How to give a hand job?

I just got something in my email. Clearly they are trying to sell me something that I won't be buying but the woman in the video is claiming that men can't stand for us to give them hand jobs because we don't know how to do them. She claims that they are painful for them to receive and that they will put up with the pain then lie to us and say that we did a good job.

Mainly she is droning on using fancy terms for different ways to stroke them. And of course we would have to purchase something to learn about the sock technique or the twister. So... Guys?

Is it true? Most women haven't a clue? If so, what we doing wrong? And what should we be doing?

In thinking about, most of the men I've been with did not seem to want a hand job, and if I did give them one, they rushed me through it and had me do the opposite of what I wanted to do. I wanted to just slow down and explore them to see what felt good.

Instead, they would sort of grab my hand, force me to grip their cock really hard. No lube. And then they just wanted me to squeeze hard and rub my hand up and down the shaft really quickly and make them cum as quickly a I could. Frankly that wasn't very enjoyable for me and it didn't seem enjoyable for them. But they did seem to be relieved when it was over.

Ack! I have to shut off this video. $37. Nope. And she seems to be spewing lies with her "Stroke of Genius". Ha! Nope. I'll just ask here.

Jada59 said:

I just got something in my email. Clearly they are trying to sell me something that I won't be buying but the woman in the video is claiming that men can't stand for us to give them hand jobs because we don't know how to do them. She claims that they are painful for them to receive and that they will put up with the pain then lie to us and say that we did a good job.

Mainly she is droning on using fancy terms for different ways to stroke them. And of course we would have to purchase something to learn about the sock technique or the twister. So... Guys?

Is it true? Most women haven't a clue? If so, what we doing wrong? And what should we be doing?

In thinking about, most of the men I've been with did not seem to want a hand job, and if I did give them one, they rushed me through it and had me do the opposite of what I wanted to do. I wanted to just slow down and explore them to see what felt good.

Instead, they would sort of grab my hand, force me to grip their cock really hard. No lube. And then they just wanted me to squeeze hard and rub my hand up and down the shaft really quickly and make them cum as quickly a I could. Frankly that wasn't very enjoyable for me and it didn't seem enjoyable for them. But they did seem to be relieved when it was over.

Ack! I have to shut off this video. $37. Nope. And she seems to be spewing lies with her "Stroke of Genius". Ha! Nope. I'll just ask here.

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I am and have been a huge fan of handjobs for years.
My wife is amazing at this, so much so that I have suggested she give lessons and use me to demonstrate.
She can make me last an hour or finish me in a couple of minutes and it is always up to her.
She knows that I will not refuse her regardless of when or where she decides to jerk me off.

Jada59 said:

I just got something in my email. Clearly they are trying to sell me something that I won't be buying but the woman in the video is claiming that men can't stand for us to give them hand jobs because we don't know how to do them. She claims that they are painful for them to receive and that they will put up with the pain then lie to us and say that we did a good job.

Mainly she is droning on using fancy terms for different ways to stroke them. And of course we would have to purchase something to learn about the sock technique or the twister. So... Guys?

Is it true? Most women haven't a clue? If so, what we doing wrong? And what should we be doing?

In thinking about, most of the men I've been with did not seem to want a hand job, and if I did give them one, they rushed me through it and had me do the opposite of what I wanted to do. I wanted to just slow down and explore them to see what felt good.

Instead, they would sort of grab my hand, force me to grip their cock really hard. No lube. And then they just wanted me to squeeze hard and rub my hand up and down the shaft really quickly and make them cum as quickly a I could. Frankly that wasn't very enjoyable for me and it didn't seem enjoyable for them. But they did seem to be relieved when it was over.

Ack! I have to shut off this video. $37. Nope. And she seems to be spewing lies with her "Stroke of Genius". Ha! Nope. I'll just ask here.

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I have enjoyed every hand job I have ever received. I would much rather the woman take control and do what she wants to do. I do not know, but its seems the guys you were talking about are either very new to sex in general or just have no idea what to do with their cocks.

I would never want to rush a handjob! And I would not really want the woman to gripe me with a hand of steel!

Well I don't think this is true at all. I like hjs very much and in my (regrettably not very extensive) experience, most women are good at it. I mean, it's not that difficult to touch someone, detect whether they like it or not, and try different things until you find what they like best.

