Do you feel submissive when you suck a cock?

Submissive

There have been times I've felt very submissive when I've sucked a man's cock. Truthfully, it really depended on the man I was with at the time. Some of my male lovers became more "manly" the longer we were together, so I started to feel more submissive. I loved being suddenly dragged to a private area, pushed down to my knees and suddenly finding his cockhead pushing its way between my lips!!! I would always feel out of breath and very submissive at that time. And, feeling my lover's cock thicken in my mouth until rock hard and feeling him start to tremble, and knowing his hot load was so close to filling my mouth. In many ways, I loved the feeling of being submissive for those certain men at those times.

Similar to the contributors below....It even depends on our mood....sometimes it is shared pleasure others he takes control and I let him. I love it when he holds my head as he thrusts deep into my willing throat or those occasions when I lay on my back head over the edge of the bed and he stands there and feeds me his cock.....

MatureSensualBottom said:

Similar to the contributors below....It even depends on our mood....sometimes it is shared pleasure others he takes control and I let him. I love it when he holds my head as he thrusts deep into my willing throat or those occasions when I lay on my back head over the edge of the bed and he stands there and feeds me his cock.....

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I feel the same way. I too, especially love my head slightly over the edge of the bed while he slowly slides his cock down my throat, then his hand strokes my throat as he sees himself sliding in and out. Twist a nipple and I'm toast!

Heaven!

ejredlady said:

I feel the same way. I too, especially love my head slightly over the edge of the bed while he slowly slides his cock down my throat, then his hand strokes my throat as he sees himself sliding in and out. Twist a nipple and I'm toast!

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beautiful isn't it?

haurni said:

No more than when I go down on a woman. I just like sucking cock (probably more than cunnilingus) and I enjoy it when a guy cums in my mouth. That's all there is to it.

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I think I'm on the same page. When I go down on a woman, it's seems like it's almost more of a dominant thing because she's usually on her back in a submissive position, and I'm doing what I most want to do (because oral is my absolute favorite thing.) Even if she rides my face, she's usually there because she knows that's exactly what I want (although it's often exactly what she wants, too.)

I've never been with a guy, but when I fantasize about sucking cock, it's pretty similar. For me, I see it much more as me actively and eagerly sucking because I love it, rather than submitting to someone else's needs.

I don't know, I guess you could argue it either way. For me, I guess the whole dominance/submission aspect of sex, whether straight or gay, isn't really a big part of my wiring. I just like what I like--and I like most of it!

Yes.... Anyone want me to submit to them?

I feel most alive when I'm submissive.
That goes for reading, writing, playing music, and, um, sex. Submission involves intense concentration.

turbocs37 said:

As stated above, I am not interested in intamacy with the men I service. Even though I am masculine in every other situation and relationship, I am absolutely submissive when I am sucking cock. I rarely desire reciprocation. Instead, I receive pleasure as if my mouth were a pussy. It gives me immense pleasure when a hard cock is sliding in and out of my mouth. I really get into being called names like cocksucker or cumslut and I love it when he holds my head and takes control, thrusting his cock in and out, fucking me to give himself pleasure without considering me as anything beyond a means to an end. I also love being cockslapped and having him rub his spit soaked cock and balls all over my face. My cock gets hardest when I am on my knees with a nice hard cock (esp. bbc) penetrating my face.

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So hot, and so true, when I was sucking my first, it was all about his pleasure and getting his cum.

Riley69 said:

There have been times I've felt very submissive when I've sucked a man's cock. Truthfully, it really depended on the man I was with at the time. Some of my male lovers became more "manly" the longer we were together, so I started to feel more submissive. I loved being suddenly dragged to a private area, pushed down to my knees and suddenly finding his cockhead pushing its way between my lips!!! I would always feel out of breath and very submissive at that time. And, feeling my lover's cock thicken in my mouth until rock hard and feeling him start to tremble, and knowing his hot load was so close to filling my mouth. In many ways, I loved the feeling of being submissive for those certain men at those times.

