Why are the hot Lit. men so unavailable?

NOIRTRASH said:

LIT men are low testosterone, resistant Adjunct Perfessers 4 Hillary

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No no no.

We are for Bernie! (when we can get out of bed in the morning) 'cuz he's just so CUTE!

It's probably because you're looking at the surface of a lake and seeing only the junk floating on top. (Pun intended, of course.)

A little more seriously:
- There are men here who have pics of amazingly hot bodies. If that's them in the real world, that means that they've been working on improving themselves, usually as a way to attract women. And because they're willing to submit to the flash, odds on they'll accept the dash of anyone who comes knocking. Your 'taken' category.
- There are men here who post pics of clippings they find online, but it's not actually them. It's fishing for fun, hoping to hook someone in for something that isn't any more real than they themselves are. These are your sleazebags.
- Then there's the fella who isn't here looking for anything but ...'education.' They're spoken for, but they enjoy the writing of other folks, or maybe they're a closet writer themselves, but they're not going to try and pick people up. Your 'shy/uninterested' category.

That being said:
This is Literotica. It takes a lot of self-confidence to post, no matter how anonymously, something that will remain up there for people to pick at and pick on. It's a bulletin board, which you have to find your way to and remain interested in in order to be visible and active. Whenever someone opens up a thread with almost no history, and says, 'Hi I'm lonely', most folks' stalker radar detector goes off.

And despite the name, a lot of would-be posters aren't terribly literate, let alone witty, wordy, or worldly. The ones who do, and who do it well? Are the ones who have the confidence, competence, and stamina to show off that they're something studly between the ears, rather than below the belt.

Some of them? Are in fact, single. The type you want won't advertise their status - you have to become the hunter, watch, wait, and then if you like what you see, and they don't obviously have someone that they speak about in glowing terms? Ask.

And despite the fact that the majority of this post is written to answer your question, the same factors apply to women, or transgender folks who are here as well.

Believe, keep your eyes open, and you will find.

-CT

I find that in order to attract likeable, you must be likeable. In this universe, you get back what you put out, and usually, if you treat someone with respect, you'll get their respect back.

Granted, there are a lot of creeps. What I have said above works for the guys too. If you pm me asking if I want to watch you fuck my mom... well, that's kinda the wrong foot to start off with

There are a lot of good people here. I haven't been here long and I've met quite a few of them.

I'm 300 pounds of bald Cinderella Fat. At midnite all that blubber becomes cock and monster ass to drive it home.

jezzilee said:

You would lose that bet.

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Hee hee he would.

I'm available, a little chunkier than I was when I was 20 but I still have moves. And still kinda hot.



And if you don't think so, well you can kiss my ass.






K, Lit isn't a dating site. But it's fun meeting people of the same mind (or arguing with people of an opposite mind, yeah I'm looking at you GB). But for some reason we all hold too much back. I embrace my inner manwhore, and I unleash it on Lit. For good or bad, as long we all go home giggling, because that's the best thing in life.

lizarose said:

Granted, there are a lot of creeps. What I have said above works for the guys too. If you pm me asking if I want to watch you fuck my mom... well, that's kinda the wrong foot to start off with

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I really need to work on the text of my opening PM it sounds like.

Lustful_Intentions said:

I really need to work on the text of my opening PM it sounds like.

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Why? My 80-something mom loved the idea. So much so that she's PM'd you back nearly a dozen times. She's oh-so-lonely for you, you heartthrob you.

But, you never respond to her messages...didn't you really mean it?

HisArpy said:

Why? My 80-something mom loved the idea. So much so that she's PM'd you back nearly a dozen times. She's oh-so-lonely for you, you heartthrob you.

But, you never respond to her messages...didn't you really mean it?

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Any lady of a certain age will tell you that I am quite enamored of gamesmanship in that regard.

Porkwarrior said:

... it's fun meeting people of the same mind (or arguing with people of an opposite mind, yeah I'm looking at you GB). But for some reason we all hold too much back. I embrace my inner manwhore, and I unleash it on Lit. For good or bad, as long we all go home giggling, because that's the best thing in life.

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This all day. Completely agree!

And your pics...too much fun! And not just "kinda hot." A great sense of humor amps it up a notch.

clistenovena said:

This all day. Completely agree!

And your pics...too much fun! And not just "kinda hot." A great sense of humor amps it up a notch.

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Awwwww making me blush.

Lustful_Intentions said:

Any lady of a certain age will tell you that I am quite enamored of gamesmanship in that regard.

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So, what do I tell Grampa? He's warming up the shotgun for the wedding. Something about playing with my mom's affections...

Porkwarrior said:

Hee hee he would.

I'm available, a little chunkier than I was when I was 20 but I still have moves. And still kinda hot.

