Virginity...turn on or off?

I was tricked into losing mine and it hurt like hell. But I've made up for it since :devil:
How'd he "trick" you?
Did he "promise" not to penetrate you as you lay naked next to each other, grinding each other?
In a moment of passion, did it "just slip in...?" (like most guys would want to do)
 
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I have never met anyone who admitted to being a virgin.
I'd say any person who is experienced in a masturbatory sense and who has watched porn could pass themselves of as non-virgins.
 
Virgin detection

This statue is placed on a column next to the Copenhage city hall.
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There is a legend, that should a virgin pass them, they will blow their horns.
 
It's kind of a turn off, 'cause our culture makes it a big step in a girls life when she's ready for intercourse. It's a formative experience for everyone, so those deflowerings (it should be called flowering) are best handled with care, and not too much passion.
On one awkward occasion, an attractive, sexually anxious young lady had such a heavy hymen, I couldn't through. I learned that a warm bath for her, and using my finger, works well. Debutantes often, have never seen a grown man's erection. So show it to her nicely, and make sure she holds it in her tender hand, familiarizing herself with the size, heft, and weight. Also, virgins should become very familiar with her guy's penis, before intercourse.
So, yeah it's kind of a turn-off. But it's a duty I am willing to undertake, for my country 😉
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It's kind of a turn off, 'cause our culture makes it a big step in a girls life when she's ready for intercourse. It's a formative experience for everyone, so those deflowerings (it should be called flowering) are best handled with care, and not too much passion.
On one awkward occasion, an attractive, sexually anxious young lady had such a heavy hymen, I couldn't through. I learned that a warm bath for her, and using my finger, works well. Debutantes often, have never seen a grown man's erection. So show it to her nicely, and make sure she holds it in her tender hand, familiarizing herself with the size, heft, and weight. Also, virgins should become very familiar with her guy's penis, before intercourse.
So, yeah it's kind of a turn-off. But it's a duty I am willing to undertake, for my country 😉
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Before we got together, my girlfriend and her friend visited the house of their neighbour, and got really drunk there. They fell asleep in his bed, and when they came to in the morning, he asked them to lift their butts in the air for him. Reluctantly they did, and he pulled down their underwear and pushed their butts together. They told him they'd never done anything of the sort, and it was an even more turn on for him. He put her face in their nether region first, then he took them from behind. He did it in a well controlled manner, but the first few strokes still hurt them. Half an hour of in out in out passes, and the other girl asks if he's going to finish soon. He just tells them to be patient and that the alcohol has desensitized him. Another half an hour passes, and finally he increases his tempo and cums inside my girlfrield. He tells them to wait, still in the same position while he gets ready again. When he does, he puts it in the another girl and cums almost instantly. The girls go to take a piss, and that is more or less it. We still have to see him at the local grocery store from time to time, and of course I wish it was me who got to do that. Taking the virginity of two girls from behind and making the room smell like fish from all the fucking.
 
Maybe a fantasy, but

Give me a real mature woman, who wants hard, hot, sweat sex. Thats much more exciting.
 
Ditto. I'll take a lady who's been around the block a few time and knows some things.
 
I was unaware it was possible to turn your virginity on and off. Every day is a school day.
 
It's kind of a turn off, 'cause our culture makes it a big step in a girls life when she's ready for intercourse. It's a formative experience for everyone, so those deflowerings (it should be called flowering) are best handled with care, and not too much passion.
On one awkward occasion, an attractive, sexually anxious young lady had such a heavy hymen, I couldn't through. I learned that a warm bath for her, and using my finger, works well. Debutantes often, have never seen a grown man's erection. So show it to her nicely, and make sure she holds it in her tender hand, familiarizing herself with the size, heft, and weight. Also, virgins should become very familiar with her guy's penis, before intercourse.
So, yeah it's kind of a turn-off. But it's a duty I am willing to undertake, for my country 😉
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fit, you are a true patriot. Send them over when you are done!
 
Definitely a turn-off. No one should remain a virgin any longer than they absolutely have to.
 
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Mixed bag, but mostly a turn-off. For one thing, I am not about to date a boy in his late teens/early 20s, and a one-night stand? I just can't see it. Also, I lost mine to my true teenage love, and it was his first time as well - in my ideal world, everyone would lose it like that.

I did date one guy who was technically a virgin; he was 44, and was delaying penetrative sex until marriage for religious reasons. He was fine with all forms of non-penetrative sex. The problem was that this lawyeristic attitude towards religion expanded to other arenas as well; he thought he was a really nice guy, but only according to his very narrow interpretation of rules to live by.

tl;dr version: past a certain age, it may be a sign of personality issues.
 
I've always thought to myself "what would I possibly do with a virgin" - seems like an absurd question but I'm not particularly dominant, I want to be the one bent over and fucked hard and fast, not timidly with slight fondling of the breasts.

However...

The possibility has recently arisen and I'm somewhat excited about it! I am slightly older and more experienced but this guy is mentally more experienced than I am. Name a topic and he would have researched it, every scenario already run through his head, he knows what he's into and what he's not. I'll merely be the outlet for all his sexual frustration, not necessarily the teacher
 
Before we got together, my girlfriend and her friend visited the house of their neighbour, and got really drunk there. They fell asleep in his bed, and when they came to in the morning, he asked them to lift their butts in the air for him. Reluctantly they did, and he pulled down their underwear and pushed their butts together. They told him they'd never done anything of the sort, and it was an even more turn on for him. He put her face in their nether region first, then he took them from behind. He did it in a well controlled manner, but the first few strokes still hurt them. Half an hour of in out in out passes, and the other girl asks if he's going to finish soon. He just tells them to be patient and that the alcohol has desensitized him. Another half an hour passes, and finally he increases his tempo and cums inside my girlfrield. He tells them to wait, still in the same position while he gets ready again. When he does, he puts it in the another girl and cums almost instantly. The girls go to take a piss, and that is more or less it. We still have to see him at the local grocery store from time to time, and of course I wish it was me who got to do that. Taking the virginity of two girls from behind and making the room smell like fish from all the fucking.