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That dominance is thrilling to me!

never felt submissive...I have a wonderful oral sex fetish, so I used that to my advantage when I was enjoying men.
Late 80s and early to mid 90s were fun, you didn't have all this in your face crap..you'd meet someone that was living quietly, but, like sex with men....as my luck would have it. I enjoy many a first timers.... so sucking was a great way too warm and calm their nerves. I bet I could have had 50- 75 men, if it weren't for cold feet, but, your numbers go up, the risk percentagae was even greater.
I never felt submissive, they got the idea I was masculine, Top... but, let me suck you hard....or that cock popped out hard and ready...didn't take them long to cum

coati said:

Honestly, I don't feel submissive when I am trying to get a guy off. What I really feel is being super active, like paying attention to his response and making little changes on the fly (no pun intended). Each man or woman is a little different , so I find little changes need to be made in order to follow the path that will drive them toward a strong orgasm. Also, the bi men I have been with are not particularly dominant. They tend to be very considerate and grateful for the attention.

Maybe I am just attracted to that type of lover. The only time I ended up with a dominant was with a woman. That was really instructive and I miss her now, but I found out that I am not a submissive person by nature.

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It's interesting because it's kind of like that for me. Interesting because over 30 years in the kink/bdsm/leather community as a submissive/slave, it never felt very to be a submissive act. I'm also trans. I've been sucking cock since I was sexual. I acknowledge sometimes it's viewed as 'passive', but similarly I always felt it's very active, and I never feel more power over a lover than with that warm hard flesh in my mouth, fellating, even with a dominate one. Just watching them melt, over how you're make them feel, it's such a potent rush. It's always been about him, watching how he reacts, changing the game up, hitting his hot spots.. all very active. Even if it is literally passive, laying back, letting a guy have his way, for me it's this power that I'm blowing his mind, that I'd let him, "let" being key there. Even with consensual, "non-consensual" situations, there's always ultimately that power that truly you hold (as I think most lifestyle Doms might agree) even if it goes unspoken. I love sucking them, getting them off, making them glow, and I know they might see and feel it as being "submissive" but hey, confession, it's generally purely self-gratification, self-gratification is not a submissive act.

ejredlady said:

I feel the same way. I too, especially love my head slightly over the edge of the bed while he slowly slides his cock down my throat, then his hand strokes my throat as he sees himself sliding in and out. Twist a nipple and I'm toast!

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Yes that shows true submission

When I'm sucking a cock, I like to have you on your back, with your legs over my shoulders while I suck and nibble on you.

Submissive?

Not to be a sexist, but I like to assume what I consider to be the fem role, but not so much submissive. I have no cock, just a man pussy and a mouth, and while I'm ok if you take control and fuck my mouth, I'm ok telling you to do it if that's what I want! I'm sure it has something to do with not being "gay", so enjoying a cock while in my female persona seems more natural

only if I want to

I've thought more about this in light of a conversation with someone else now.

For me, thinking about cock = feeling like a slut.
(I'm not saying this is true for anyone else.)
The desire for cock overwhelms me at times, sometimes without any warning. I'm just suddenly horny for cock, and I want one in my mouth, one in my ass, and I want them to be huge and cum in me and then splatter all over me. I want to be on my back in a circle of guys who take turns fucking my ass, and if anyone needs to cum before his turn, he can shoot of my face or chest.
I don't even want to cum.
I just want to be fucked.
But eventually I do cum and then it's all over.
I'm back to normal as if nothing ever happened.

IntrovertWantsOut said:

I've thought more about this in light of a conversation with someone else now.

For me, thinking about cock = feeling like a slut.
(I'm not saying this is true for anyone else.)
The desire for cock overwhelms me at times, sometimes without any warning. I'm just suddenly horny for cock, and I want one in my mouth, one in my ass, and I want them to be huge and cum in me and then splatter all over me. I want to be on my back in a circle of guys who take turns fucking my ass, and if anyone needs to cum before his turn, he can shoot of my face or chest.
I don't even want to cum.
I just want to be fucked.
But eventually I do cum and then it's all over.
I'm back to normal as if nothing ever happened.

