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I'm looking for advice about things I can do to explore my sexual interests. I apologize if there is a thread about this already. However, I've noticed most people seem to know what they like and what they are looking for. If possible, I want people to tell me the process they went through to figure it out. It doesn't matter if it wasn't a process but the result of an event. The answers do not need to be long.
 
greengamegirl said:
I'm looking for advice about things I can do to explore my sexual interests. I apologize if there is a thread about this already. However, I've noticed most people seem to know what they like and what they are looking for. If possible, I want people to tell me the process they went through to figure it out. It doesn't matter if it wasn't a process but the result of an event. The answers do not need to be long.
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Hi! I had this issue in the beginning too. You know what helped me? going into story topics or video topics about certain things like "massage" or "first time lesbian" and I started to realize what really turned me on and what was just eh for me. Do you have an idea already of what really makes you turned on?
 
Trial and error and pure imagination led me to the sexual pursuits I have today.
 
Just browse stories or porn at random. Keep an open mind. If it tingles, investigate. It also helps to hang around weird people and chit chat.
 
dreajay said:
Hi! I had this issue in the beginning too. You know what helped me? going into story topics or video topics about certain things like "massage" or "first time lesbian" and I started to realize what really turned me on and what was just eh for me. Do you have an idea already of what really makes you turned on?
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I don't have an idea yet. I'm still trying to figure it out.
 
greengamegirl said:
I don't have an idea yet. I'm still trying to figure it out.
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Definitely go searching through some stories. Are you straight? lesbain? Bi? Bicurious perhaps? Definitely dont limit yourself and do what the other posters said. Example: even if you are straight, a video or story about two women or two men might excite you when you start reading. Or a story about seduction by a married man/woman. Try it out : )
 
Experiment

Based on the responses so far, it seems I should read or watch things and see what gives me a reaction.
 
greengamegirl said:
Based on the responses so far, it seems I should read or watch things and see what gives me a reaction.
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Definitely the way to go! Another good place is to browse the gif threads. "fingerfucking" is a favorite of mine. See what makes you hot and bothered and run with it. Sexuality and what makes you hot and bothered is an ever changing thing.
 
greengamegirl said:
I'm looking for advice about things I can do to explore my sexual interests. I apologize if there is a thread about this already. However, I've noticed most people seem to know what they like and what they are looking for. If possible, I want people to tell me the process they went through to figure it out. It doesn't matter if it wasn't a process but the result of an event. The answers do not need to be long.
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Read. Read on lit, read fan fic, read erotic novels, read sexy romances, read in genres you've never tried... Almost every one of my interests has been sparked by something I read at exactly the right moment.
 
greengamegirl said:
Based on the responses so far, it seems I should read or watch things and see what gives me a reaction.
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sex, fetishes, it's like food. You don't know if you like it until you try it and sometimes, you see it right in front of you and you have no desire to put it in your mouth.

Sexual appetite, right?
 
greengamegirl said:
I'm looking for advice about things I can do to explore my sexual interests.
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When you ask for advice for curious beginners, that's pretty vague and leaves a lot open for speculation. Does that mean you are virgin and want to explore sex for the first time? Or does that mean you're bi-curious and want to explore that avenue? You need to be a bit more specific if you want pertinent advice.
 
Everyday_Man said:
sex, fetishes, it's like food. You don't know if you like it until you try it and sometimes, you see it right in front of you and you have no desire to put it in your mouth.

Sexual appetite, right?
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^^^^ Just yesterday he said the same about eating dog turds.
 
Harold_Hill said:
When you ask for advice for curious beginners, that's pretty vague and leaves a lot open for speculation. Does that mean you are virgin and want to explore sex for the first time? Or does that mean you're bi-curious and want to explore that avenue? You need to be a bit more specific if you want pertinent advice.
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It wasn't that vague because your first guess was right. I think that was the conclusion most people come to when they hear advice for curious beginners. I am a virgin and interested in discovering what I like.
 
communication - really that simple - so many people ignore this and years into a relationship start yelling out "Help!"

always find a way to tell your partner what works and what doesn't work and "that feels good - do more of that".

be honest in your wants and with expressing your emotions

don't expect your lovers to know without you telling them

demand no less than the above in return

treat porn as entertainment not rules for combat (it is not real life)
 
Seems like there is not much point till you have a partner that you are exploring with, then it comes natural I think. If they suggest something and it sounds interesting try it. If it doesn't be honest and tell them it doesn't sound appealing.

I don't think sex has to be kinky just because it seems that way in porn especially lately. Your own imagination is usually plenty. Nothing wrong with kinky. Kinks kind of come natural when they come and surprise you when they do. Enjoy the journey. Don't worry where the car is pointed.
 
Good place to start, what goes thru your mind when you close your eyes while you touch yourself? Then go from there.
 
NightL said:
communication - really that simple - so many people ignore this and years into a relationship start yelling out "Help!"

always find a way to tell your partner what works and what doesn't work and "that feels good - do more of that".

be honest in your wants and with expressing your emotions

don't expect your lovers to know without you telling them

demand no less than the above in return

treat porn as entertainment not rules for combat (it is not real life)
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I don't have a partner. Once I find a partner, I will tell them what I want. For now I'm exploring on my own.
 
Conager said:
Seems like there is not much point till you have a partner that you are exploring with, then it comes natural I think. If they suggest something and it sounds interesting try it. If it doesn't be honest and tell them it doesn't sound appealing.

I don't think sex has to be kinky just because it seems that way in porn especially lately. Your own imagination is usually plenty. Nothing wrong with kinky. Kinks kind of come natural when they come and surprise you when they do. Enjoy the journey. Don't worry where the car is pointed.
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I'm pretty sure people have some idea of what they like before they have a partner.
 
greengamegirl said:
I'm pretty sure people have some idea of what they like before they have a partner.
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That is kind of what I mean. If it doesn't already come into your mind now, it will probably be something a partner wants to try.

Anything that does come into your mind now, go with it and enjoy the fantasy without shame or guilt. I didn't mention that part because you seem like a girl that is sexually open, so I think you already do that.

Unless you are at that point where the things you usually think about during "me" time aren't "working" for you you are already do it right. As far as expanding the things that are in your mind for go-to scenarios I think the stories on here are probably hotter than porn.
 
Conager said:
That is kind of what I mean. If it doesn't already come into your mind now, it will probably be something a partner wants to try.

Anything that does come into your mind now, go with it and enjoy the fantasy without shame or guilt. I didn't mention that part because you seem like a girl that is sexually open, so I think you already do that.

Unless you are at that point where the things you usually think about during "me" time aren't "working" for you you are already do it right. As far as expanding the things that are in your mind for go-to scenarios I think the stories on here are probably hotter than porn.
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I'm trying to explore things I can do to myself while I fantasize. Alternatively, I'm looking for new things to fantasize about. Things that involve a partner doesn't apply to me yet.
 
So far

Based on some of the responses, I'm going to further clarify. Before I created this post, I was interested in pregnancy, impregnation, and lactation. I don't want to restrict myself to current sexual interests because there may be other things that turn me on. I'm trying to discover what those other things are. I'm seeking advice on how to further explore. I'm seeking information about what a virgin without a partner can do. I'm currently exploring self-bondage but I'm open to other things.
 
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