PertPerth
Perty in Pink
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Gil_T2 said:Thanks for your post, it is most welcome here.
I started this thread in an effort to save one lady & it has grown from there to where it is now, some who have found it a help drop in at times to let us know that they are finding life more joyous so please read on.
Somewhere in the thread a study was quoted that stated that the male & female abuse rate was almost equal & I was one of these males, it was only mental abuse for me & I know the toll it took on my life but all that has changed as I am very happily married now to another abuse surviver & both our lives have never been sweeter than it is now. Thanks to my sweet BANDIT .
Your post has also come at a time when I'm trying to help a lady friend in R/L who is dealing with abuse although she can't see it as that, she has been neglected emotionally for many years & is little more than a cleaner, cook, baby sitter & when he wants sex & it is only sex for his pleasure not hers, she came from another country so her english skills are mainly self taught, only gets a little money to buy the needs & rarely ever goes out anywhere she wants or alone.
Another after years of encouragment has left her partner of many years & discovered she can have a life of her own to do as she pleases & not what he wants her to do.
If we can only do our little bit it all helps the big picture in saving the abused of both sexes.
I stll wonder what has happened to the many who have posted here & left LIT.
What you said is too true : women can be just as abusive as men can be. Sure, the way a woman abuses her victim is usually in a different way to how a man will - but the over all result is the same.
Similarly, victims can be anyone, male or female, at any age.
Abuse comes in many forms - neglect, physical harm, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. (This is what comes to mine, anyone feel free to add)
Abuse comes from many people, not just strangers - family and step-family members, friends, work colleagues, teachers/coaches and even friends.
In my experiences it's been the females who have been close to me (neighbour, mothers, friends) who have abused me the most. No bruises, but the pain and fear is just as strong. Fortunately, the Law recognises that!