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Welcome back!Pinnochio said:hi all, back from vacation. good to see this thread is still going.
Pinnochio said:i can definately understand how medication can effect a sex life; i hate being on anti-depressents.
the fact that i'm single doesn't help either. lol
Pinnochio said:i can definately understand how medication can effect a sex life; i hate being on anti-depressents.
the fact that i'm single doesn't help either. lol
Pinnochio said:I'm working on this and may post it in the 'How To' section of stories:
I write this not only for the people who have lived all their lives with a permanent disability but also for the people who are in a relationship with a disability or someone who is facing a drastic physical change which will effect their entire livelihood. It seems that in our society many topics of a sexual nature are becoming more and more mainstream an acceptable in a conversational setting. A topic that still seems to be an uncomfortable show stopper for most people is the sexual activity of the physically disabled. Yes, the physically disabled have sex, and yes having sex with a disabled person may be drastically different than sex with a ‘normal’ person. Here are a few things to think about and remember if you are in a sexual relationship where a physical handicap is present.
1. Conversation: no matter if you’re male or female do not be afraid to talk to your partner about sex. If your partner is physically challenged ask him or what they are comfortable with or what they are willing to try. If you are the one who is challenged explain to your partner what may or may not work, and what is uncomfortable. Don’t be afraid to talk to each other before, during, and after; questions like “Is this ok?”, “Am I doing this right?”, and “Maybe we should try something different?” are all acceptable and logical things to ask.
2. Experiment: Try different positions; if something doesn’t seem to be working change positions. Not all positions will be possible; for example someone wearing leg braces or has back problems may not be able to do things standing up, or may need to lean of something to do this. If a woman wants to be on her knees sucking a man who has trouble standing she needs to make sure his balance is ok. Another main thing is don’t focus on sexual intercourse. Most people think that without intercourse there is no sex but that is wrong. For example someone who may be partially paralyzed may have trouble getting an erection or keeping an erection. Focus on the touching and the kissing of body parts. Even though your partner may not be able to physically feel it they still can feel your warmness emotionally.
You can't change your looks or the wheelchair but you can change the way you feel about yourself. You have to work with what you've got. Keep yourself and your wheelchair clean and presentable. If you rely on a caregiver make cleaning your chair one of their tasks. I do and people often ask if my chair is new. Just a few minutes a day makes a big difference and because the chair is part of you take pride in it. People notice. The wheelchair isn't keeping the women away, something you're doing or not doing is.kkoozz said:Being confined to a wheelchair all my life makes finding a female really hard. I guess my looks don't help either. I just wish I could have a date with a female.
I had similar feelings at one time. But after getting to know two disabled women I started feeling differently. They each had desirable qualities and became more sexually attractive as I got to know them. Feeling sexual attraction for them was unexpected at first but the more I thought about it the better I felt. I started seeing possibilities instead of limitations and that makes all the difference.kkoozz said:Also, I never see myself with another physically handicaped person. I uess I'm afraid of if I can't help myself, how can I help them? Does anyone else thinks/though the same way?
hook848 said:You can't change your looks or the wheelchair but you can change the way you feel about yourself. You have to work with what you've got. Keep yourself and your wheelchair clean and presentable. If you rely on a caregiver make cleaning your chair one of their tasks. I do and people often ask if my chair is new. Just a few minutes a day makes a big difference and because the chair is part of you take pride in it. People notice. The wheelchair isn't keeping the women away, something you're doing or not doing is.
Are you putting yourself in situations where you will meet women? If you have confidence in yourself and make an effort you're bound to meet someone.
I had similar feelings at one time. But after getting to know two disabled women I started feeling differently. They each had desirable qualities and became more sexually attractive as I got to know them. Feeling sexual attraction for them was unexpected at first but the more I thought about it the better I felt. I started seeing possibilities instead of limitations and that makes all the difference.