This is hot. Thanks for sharing. If you have any writing skills I suggest you make this into a story and post it on Lit.

ES
 
Mixed bag, but mostly a turn-off. For one thing, I am not about to date a boy in his late teens/early 20s, and a one-night stand? I just can't see it. Also, I lost mine to my true teenage love, and it was his first time as well - in my ideal world, everyone would lose it like that.

I did date one guy who was technically a virgin; he was 44, and was delaying penetrative sex until marriage for religious reasons. He was fine with all forms of non-penetrative sex. The problem was that this lawyeristic attitude towards religion expanded to other arenas as well; he thought he was a really nice guy, but only according to his very narrow interpretation of rules to live by.

tl;dr version: past a certain age, it may be a sign of personality issues.

I agree at a certain point it becomes something I may have done in the past but hard to see myself doing it now because of the age of the woman. A virgin woman would be way too young for me at this stage of my life, (I am 55 yrs).

However, I would consider it a big turn on if a woman wanted to lose her anal virginity with me. Being her first still has some specialness too it, even if it is just anal.

@RedSilk69 Maybe you would like to have a male anal virgin?

ES
 
TO me its either or. If you are a virgin my advice is wait til you are 100% ready to give it to someone. Hopefully someone special and not just give it up just to have sex. I think its more special if you give yourself to someone you really love.
 
I agree at a certain point it becomes something I may have done in the past but hard to see myself doing it now because of the age of the woman. A virgin woman would be way too young for me at this stage of my life, (I am 55 yrs).

However, I would consider it a big turn on if a woman wanted to lose her anal virginity with me. Being her first still has some specialness too it, even if it is just anal.

@RedSilk69 Maybe you would like to have a male anal virgin?

ES

I sort of did; I convinced my FWB to let me play with his butt, a first for him, but he wasn't turned on by it. It was also my first time; something about that man just makes me want to do *everything* to and with him. I feel I need to first learn "under" someone experienced. I definitely wouldn't want my first go at a strap-on to be with someone also new to it - well, unless he wanted to try. :) Then I'd take all the bits of wisdom I've gleaned here (go slow, plenty of lube, and maybe alcohol for him, but not me) and give it the old college try :D
 
I believe in abstinence before marriage, so I would not marry someone who is not a virgin. I mean, I would not completely shut someone out who has had sex but most likely I would not want to date anyone who has.
 
Denny

I believe in abstinence before marriage, so I would not marry someone who is not a virgin. I mean, I would not completely shut someone out who has had sex but most likely I would not want to date anyone who has.

I was a male virgin and we looked at my wife as a virgin. I know it's not to be spoken here but she was repeatedly raped while her own sister and husband held Dollie spread eagle.
Sure, she was used and abused. To me she was a virgin because I was the first to ask and the first to have real intercourse.
So according to you I should have ran and given up the best thing that's ever happened to me?
 
I was a male virgin and we looked at my wife as a virgin. I know it's not to be spoken here but she was repeatedly raped while her own sister and husband held Dollie spread eagle.
Sure, she was used and abused. To me she was a virgin because I was the first to ask and the first to have real intercourse.
So according to you I should have ran and given up the best thing that's ever happened to me?

I am talking about people who consent, it should be obvious that I am not shutting down someone who was abused...
 
It made no difference to me. I thought I was marrying a virgin and was happy with that belief. A few years later, she told me that I was far from her first, and it made no difference at all. I was happy with her, virgin or not.
 
Neither ...

But it is a great responsibility, to make certain that her first time is something that will establish intimacy as something to look forward to, rather than to fear. I don't know how many beautiful gals I've spent so much time with to undo the damage that oafs have done.
 
This is a recurring fantasy of mine. Meeting a younger woman and chatting and getting to know each other and her finally blurting out that she is a virgin and wishes she could meet an experienced guy who would treat her respectfully and teach her over a period of a few months all about sex...about her body and about her lover's body.

I, of course, would offer my services and we would enter that student-teacher relationship as I gradually introduced new aspects of the sexual experience. After two or three months, I would suggest we go our separate ways and with our age difference, I would suspect my young lover would feel the same way.

In fact, having a pre-set time frame to the relationship might allow each of us to relax and become more intimate, knowing we wouldn't have to deal with an overly involved partner who could not pull back.

You just wrote down one of my fantasies.... But reversed (since I'm a woman). I think it would be hot.....And I could train him to make other girls happy! 😀

For the rest of the thread...: Lots of talk recently about hymen and deflowering.... Are you trying to scare her? It might hurt for some but probably due to not being wet enough (nervous, perhaps?) and not relaxed enough.... Some might have a hymen but most girls got rid of it just by cycling, horsebackriding etc... You won't (necessarily) feel it burst and bleed...

If I were to wait for Mr Right I would have been a really old virgin..... But-luckily for me- it wasn't that important to me.... So I found a guy I thought was hot, dragged him to bed, pulled his clothes of and jumped up...😜 Didn't hurt at all.....
 
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