midwestyankee
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In recent weeks I've read - and have been told - more than once that we who are regulars in this particular forum tend to treat newcomers poorly. That we tend to make them feel unwelcome. I have, more than once, tried to defend our group against this claim. That it has come up more than a few times from more than a few sources has made me pause to wonder if I'm just blind to actions that others can see clearly.
I have questions then, that I hope we can all try to answer as plainly as possible. Even if - and preferably if - doing so means that we force ourselves to see our own actions in a stark light. Honestly, I don't remember what my experience was as a newbie here 8 years ago, so I hope that others who are much newer can help us put some light on the place.
What does it take to become an insider in the BDSM forum?
It's been said that we tend to shun newcomers - or at least some of them. What does this look like? What actions constitute shunning in this case?
What are the rules of behavior around here? What rules do we accept for ourselves and inflict on others? Maybe we shun those who don't follow our rules from the get-go, even though it's unreasonable to expect them to know the rules before the door has barely closed behind them. Is that it?
I have some thoughts on this, but I'd like to hear from a few others before I share them.
I have questions then, that I hope we can all try to answer as plainly as possible. Even if - and preferably if - doing so means that we force ourselves to see our own actions in a stark light. Honestly, I don't remember what my experience was as a newbie here 8 years ago, so I hope that others who are much newer can help us put some light on the place.
What does it take to become an insider in the BDSM forum?
It's been said that we tend to shun newcomers - or at least some of them. What does this look like? What actions constitute shunning in this case?
What are the rules of behavior around here? What rules do we accept for ourselves and inflict on others? Maybe we shun those who don't follow our rules from the get-go, even though it's unreasonable to expect them to know the rules before the door has barely closed behind them. Is that it?
I have some thoughts on this, but I'd like to hear from a few others before I share them.