed in its own thread. Minor victory today, though: I was still half asleep when he was getting ready for work, but I was sure I heard a couple of my dresser doors open and close. When he kissed me goodbye, he told me that he'd left out a couple items that he wants me to wear to bed tonight. I almost squealed with glee.
 
fun_size_sub said:
That is sort of what's happening with me and my still-mostly-vanilla husband. I want to be careful not to top from the bottom, but D/s is still a relatively foreign concept to him in many ways and I can't except him to guess my needs. Any advice on that would be welcome, but possibly better addressed in its own thread. Minor victory today, though: I was still half asleep when he was getting ready for work, but I was sure I heard a couple of my dresser doors open and close. When he kissed me goodbye, he told me that he'd left out a couple items that he wants me to wear to bed tonight. I almost squealed with glee.
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IMO, "topping from the bottom" has a bad rap that it doesn't deserve, and also is a wee bit 'o oxymoron. Have you read the essay linked in my signature? :cattail:
 
Stella_Omega said:
IMO, "topping from the bottom" has a bad rap that it doesn't deserve, and also is a wee bit 'o oxymoron. Have you read the essay linked in my signature? :cattail:
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Was about to ask what exactly is wrong with topping from the bottom.
But then I thought maybe I better stay quiet :D
 
Stella_Omega said:
:kiss:
I lay into complete strangers about that one. :eek:
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I didn't mean to open a can of worms and start a debate with that comment. And, yes, Stella, I did read your esaay and have been planning to ask my husband to read it because I think it's a great source of information, especially in regard to the place in which we currently find ourselves. I don't have any intrinsic issues with topping from the bottom and I am sure that my husband will want me to still top from the top sometimes, but I truly hope we reach a place where he can fulfill my needs without me having to direct his every move. I hope that makes sense and doesn't create more discord. One of the things I really love about this place is how different everyone incorporates BDSM into their lives. I am learning a lot. Realistic resources seemed hard to come by even 14-16 years ago, when I first tried to raise my submissive needs with my husband. It's probably why I gave up for so long.
 
I don't think this can go very far but I do get the idea
 
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I have a hard time with this myself. It has been getting easier in the bedroom, however, he does guide it. "Does my girl like it when daddy does" "Daddy is going to cum now", little things like that. For the longest time I was hesitant about even going into this cause I have one daddy in my life and to this day (30 yrs later) I still call him daddy. I was afraid for a while there that I would think of him vs my husband when I said daddy. I kind of did at first, natural way of thinking, then it got a little easier. I still have a hard time talking dirty, however, slowly working on that too. I still haven't felt comfortable calling him daddy around other people yet, I might not ever, it is something to work up to though.

We do communicate a lot about how it makes me feel to call him daddy. He loves it, considering how hesitant I was, it was mostly how I would feel about it. It's been working out more and more though, it actually has been turning me on lately too, especially when he calls me his little girl. It has been a challenge for me too, that's for sure!!! I also love challenges too! hehe! :)
 
I have always found saying "Daddy" very natural but then again I have always dated older men so the age dynamic lends itself to that. I do not call my biological father Daddy and would never. It's not incestual for me but about being with someone who makes me feel whole and loved and safe, all things a Daddy is supposed to do. I may role play I'm younger in a nonquantified age but at the root of it Daddy is more the name I bestow on someone I adore and trust. And when you have those two things the sex is incredible, at least in my experience.
 
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