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Well said

Riley69 said:

There have been times I've felt very submissive when I've sucked a man's cock. Truthfully, it really depended on the man I was with at the time. Some of my male lovers became more "manly" the longer we were together, so I started to feel more submissive. I loved being suddenly dragged to a private area, pushed down to my knees and suddenly finding his cockhead pushing its way between my lips!!! I would always feel out of breath and very submissive at that time. And, feeling my lover's cock thicken in my mouth until rock hard and feeling him start to tremble, and knowing his hot load was so close to filling my mouth. In many ways, I loved the feeling of being submissive for those certain men at those times.

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I love the submissiveness of sucking a cock!

smithalex1955 said:

I prefer to be on my knees when I suck cock. It doesn't matter if he's standing or sitting. I just want full access to every inch of his cock and balls. I also love when we make eye contact and he can see his hard cock being sucked repeatedly into my willing mouth. His facial expressions as hot cum spurts out of his cock are what keeps me coming back, knowing that I have pleasured him and swallowed his semen. I guess that you could call me submissive.

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ooohh gets me hard!(blushes shyly)

IntrovertWantsOut said:

I've thought more about this in light of a conversation with someone else now.

For me, thinking about cock = feeling like a slut.
(I'm not saying this is true for anyone else.)
The desire for cock overwhelms me at times, sometimes without any warning. I'm just suddenly horny for cock, and I want one in my mouth, one in my ass, and I want them to be huge and cum in me and then splatter all over me. I want to be on my back in a circle of guys who take turns fucking my ass, and if anyone needs to cum before his turn, he can shoot of my face or chest.
I don't even want to cum.
I just want to be fucked.
But eventually I do cum and then it's all over.
I'm back to normal as if nothing ever happened.

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I'm right here in Orlando 'Introvert!

I am vers., so to take a cock in my mouth or ass, or have my cock sucked, or fucking an ass, they all are just a means to an end. Also being bisexual, I have not desired a Dom/sub roll in any of the sex I have engaged in. Not to say I am completely vanilla. Vouyerism, exhibitionism, roll playing, all have been part of the apatite. I just focus on pleasing the cock sliding into my mouth when fortunate enough to find a stiffy.

My relationships with women have always fallen into a normal range. Not vanilla, but not particularly dominating or submissive. With my thing with guys, domination/submission, top and bottom roles are essential.

No, I don't feel submissive. I would describe it as feeling sensual and hungry. It's so satisfying to feel his hardness in my mouth that all I can think about pleasing him so much that he cums. That is my reward. But I'm not submitting, I'm fulfilling my needs by pleasing him. I'm working his cock with a desire to milk him. If he tries to get dominant I leave.

I have given this a lot of thought. And I hope the group will respond to my comments and questions here.

I have slowly discovered how turned on I am by seeing images and video of both intersexual sex with transsexuals and gay sex. It awakened desires I never knew that I had. I am still not and will likely never be attracted to men, especially romantically. I just don't have any such feelings. But I find a stiff cock to be absolutely hypnotic. After having sucked several guys to completion and loving it, I now fantasize about being topped bareback and having a partner cum inside me. It is an intense desire.

The logical side of me has fought off actually doing this. But when my libido kicks in out of the blue, I find myself shaking at the thought of going through with it.

Today, I parked at a hotel next to where I get my hair cut. It was the scene of an encounter that I had with a guy a few years ago. I thought I had put this out of my mind. But when I walked past where I had my rendezvous, it awakened deep erotic desires. I found myself twitching and short of breath thinking about sucking cock and feeling a guy's stiff cock rubbing mine. If someone had opened their hotel room door and motioned me in at that moment, I would have walked in willingly and done whatever I was asked to do.

