Hey all, first post.
I'll keep it quick. I broke up with my GF of 11 months a week ago. She was doing things like not keeping a job, drinking too much and ultimately disrespected me one too many times, so I walked out on her. I DO care about her so I've tried to be as nice as possible about it.
Anyway, she's crushed. I talked to her last night and she says she's been laying in bed crying all week, she's constantly texting me about how much she loves and misses me, etc.
I agreed to sit down and talk with her today (in like 2 hours). I've always been heavy into BDSM, and she's always enjoyed bondage, light spanking and just kind of being "kinky" - no real sub/dom relationship though, it was vanilla 99% of the time.
So (this may sound horrible) but the only way I could see us working out is a 24/7 full power exchange relationship. She makes stupid decisions. She drinks too much. She mouths off. She's proven that she can't make decisions (to my standards) on her own.
So I'm thinking I may tell her that the only way it'll work is a 24/7 dom/slave relationship.
Oh yeah, real quick I did ask her once if I'd take care of her so she wouldn't have to work if she'd be a full-time slave, she said "yes" and she was being serious.
So a few questions...
1. How would you bring this up to her? I'm thinking I'll just point out all of the reasons that I broke up with her, and there's only one way I could see it working but I doubt she'd be up for it. When she asks I'll explain it to her. I think she will be up for it.
2. She hates gags, bondage gloves/mittens and hoods. Just about everything else is fair game. Any resources on pushing a slave beyond her limits? I'm thinking during initial training I'll constantly make her do things that she hates (but won't hurt her).
3. I'm thinking we should agree to a 7-day trial period or something. This will be new to both of us (although I know I'd love it). I'd also love any tips for training a new slave, especially when she's a GF of about a year.
I know it may sound manipulative to tell her "this is the only way it'll work". But really it's the truth. If she continues to behave like that I don't want to be with her. And I had no idea how deeply she loves me. I didn't expect her to take it this hard.
I dunno, any advice?
Much appreciated.
I'll keep it quick. I broke up with my GF of 11 months a week ago. She was doing things like not keeping a job, drinking too much and ultimately disrespected me one too many times, so I walked out on her. I DO care about her so I've tried to be as nice as possible about it.
Anyway, she's crushed. I talked to her last night and she says she's been laying in bed crying all week, she's constantly texting me about how much she loves and misses me, etc.
I agreed to sit down and talk with her today (in like 2 hours). I've always been heavy into BDSM, and she's always enjoyed bondage, light spanking and just kind of being "kinky" - no real sub/dom relationship though, it was vanilla 99% of the time.
So (this may sound horrible) but the only way I could see us working out is a 24/7 full power exchange relationship. She makes stupid decisions. She drinks too much. She mouths off. She's proven that she can't make decisions (to my standards) on her own.
So I'm thinking I may tell her that the only way it'll work is a 24/7 dom/slave relationship.
Oh yeah, real quick I did ask her once if I'd take care of her so she wouldn't have to work if she'd be a full-time slave, she said "yes" and she was being serious.
So a few questions...
1. How would you bring this up to her? I'm thinking I'll just point out all of the reasons that I broke up with her, and there's only one way I could see it working but I doubt she'd be up for it. When she asks I'll explain it to her. I think she will be up for it.
2. She hates gags, bondage gloves/mittens and hoods. Just about everything else is fair game. Any resources on pushing a slave beyond her limits? I'm thinking during initial training I'll constantly make her do things that she hates (but won't hurt her).
3. I'm thinking we should agree to a 7-day trial period or something. This will be new to both of us (although I know I'd love it). I'd also love any tips for training a new slave, especially when she's a GF of about a year.
I know it may sound manipulative to tell her "this is the only way it'll work". But really it's the truth. If she continues to behave like that I don't want to be with her. And I had no idea how deeply she loves me. I didn't expect her to take it this hard.
I dunno, any advice?
Much appreciated.
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