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Old 04-18-2019, 09:50 PM   #1
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Question Are there non-sexual, non-fetish things that enhace your sessions?

(1) Music?
(2) Lighting?
(3) Candles?
(4) Bathing?
(5) Food or beverages?
(6) Setting?

Personally, I like all the above in various combinations. A hot bath, shared with my S O, to classical music or nature sounds, with wine and strawberries; for example.

Tell me what you like. I'm curious.
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Old 04-18-2019, 11:54 PM   #2
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Old 04-19-2019, 12:05 AM   #3
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A partner who can talk dirty interspersed with a large vocabulary. But I'm a nerd like that.
Now you're going to get guys bragging on how many words they know for "penis".

For me (a few):

Sensory deprivation is one; a simple blindfold or ear plugs.

80s music that we used to make out to in my car.

Being in a tent.
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Old 04-19-2019, 02:08 AM   #4
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Fresh air, clean sheets are a good start.
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Old 04-19-2019, 08:12 AM   #5
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Now you're going to get guys bragging on how many words they know for "penis".

For me (a few):

Sensory deprivation is one; a simple blindfold or ear plugs.

80s music that we used to make out to in my car.

Being in a tent.

I like your list. And, hey... I love it when an "alpha" or a "bull" makes up words for what they belive to be their personal gift to humanity as they tell you the unnaturally stupid thing they plan to do with it. Don't you?
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Old 04-19-2019, 08:33 AM   #6
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I like your list. And, hey... I love it when an "alpha" or a "bull" makes up words for what they belive to be their personal gift to humanity as they tell you the unnaturally stupid thing they plan to do with it. Don't you?
It's amusing if nothing else.
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Old 04-19-2019, 07:01 PM   #7
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I would say being somewhere really cosy, like on a soft blanket with lots of cushions around, rose-petals scattered about are nice, soft mood lighting
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I would say being somewhere really cosy, like on a soft blanket with lots of cushions around, rose-petals scattered about are nice, soft mood lighting
Rose petals!
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Old 04-19-2019, 11:08 PM   #9
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Bedding: black silk sheets.
Implements of the day layed out on them also help to set the mood ))
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A four star hotel room...gets me hot every time. Especially if your just using the room for a quick afternoon delight yummy!
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Old 04-20-2019, 12:30 PM   #11
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Bedding: black silk sheets.
Implements of the day layed out on them also help to set the mood ))
You see, I’d be thinking of laundry with silk sheets...

Jewellery though...
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Old 04-20-2019, 01:02 PM   #12
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Setting and buildup are everything, I think

I would begin with a surprise day trip. Even if it is just a part of your own state to which you have never been. We would pack only what we need for an afternoon. (Except for the surprises I've already packed.) After enjoying a long drive in the morning, with a few stops to explore the sights along the way, we'd stop at a nice hotel, with a view of either the woods or a beach. I'm partial to the woods. We would begin with a hot bath. I would bathe her in scented oils, in a room lit by soft candle light. We would share a nice wine and an assortment of fruit. I would lie her to the bed, placing soft kisses on every part of her...

That's the short build up.
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A four star hotel room...gets me hot every time. Especially if your just using the room for a quick afternoon delight yummy!
I’ll second that.
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You see, I’d be thinking of laundry with silk sheets...

Jewellery though...
What's wrong with laundry? Gentle setting on a regular washing machine works just fine.
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What's wrong with laundry? Gentle setting on a regular washing machine works just fine.
I’ll defer on this one - and anyway, Name A Stain You Appreciate Today is better suited to the Inappropriate Thread Titles thread...
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