StrangeLife
Eater of beef
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Even leaving aside the question of whether his joblessness or her weight gain are voluntary... I don't accept that these are equivalent situations. Putting your partner at risk of bankruptcy and homelessness (or forcing them to work a second job to avoid same, or whatever) is not on the same level as failing to look slim and sexy.
Why aren't they equivalent?
If he is indeed repulsed by excess body fat - and he did use to date very skinny girls - she pretty much killed his sex life by gaining weight. I tell you, that if you gave me the choice between developing erectile dysfunction or losing my job, I'd hand in my resignation in a heartbeat... and grab an Xbox on the way home!
I feel compelled to use a Dr. Phil quote here: "The importance of the sex-life in a normal marriage is about 10%. Until the day it doesn't work - then it suddenly becomes 99%"
MSTarot said:Marriage is a journey through life with the one person that is willing to put up with your crap. That person better be your best friend in the world, because you will be spending a lot of time together. They have to want to be with you for many reasons, and the way you look is far down that list. Because the way you look is going to change and unless you have the money to keep ahead of the changes your going to look different than you did when you first met.
And if the two of you can't laugh about it when your bodies start to fall apart what the hell are you going to do when your seventy or eighty and cant find where you left your glasses?
You have to have someone there to tell you you're wearing them.
This is a very young couple though, and a new marriage too. If they find incompatibilities already, how bad will it not get later on? At least you should start out on the same page. If physical appearance is important for one party and not for the other, I'd say we have a clear case of irreconcilable differences. There is an elderly couple living in a shack out near my office. They are hoarders with a garden and a house full of... well trash basically. They are nice, but they have a squadrillion cats living all over the place and it stinks! Yet they seem to be perfectly happy together. But imagine if one of them had been a neat-freak?
MSTarot said:Take responsibility that what you do affects how long you live then enjoy what you want.
Except for anything off the menu at McDonald's. That stuff will kill you.
Truer words were never spoken.
Swilly said:So fat people, and fat women specifically, are slobs SL?
That statement shows incredible ignorance, casting of stereotypes, and pretty much sums up your opinion on the topic. Why even start a poll like this?
That's a strawman argument Swilly. I never generalized fat women as slobs. Some probably are, but there are skinny slobs as well. Being fat doesn't indicate anything about your personality.
The poll is about whether it's acceptable to divorce a spouse because of looks.