The main thing is being open and honest about it.
I am sure there will be questions as to how you are dealing with it. The most important thing is that you ARE dealing with it instead of trying to bury it.
I have seen first hand how many problems are created when people don't deal with it and just bury it. It is amazing how it will manifest itself in all kinds of ways.
The important thing is being open and honest about what triggers bad memories. If he truly cares he will be understanding and work with you on the issues.
If you suppress the feelings he will sense it and feel you pulling away from HIM. When actually it is the memory that was triggered that you are pulling away from. Only through OPEN and honest communication will you break that vicious cycle. It will require a LOT of understanding and acceptance from both of you.
I must commend you for taking it on and not just trying to bury the issues. I have seen it way to many times in various past relationships where I brought up that I thought they had been abused / raped. Every time I was correct and some had never disclosed it to anyone before.
It is amazing how abuse / rape after effects show up in all kinds of ways in all aspects of their life. The important thing is to realize what those triggers are and then you have the choice on how to respond to them.
I am sure there will be questions as to how you are dealing with it. The most important thing is that you ARE dealing with it instead of trying to bury it.
I have seen first hand how many problems are created when people don't deal with it and just bury it. It is amazing how it will manifest itself in all kinds of ways.
The important thing is being open and honest about what triggers bad memories. If he truly cares he will be understanding and work with you on the issues.
If you suppress the feelings he will sense it and feel you pulling away from HIM. When actually it is the memory that was triggered that you are pulling away from. Only through OPEN and honest communication will you break that vicious cycle. It will require a LOT of understanding and acceptance from both of you.
I must commend you for taking it on and not just trying to bury the issues. I have seen it way to many times in various past relationships where I brought up that I thought they had been abused / raped. Every time I was correct and some had never disclosed it to anyone before.
It is amazing how abuse / rape after effects show up in all kinds of ways in all aspects of their life. The important thing is to realize what those triggers are and then you have the choice on how to respond to them.