Pinnochio said:ok guys, here's a topic for discussion. Do you find older women more appealling? i find a mature woman is capable of understanding a mans physical limitations. i'm not say young women aren't mature; many just seem to be more focused on look.
Pinnochio said:man, i just read a news story about a couple who kept 11 disabled kids in cages. that's just sad.
Scribbler-Mike said:This is a great thread to which I would like to contribute. I am confined to a wheelchair due to a spinal injury to my neck. I have been very happily married for over 40 years despite my limited sexual ability.
I can have full sex but my wife has to sit on top and be the dominant party. I can also give her sexual pleasure through oral sex, which she adores.
Having said all that I was always concerned for her complete sexual fullfilment so from the start of our marriage we talked openly about her fantasies and desires and my worries about my sexual ability.
This resulted in her revealling she would enjoy complete and full sex in a way which most couples do; I was so happy for her honesty and encouraged her to fullfill her desires in an open way rather than seek solace in secret affairs.
Since that initial frank discussion my beautiful wife has taken lovers whenever she felt the need to fullfill her sexual fullfillment; this was done with my knowledge, blessing and encouragement.
This has resulted in an open and honest relationship between us, which has lasted all these years.
Far from being jealous of her many lovers I found it sexually and emotionally exciting plus extremely satisfying. I felt I was giving her my love by allowing her sexual freedom rather than supressing it.
I wasn't excluded from her relationships, as I either witnessed them or my wife disclosed every intimate detail to me in an erotic manner which aroused and excited us both, adding to our own limited sexual pleasure.
Each of these extra maritial relationships has been written into my wifes journal in an erotic and sensual manner for me to read and enjoy at my leasure. I receive great solace and pleasure from this because I feel happy knowing my wife has had such varied sexual pleasures and for not supressing her sexual freedom.
I understand this is not for everyone but it has worked for us.
When we have got used to this site and can navigate it easier we hope to submit our erotic experiences for you all to read and maybe enjoy.
As we are new to this site we are still finding It difficult to find our way around and to post replies but with time we will get better.
Thanks for a great thread, which I hope we've contributed to in a positive and interesting way.
Please comment if you wish.
Scribbler-Mike said:This is a great thread to which I would like to contribute. I am confined to a wheelchair due to a spinal injury to my neck. I have been very happily married for over 40 years despite my limited sexual ability.
I can have full sex but my wife has to sit on top and be the dominant party. I can also give her sexual pleasure through oral sex, which she adores.
Having said all that I was always concerned for her complete sexual fullfilment so from the start of our marriage we talked openly about her fantasies and desires and my worries about my sexual ability.
This resulted in her revealling she would enjoy complete and full sex in a way which most couples do; I was so happy for her honesty and encouraged her to fullfill her desires in an open way rather than seek solace in secret affairs.
Since that initial frank discussion my beautiful wife has taken lovers whenever she felt the need to fullfill her sexual fullfillment; this was done with my knowledge, blessing and encouragement.
This has resulted in an open and honest relationship between us, which has lasted all these years.
Far from being jealous of her many lovers I found it sexually and emotionally exciting plus extremely satisfying. I felt I was giving her my love by allowing her sexual freedom rather than supressing it.
I wasn't excluded from her relationships, as I either witnessed them or my wife disclosed every intimate detail to me in an erotic manner which aroused and excited us both, adding to our own limited sexual pleasure.
Each of these extra maritial relationships has been written into my wifes journal in an erotic and sensual manner for me to read and enjoy at my leasure. I receive great solace and pleasure from this because I feel happy knowing my wife has had such varied sexual pleasures and for not supressing her sexual freedom.
I understand this is not for everyone but it has worked for us.
When we have got used to this site and can navigate it easier we hope to submit our erotic experiences for you all to read and maybe enjoy.
As we are new to this site we are still finding It difficult to find our way around and to post replies but with time we will get better.
Thanks for a great thread, which I hope we've contributed to in a positive and interesting way.
Please comment if you wish.