Driving home, I thought about that moment. The logical side said, "But you are married. You have a wife who loves you. Okay, she lost the desire for sex years ago, and perhaps that is what led you to this point. But shouldn't you be focusing on staying faithful above everything else? Think for a moment all that you would lose if you were caught with a guy —*your marriage, your home, your career, your reputation. What if the man you met was HIV positive? Are your urges worth that risk?"

That all makes sense. But the illogical side of me feels completely powerless. Sucking cock is such a deliriously incredible experience for me. And any video or .gifs that I have seen of the initial penetration of a cock sliding into a guy's ass leaves me breathlessly shaking, even though I have never enjoyed the experience. It is an overwhelming thought.

I am a people-pleaser at heart. I was brought up in a conservative Midwestern Catholic family and programmed to be repulsed by gay sex. But years of life on my own and stumbling across gay and transsexual sex thanks to the internet shattered all that programming. The idea and dynamic of pleasing a guy fits the people-pleaser that I am. Why now at this stage of my life I learned to feel this way, when I find women so beautiful, remains a mystery.

I am stuck. I have no idea how to find someone who could be discreet, who would be patient, and would guide me to be the bottom that I fantasize about being. I would love your ideas on how I could meet someone safe who could seduce me and bring me into the world of gay sex.

My being here and writing these words speaks volumes of what I have become.

Please, if you could reflect on what I have written here and provide your thoughts and perspective in response, that would help more than you know. Thank you!

I have given this a lot of thought. And I hope the group will respond to my comments and questions here.

I have slowly discovered how turned on I am by seeing images and video of both intersexual sex with transsexuals and gay sex. It awakened desires I never knew that I had. I am still not and will likely never be attracted to men, especially romantically. I just don't have any such feelings. But I find a stiff cock to be absolutely hypnotic. After having sucked several guys to completion and loving it, I now fantasize about being topped bareback and having a partner cum inside me. It is an intense desire.

The logical side of me has fought off actually doing this. But when my libido kicks in out of the blue, I find myself shaking at the thought of going through with it.

Today, I parked at a hotel next to where I get my hair cut. It was the scene of an encounter that I had with a guy a few years ago. I thought I had put this out of my mind. But when I walked past where I had my rendezvous, it awakened deep erotic desires. I found myself twitching and short of breath thinking about sucking cock and feeling a guy's stiff cock rubbing mine. If someone had opened their hotel room door and motioned me in at that moment, I would have walked in willingly and done whatever I was asked to do.

Driving home, I thought about that moment. The logical side said, "But you are married. You have a wife who loves you. Okay, she lost the desire for sex years ago, and perhaps that is what led you to this point. But shouldn't you be focusing on staying faithful above everything else? Think for a moment all that you would lose if you were caught with a guy —*your marriage, your home, your career, your reputation. What if the man you met was HIV positive? Are your urges worth that risk?"

That all makes sense. But the illogical side of me feels completely powerless. Sucking cock is such a deliriously incredible experience for me. And any video or .gifs that I have seen of the initial penetration of a cock sliding into a guy's ass leaves me breathlessly shaking, even though I have never enjoyed the experience. It is an overwhelming thought.

I am a people-pleaser at heart. I was brought up in a conservative Midwestern Catholic family and programmed to be repulsed by gay sex. But years of life on my own and stumbling across gay and transsexual sex thanks to the internet shattered all that programming. The idea and dynamic of pleasing a guy fits the people-pleaser that I am. Why now at this stage of my life I learned to feel this way, when I find women so beautiful, remains a mystery.

I am stuck. I have no idea how to find someone who could be discreet, who would be patient, and would guide me to be the bottom that I fantasize about being. I would love your ideas on how I could meet someone safe who could seduce me and bring me into the world of gay sex.

My being here and writing these words speaks volumes of what I have become.

Please, if you could reflect on what I have written here and provide your thoughts and perspective in response, that would help more than you know. Thank you!