KoPilot
Obscene Epicene
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*shrug*
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Every group has it's internal strife.
A cabal? a conspiracy where you PM each other at the first sign of resistance, howling for blood as you surround the prey? no.
I resort to visceral imagery too fast. these boards are just so cliquish. I think that may have something to do with it though. With my rage.
Is it rage? or jealousy?
I've said it before, and I'll say it again. People supposedly get online to unwind, to de-stress and to enjoy themselves. The moment it becomes stressful and not fun then it's time to LEAVE. This has nothing to do with not wanting anyone here or as a personal attack. If it's not fun and rewarding to come to Lit (or any other place online), then WHY are you doing it? I mean, I know this is a board full of masochists, but ... really?
You know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results. If every time you log on you leave mad, stressed out, and unhappy, why would the next time be different? And it's not like you can't come back if you get into a different head space.
Every board is cliquish, really.
Humans are social animals, with tribal tendencies. When you're on the outside, it's a clique. When you're on the inside, it's just a group of like-minded friends or acquaintances.
Anyways, I think it's wholly possible to get camaraderie online without the drama. But, you know, that sort of thing generally requires all parties involved have more than a single thing in common. Communities rarely get built around one freakin point of contact.
BiBunny, have you seen this old DGE thread?
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=689905
Clusterfuck free! Check it out.
Yes! Make haste! To the zone which is, at present, relatively free of clusterfucks!
Thank you for digging that thread up. It was a fun re-read.
I'd like to equip everyone in this thread with padded sumo suits, and nitrous, on grassy lawns, on a perfect spring day.
I know it's been a over a month since I got laid, and I'm kinda emotionally screwy so I'm not going to post the obvious train of thought about Deeg and clusters of fuck.
I'd settle for a good old fashioned quaalude ... or three.
Which color were you supposed to remove? I've forgotten...I am putting them out for you, in a little bowl, mixed with the peanut M&Ms.
Which color were you supposed to remove? I've forgotten...
Let's change it to the yellow ones then. Because if you want blue M&Ms you should have them, and nobody cares about the yellow ones.blue ones
which is a shame, cos the blue ones tasted the best.
Which color were you supposed to remove? I've forgotten...
Humans are social animals, with tribal tendencies. When you're on the outside, it's a clique. When you're on the inside, it's just a group of like-minded friends or acquaintances.
You, (general 'you') have to decide what you want out of an online community. In the past, I've caught myself getting wound up in arguments here and feeling hurt. Like ITW said, however, usually when I go back and read over what was written, I'm left wondering what made me so angry or upset.
I actually enjoy the heated debates now. Having people like Stella, Netz, Homburg, JM, and others, around has made me refine my ideas and the way I present them. Engaging in that level of sharp, unflinching debate has made me better at presenting solid arguments in real life. A good skill to develop.
But if you're just coming here for fun and laughs, then avoid the arguments. It's easy to walk away from an online fight. It comes down to knowing what you want.
Some rock band was famous for it-- but that was long before blue M&Ms were happening as I recall.Why are you supposed to remove blue m&m's?
Some rock band was famous for it-- but that was long before blue M&Ms were happening as I recall.
teknight liked poking at people. I don't even remember that thread but my vague recollection of him is like a kid running in to the room and going 'nyah nyah' and then getting bored and yelling, oh whatever, didn't mean it.
My experience feeling hurt or riled up on the internet -- sometimes on these forums it's easy to perceive things a certain way and just kind of run with it in your mind. I've gone back later and sometimes realized I completely misread the other person, expressed myself incorrectly or even thought someone said something that was never even said.
On the other side - I've just noticed a pattern in the posts of those expressing their hurt feelings or offense (not just in this thread - I'm also reminded of the recent exchange about guns in the political thread). It's always (1) my argument is X (2) in response to others addressing the points raised in X, hurt poster says, you just don't get me, so forget it, why do I bother, and then (3) others explain their argument again and in more detail, to which hurt poster replies oh sure, put words in my fucking mouth, that's just great, fuck you!
I'm tired of arguing with people and then having to navigate their freak out. Seriously, meet me halfway, try and understand my point.
Well, put. However, the point still is on enjoying yourself. If you [general you] don't enjoy the arguments either stay out of them or don't come here anymore.
Hmmm.
I don't do that very well myself. I state my opinion and then bolt, partly because of time constraints, but also because it's more fun, because it's my opinion, dammit.
What do you think of that, he asks, mirroringly?
You're making my day here, woman! Have you been to the show?
I've said it before, and I'll say it again. People supposedly get online to unwind, to de-stress and to enjoy themselves. The moment it becomes stressful and not fun then it's time to LEAVE. This has nothing to do with not wanting anyone here or as a personal attack. If it's not fun and rewarding to come to Lit (or any other place online), then WHY are you doing it? I mean, I know this is a board full of masochists, but ... really?
You know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results. If every time you log on you leave mad, stressed out, and unhappy, why would the next time be different? And it's not like you can't come back if you get into a different head space.
And yet, I thought that was exactly what we were doing, trying to understand each other's points and meeting everyone halfway.
Sometimes y'all aren't asking for halfway, you're asking for 80% of the way, and that's not really what I'd call fair. If I'm explaining myself and not being "heard" and y'all are explaining yourselves and not feeling heard, there is a fundamental disconnect somewhere that can't be traversed no matter what. What's the point then of continuining the conversation, especially when there are hurt feelings involved? Some people have to know when to leave and bow out. Why is that suddenly a problem? Did you want me to stay while I was mad and continue feeling like I was being shamed and disrespected, because that's not "coming halfway" at all. Beyond everything, this is supposed to be my me time, and I'm not going to participate if I'm not happy. If that makes YOU unhappy, I can't do anything about that.
I didn't ask a single person to "navigate my freakout", I left to go chill out. I handled it, so I think that's a little unfair.
QFT.