JohnOne
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- Mar 23, 2002
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Feeling like a victim of over-zealousness
I don't really expect a reply to this - especially seeing as no one has posted to this thread for 3 weeks - but for those who might stumble upon it, and for my own catharsis, I feel like I should respond.
I just started reading and posting to the forums about 4 weeks ago. I was new and was still trying to figure out how things worked.
I have a penchant for spanking and I'm also a switch: l like being on both sides of the experience. Now, I know that men tend to like different things than women sometimes. I love looking at pictures of women being spanked and, naturally, being a switch, I wondered if there might be women who are either Doms or switches themselves who enjoy looking at pictures of men being spanked. A while back I had a picture taken of myself after being spanked with a cane, and I thought it would be fun - kind of exciting in an exhibitionistic sort of way - to have it posted on the net, but I wasn't sure if women would really be interested so before I bothered to post the picture I thought I would ask. Being new to the forums, I mistakenly thought that the BDSM forum would be the logical place to find women who shared my interest in spanking and therefore that this forum would be the natural place to post.
As I recall I went back very shortly after posting to see if anyone had replied. At first my post was missing. I had posted to a couple of other threads in other forums and those posts were still there, but this new thread was gone. Eventually - and I don't remember exactly how it came about - but I found my thread moved to the Personals forum.
There was a single reply to my thread which read as follows:
"This seems like a photo-personals ad to me. It doesn't belong in the forum, I don't think--particularly since it was posted right below a long thread devoted to posting pics and art...."
That's what tipped me off that I had violated some rule of the forum (I later discovered that personal ads, which my post was apparently considered - though I didn't think of it that way when I wrote it - were not allowed in the BDSM forum.) Had it ended there I would have accepted it without much more thought other than that the language seemed to me to be rather curt. However the next sentence went on to say:
"Clearly, this person's just soliciting cyber."
This was obviously a judgmental statement and I felt a bit hurt but brushed it off thinking that perhaps this person was just a woman who hated men or some such thing. However, it came from a person who was obviously a very experienced person in this forum, having something like 2,000 posts, and it did give me the impression that this particular forum was NOT a safe play to be.
Now, after almost 4 weeks of avoiding this forum, I came across this thread, and now I think that perhaps the person's response was more a reaction to the spamming problem. This seems especially likely when I go back to my previous post and look at the timeline. This thread was written just a half-hour after my thread was posted. And the reply I received was written by another person within this forum another 2 hours later.
I remember watching an NBA basketball game several years ago in which the referees seemed to have a bias against one particular team. Eventually the star player of that team (Clyde Drexler) had had enough and when he mistakenly thought he was fouled he lashed out verbally at the referee and was ejected from the game. My guess is that the same thing happened here. Someone tired of dealing with all the spam crap (as the originator of this thread put it), read a posting that appeared to them to have similarities to those postings and lashed out. However, there are distinct differences as well: There were no links or e-mail addresses in my post and I didn't even post the picture that I wanted to post because I was waiting to see if there was even any interest.
In the very off-chance that anyone actually reads through this tome of a reply and wishes to read my actual post, it reads as follows (and I am cutting and pasting it verbatum from the original thread):
"I was wondering if there are any women out there who like to see pictures of men being spanked. I have one of myself strapped down with some really nice cane marks which I would post if I knew that there were at least one woman who would be interested in seeing it."
The other person's reply has already been given without any omissions or deletions.
And, now, having made my therapeutic peace, perhaps I will begin to see what this forum has to offer - even though I will probably feel like I'm walking on eggshells every time I want to say something.
I don't really expect a reply to this - especially seeing as no one has posted to this thread for 3 weeks - but for those who might stumble upon it, and for my own catharsis, I feel like I should respond.
I just started reading and posting to the forums about 4 weeks ago. I was new and was still trying to figure out how things worked.
I have a penchant for spanking and I'm also a switch: l like being on both sides of the experience. Now, I know that men tend to like different things than women sometimes. I love looking at pictures of women being spanked and, naturally, being a switch, I wondered if there might be women who are either Doms or switches themselves who enjoy looking at pictures of men being spanked. A while back I had a picture taken of myself after being spanked with a cane, and I thought it would be fun - kind of exciting in an exhibitionistic sort of way - to have it posted on the net, but I wasn't sure if women would really be interested so before I bothered to post the picture I thought I would ask. Being new to the forums, I mistakenly thought that the BDSM forum would be the logical place to find women who shared my interest in spanking and therefore that this forum would be the natural place to post.
As I recall I went back very shortly after posting to see if anyone had replied. At first my post was missing. I had posted to a couple of other threads in other forums and those posts were still there, but this new thread was gone. Eventually - and I don't remember exactly how it came about - but I found my thread moved to the Personals forum.
There was a single reply to my thread which read as follows:
"This seems like a photo-personals ad to me. It doesn't belong in the forum, I don't think--particularly since it was posted right below a long thread devoted to posting pics and art...."
That's what tipped me off that I had violated some rule of the forum (I later discovered that personal ads, which my post was apparently considered - though I didn't think of it that way when I wrote it - were not allowed in the BDSM forum.) Had it ended there I would have accepted it without much more thought other than that the language seemed to me to be rather curt. However the next sentence went on to say:
"Clearly, this person's just soliciting cyber."
This was obviously a judgmental statement and I felt a bit hurt but brushed it off thinking that perhaps this person was just a woman who hated men or some such thing. However, it came from a person who was obviously a very experienced person in this forum, having something like 2,000 posts, and it did give me the impression that this particular forum was NOT a safe play to be.
Now, after almost 4 weeks of avoiding this forum, I came across this thread, and now I think that perhaps the person's response was more a reaction to the spamming problem. This seems especially likely when I go back to my previous post and look at the timeline. This thread was written just a half-hour after my thread was posted. And the reply I received was written by another person within this forum another 2 hours later.
I remember watching an NBA basketball game several years ago in which the referees seemed to have a bias against one particular team. Eventually the star player of that team (Clyde Drexler) had had enough and when he mistakenly thought he was fouled he lashed out verbally at the referee and was ejected from the game. My guess is that the same thing happened here. Someone tired of dealing with all the spam crap (as the originator of this thread put it), read a posting that appeared to them to have similarities to those postings and lashed out. However, there are distinct differences as well: There were no links or e-mail addresses in my post and I didn't even post the picture that I wanted to post because I was waiting to see if there was even any interest.
In the very off-chance that anyone actually reads through this tome of a reply and wishes to read my actual post, it reads as follows (and I am cutting and pasting it verbatum from the original thread):
"I was wondering if there are any women out there who like to see pictures of men being spanked. I have one of myself strapped down with some really nice cane marks which I would post if I knew that there were at least one woman who would be interested in seeing it."
The other person's reply has already been given without any omissions or deletions.
And, now, having made my therapeutic peace, perhaps I will begin to see what this forum has to offer - even though I will probably feel like I'm walking on eggshells every time I want to say something.