It's not rocket science. You need a medium grip, not too hard and not too gentle, and move your hand up and down pulling the skin up and down with it (not too far or it does get painful). No lube is needed.

I don’t ever remember getting a bad hand job. Being a handy fan, I have had a lot of them over the years too! My wife is a fan too, so her enthusiasm makes them even better!

Erosfan said:

I am and have been a huge fan of handjobs for years.
My wife is amazing at this, so much so that I have suggested she give lessons and use me to demonstrate.
She can make me last an hour or finish me in a couple of minutes and it is always up to her.
She knows that I will not refuse her regardless of when or where she decides to jerk me off.

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Very nice!

hotoldrguy said:

I have enjoyed every hand job I have ever received. I would much rather the woman take control and do what she wants to do. I do not know, but its seems the guys you were talking about are either very new to sex in general or just have no idea what to do with their cocks.

I would never want to rush a handjob! And I would not really want the woman to gripe me with a hand of steel!

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Yeah. The more I read here on Lit, the more I think I don't know. Now two of the guys I was with, didn't want to rush things but I also don't remember giving them too many hand jobs to the finish. Both of those guys liked marathon sex so we would do a variety of things.

I did find it odd that the others seemed to have this goal of getting sex over as quickly as possible. I did eventually learn that one of them hated sex. Not sure why. I suspected that he might really be gay or maybe it was a psychological thing as he had other hangups.

I also understand why people might want/need a quickie at times. But every time? That sounded odd to me.

hadruprider said:

Well I don't think this is true at all. I like hjs very much and in my (regrettably not very extensive) experience, most women are good at it. I mean, it's not that difficult to touch someone, detect whether they like it or not, and try different things until you find what they like best.

It's not rocket science. You need a medium grip, not too hard and not too gentle, and move your hand up and down pulling the skin up and down with it (not too far or it does get painful). No lube is needed.

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Thanks!

Klinkster said:

I don’t ever remember getting a bad hand job. Being a handy fan, I have had a lot of them over the years too! My wife is a fan too, so her enthusiasm makes them even better!

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Oh good! The woman from the video claimed that she had destroyed his penis. That he ran to the bathroom in tears and when he came out, it was all shriveled and red and he was in horrible pain. Of course this left me wondering what she did to it. And the more the video played, the more comical it became. I think the intent was to frighten us so badly and make us think that we were going around destroying cocks, so we would buy whatever it was that she was selling. She never really said what it was but she did say that we had agreed that it was worth at least $99 and she was going to let us buy it for only $37. Ha@

My wife’s hands are always magic on my cock and balls. So precise and controllable! She can make me moan with pleasure or with pain at her discretion. She can prolong her play or finish me off quickly. She can concentrate on my cock, then on my balls, or both areas at once if she desires. I absolutely love handjobs . Thankfully she does too.

Joeknoxville said:

My wife’s hands are always magic on my cock and balls. So precise and controllable! She can make me moan with pleasure or with pain at her discretion. She can prolong her play or finish me off quickly. She can concentrate on my cock, then on my balls, or both areas at once if she desires. I absolutely love handjobs . Thankfully she does too.

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Very nice!

It works for us. Many nights I’ll go down on her and work on her pussy until she just can’t take any more and then she will use her hands on me. We both really enjoy it!

Ponds Cold Cream.

They used to use it on trombone slides.

Jada59 said:

Oh good! The woman from the video claimed that she had destroyed his penis. That he ran to the bathroom in tears and when he came out, it was all shriveled and red and he was in horrible pain. Of course this left me wondering what she did to it.

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Sandpaper gloves, perhaps?

I think that, if a woman is skilled and - critically - is enthusiastic about it (as opposed to, "He spent $75 on dinner, so I'd best give him something!"), then manual sex (see how that title changes things?) can be a lot of fun.

Spending $37 on DVD or something, not so much.

On reflection, 'advice' sites keep telling men, "Asks her what she likes and then do that." The same columns keep telling women, "Don't be afraid or embarrassed to say what turns you on." Is a hand/jill job any different?

This is one of those cases where it's as much about the journey as the destination. Both of them should relax and have fun.