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Yes, you are hot Great pics!

June_ said:

Honestly. This site has only two categories of men:
Creeps or douche bags who are all over you *eek*
and men with sex appeal who seem uninterested or shy.

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Keep trying June. I have met wonderful men here. They each have had their own hotness and sex appeal. I found them each attractive and the majority of them would be considered "men with sex appeal."

Sometimes you have to wade through creeps but stick with it and you will find the gems.

Don't we all want what we don't (or can't) have?

June_ said:

Honestly. This site has only two categories of men:
Creeps or douche bags who are all over you *eek*
and men with sex appeal who seem uninterested or shy.

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I think you have too few categories.

I'm not 'all over you' or anyone; and at my age I doubt I have much sex appeal; and I've been happily married for over 40 years.

But my alt jeanne_d_artois gets approaches from men who want to be 'all over' 'her' despite her bio announcing that she's imaginary and an alt for me.

'She' and you might have attracted the assholes. No bulletin board is free of assholes.

oggbashan said:

I think you have too few categories.

I'm not 'all over you' or anyone; and at my age I doubt I have much sex appeal; and I've been happily married for over 40 years.

But my alt jeanne_d_artois gets approaches from men who want to be 'all over' 'her' despite her bio announcing that she's imaginary and an alt for me.

'She' and you might have attracted the assholes. No bulletin board is free of assholes.

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Far from looking like a top model here. Nevertheless.
The vibe that I send in real life is of such nature that If I'm ever approached by men, they generally have some degree of sophistication. And they respect me. The other ones don't "try their luck" with me.

Lit. seems to be the opposite.

There's a certain category of unsophisticated men (to put it in polite terms) who either paint all women with the same tarred brush or are trying to bring them down to their own level.
And then there are the charming douche bags who pick on the fact that you're attracted to them. So they decide to toy with you and humiliate or hurt you.
One doesn't necessarily expect reciprocity; one hopes to be treated like a person.

I'm close to 70, I hold a post grad degree in psychology and treated the mentally ill for many years. I've been married 43 years, have 3 daughters and 5 sistersm and know one thing for certain: Women perpetrate a grand mythology of their sex that's total nonsense. I cant name one with a patina of nobility or common decency.

I was raised to buy the female mythology but got educated. The emperor has no clothes.

James. Be good now.
lol

June_ said:

James. Be good now.
lol

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The truth will make you free.

June_ said:

Far from looking like a top model here. Nevertheless.
The vibe that I send in real life is of such nature that If I'm ever approached by men, they generally have some degree of sophistication. And they respect me. The other ones don't "try their luck" with me.

Lit. seems to be the opposite.

There's a certain category of unsophisticated men (to put it in polite terms) who either paint all women with the same tarred brush or are trying to bring them down to their own level.
And then there are the charming douche bags who pick on the fact that you're attracted to them. So they decide to toy with you and humiliate or hurt you.
One doesn't necessarily expect reciprocity; one hopes to be treated like a person.

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I'd like to very gently suggest that you re-read your post, reversing genders when referenced.

There are plenty of good men out there, both IRL and on Lit. Try to stay positive, realize that every person is different with their own unique motivations, and don't give up too easily. Good luck!!

quietlylooking said:

I'd like to very gently suggest that you re-read your post, reversing genders when referenced.

There are plenty of good men out there, both IRL and on Lit. Try to stay positive, realize that every person is different with their own unique motivations, and don't give up too easily. Good luck!!

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I agree. Enjoy getting to know people without expectations and before long those great people with rise to the top. Enjoy some friendships and with the right soul it will all click naturally.

quietlylooking said:

I'd like to very gently suggest that you re-read your post, reversing genders when referenced.

There are plenty of good men out there, both IRL and on Lit. Try to stay positive, realize that every person is different with their own unique motivations, and don't give up too easily. Good luck!!

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You're right.
I wasn't trying to imply that all Lit. men are like that. I think that a lot of them are good men but when it comes to the bones of it, they aren't really interested.
I was just venting. The one person who I was attracted to started by looking the part, but ended up by showing his true colors.

So you got burned by one jackass and decided every other guy on here was like him?

DrRickMarshall said:

So you got burned by one jackass and decided every other guy on here was like him?

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They all have weaknesses for asses.

DrRickMarshall said:

So you got burned by one jackass and decided every other guy on here was like him?

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In a sense.

I think that this being a porn site, compared to real life there's a much higher chance that some of the men here either harbor general misogynistic attitudes or are similarly prejudiced against the women who post on Lit.

So I suspect that many women here - just like myself - are cautious about the men they interact with, at least until they get to know them better.

Emotions are a tricky thing though. One never knows when the bug strikes and then any ability to appraise certain behaviors rationally goes out of the window.