I’ve been with my girlfriend about 3 years. We’ve never had sex. Due to financial stress, potential medical conditions, & a traumatizing past she doesn’t have much of a sex drive. The topic has lightly been brought up in the past, but the other day we had a long conversation.
We occasionally live together when she stays with me for long periods which is new territory for both of us. She wants to wait for it to naturally happen. She admitted that when she’s thought about having sex with me in the past, she’s also thought about possible bad things that could happen to lose her mood. I told her I’ve been masturbating since I didn’t want to pressure her into something she’s not ready for. She thought I was having sex on the side and said she wouldn’t have been mad if I did.
So this past week my sex drive has been high. I’m not sure what I should do. I’ve been thinking about having sex a lot to the point where I’m masturbating multiple times a day. Should I keep doing that? Should I get her permission to find some on the side? Is there another option?
I love her and plan on marrying her one day so breaking up isn’t an option.
We occasionally live together when she stays with me for long periods which is new territory for both of us. She wants to wait for it to naturally happen. She admitted that when she’s thought about having sex with me in the past, she’s also thought about possible bad things that could happen to lose her mood. I told her I’ve been masturbating since I didn’t want to pressure her into something she’s not ready for. She thought I was having sex on the side and said she wouldn’t have been mad if I did.
So this past week my sex drive has been high. I’m not sure what I should do. I’ve been thinking about having sex a lot to the point where I’m masturbating multiple times a day. Should I keep doing that? Should I get her permission to find some on the side? Is there another option?
I love her and plan on marrying her one day so breaking up isn’t an option.