The handjob has been demoted in popular culture from the ‘Hey, I really like you’ enough to touch “It” to something openly joked about on broadcast TV.

That has nothing to do with the question, so to be on topic, is it actually possible to give a ‘bad’ handjob?

And if it is, how can that be when most guys probably gave themselves about 300 of them before any damsel ever tried?

bone251 said:

Ponds Cold Cream.

They used to use it on trombone slides.

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Do they even make that stuff any more? When I acted on stage, we used Crisco for makeup remover. A big tub of that was far less expensive than cold cream. Hell on skin though. I'd always break out from it, no matter what I used afterwards to wash it off with.

I personally love coconut oil if I need lube. Any excess is absorbed right into the skin.

But is it true that lube will make the guy cum really fast? Somebody told me this. I suppose that could vary from person to person.

Gamine67 said:

The handjob has been demoted in popular culture from the ‘Hey, I really like you’ enough to touch “It” to something openly joked about on broadcast TV.

That has nothing to do with the question, so to be on topic, is it actually possible to give a ‘bad’ handjob?

And if it is, how can that be when most guys probably gave themselves about 300 of them before any damsel ever tried?

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The funny thing about this stupid video (and it was just words on the screen but no pics) was this woman claimed she had gone out with "Brian". She liked Brian and wanted him to be her boyfriend but she didn't want him to think that she was a slut so she told him that she would give him a hand job rather than sleep with him. Funnier still was that this hand job took place in Brian's bed.

Uh oh Brian. Don't you dare fall asleep! That will make her a slut!

In my mind, what's the difference between a hand job or any other form of sex in terms of how she was thinking!? It's still sex on the first date. Not that I personally think that sex on the first date is a bad thing. There are just too many variables there.

But poor Brian left the bed screaming in pain and was in the bathroom for something like 10 minutes before he came out defeated and showed her his badly damaged cock. It was all red and raw and sore. And of course he wanted her to leave, despite him not having an orgasm. Now he couldn't have one. Not for a very long time as his cock was so badly damaged.

What the heck did she do to him? Maybe she had on one of those winter gloves with the grippy dots on the palm? Brillo pad hidden in palm? Sandpaper glued to her fingers? Forgot that she had wrapped her hand in barbed wire? Mistook the Jalapeno Jelly for KY Jelly?

Then Brian told her that she had the hand job all wrong. And that all of those other guys she had been with (and there seemed to have been many) had all lied to her about how well she did in the hand job department. He said all men do this so they don't hurt our feelings.

Now I can't say that I've been with a ton of men. But any time I have done something to them that they didn't like, didn't feel good or just plain wasn't working, they said something like, "Stop!" And then they went on from there. In some cases it was a matter of something like... Don't ever touch me there again. Or... Playing with my nipples does nothing for me. Or they simply moved my hand or whatever else I was using so I knew what they *did* want.

But not Brian. She even said that he just stiffened up. Not his cock but the rest of his body. He gritted his teeth and clamped his eyes shut in an attempt to be able to take the pain she was giving him. Until he could take no more. Perhaps he thought she had drawn blood or something!

She then droned on about all the research she did on giving hand jobs. Apparently the Internet was no help. It only told her to use plenty of lube. And watching porn only confused her.

So she took a large, stiff cucumber to a female Asian massage therapist and paid her to give the cucumber a hand job.


Then she went to a prostate specialist and paid him to show her all the parts of a man and which ones gave him the most pleasure.

My mind began to shut down and I think I just mentally skipped over a lot of it but she finally got to the point where she summoned up enough nerve to contact Brian again. Of course he was very fearful of her.

She promised Brian that she would make it up to him and give him a proper hand job. But Brian was so very fearful that he really didn't want her to give him a second one. It took a lot of convincing to get her hand anywhere near Brian's cock but eventually he let her do it and it was all good.

Now she goes around teaching women how to give hand jobs. But not her mom because that would be weird. I had to shut the video off at that point.

But... If she had just taken pics of all this, then she might have a winner. I might even watch a porno with that plot. Would probably be comical but I still would watch it.

I don't know about the TV stuff. I quit watching TV some time ago so I guess I am rather out of the loop there. I just see this as something that attempts to play on the fears of women. Most likely younger ones who haven't been with many men.

electricblue66 said:

Sandpaper gloves, perhaps?

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Crap! I should have read that before I wrote out my long winded reply to someone else.

TarnishedPenny said:

I think that, if a woman is skilled and - critically - is enthusiastic about it (as opposed to, "He spent $75 on dinner, so I'd best give him something!"), then manual sex (see how that title changes things?) can be a lot of fun.

Spending $37 on DVD or something, not so much.

On reflection, 'advice' sites keep telling men, "Asks her what she likes and then do that." The same columns keep telling women, "Don't be afraid or embarrassed to say what turns you on." Is a hand/jill job any different?

This is one of those cases where it's as much about the journey as the destination. Both of them should relax and have fun.

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To me, a hand job is still sex. Yeah, it is probably next to impossible to get pregnant or some disease if that's all you do. But what about communication? That seems like the simple thing. And yes so many seem not to do it.

I am thinking of things that guys have said to me over the years, both online and IRL. I don't want to give specifics but some of these guys seemed to think that all women share a brain or something. Their ex liked a certain thing so they assumed that I would like it too! I don't get that at all. Men are not all alike and cocks are not all alike. What works for one person isn't necessarily going to work for another. And I do very much agree on the relaxing and fun.

One thing for me that flat out takes the fun out of sex is if the guy had it all planned out in his mind before hand. We're going to do this position for so many minutes and then we're going to switch to that... Yeah, nice fantasy but winging it is far more fun for me. When one slight little thing goes wrong, a person like that can't seem to get over it. Then they shut down and the sex is over. While they lie there wallowing in their own pity because it didn't all play out like they thought it should.

Jada59 said:

Do they even make that stuff any more? When I acted on stage, we used Crisco for makeup remover. A big tub of that was far less expensive than cold cream. Hell on skin though. I'd always break out from it, no matter what I used afterwards to wash it off with.

I personally love coconut oil if I need lube. Any excess is absorbed right into the skin.

But is it true that lube will make the guy cum really fast? Somebody told me this. I suppose that could vary from person to person.

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Yes they still sell it.

I had a FWB that liked coconut oil. It was good. But the stuff never cleaned out of the bed sheets. FWB #2 had different sized hands. I had to keep the sheets separate.

Good lube can go real slow. The wife did a tease and denial hand job for an hour every night for more then 2 weeks on our last vacation. The last several days I was close to cumming in a few minutes so obviously for the rest of the hour she had lots of control.

Just seeing a tube of Ponds can make me tremble.

Jada59 said:

Now she goes around teaching women how to give hand jobs. But not her mom because that would be weird. I had to shut the video off at that point.

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You've got to be kidding - with that track record, how is she even remotely qualified?

I mean, every man knows what to do, what suits them - which won't be what suits the next bloke. Are courting relationships so dysfunctional nowadays that a man's not going to say, "Ah, honey, not like that, do xxxxx instead?"

Mind you, I shake my head at some of the "how to" questions that get asked here. Seriously, folk come to a porn site to ask some of this stuff?

"Is there an app for that?" Yes, it's called communication .

electricblue66 said:

You've got to be kidding - with that track record, how is she even remotely qualified?

I mean, every man knows what to do, what suits them - which won't be what suits the next bloke. Are courting relationships so dysfunctional nowadays that a man's not going to say, "Ah, honey, not like that, do xxxxx instead?"

Mind you, I shake my head at some of the "how to" questions that get asked here. Seriously, folk come to a porn site to ask some of this stuff?

"Is there an app for that?" Yes, it's called communication .

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Agree. I just found the whole thing to be rather comical.

bone251 said:

Yes they still sell it.

I had a FWB that liked coconut oil. It was good. But the stuff never cleaned out of the bed sheets. FWB #2 had different sized hands. I had to keep the sheets separate.

Good lube can go real slow. The wife did a tease and denial hand job for an hour every night for more then 2 weeks on our last vacation. The last several days I was close to cumming in a few minutes so obviously for the rest of the hour she had lots of control.

Just seeing a tube of Ponds can make me tremble.

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Interesting! I've had many accidents with coconut oil and it always cleaned out.

Google "klixen handjob"