Writing as the opposite sex

Desiremakesmeweak said:

This is what I why think too... Although I agree with Bramblethorn about his other points re overuse of some things, the bit about women not standing in the mirror admiring their breasts, hmn, well, okay not ADMIRING, but definitely looking at and definitely thinking about comparisons.

I guess the takeway from this to the OP ought to be along the lines of, 'don't have the female character appear to look at, and think about her own body the way a guy would ogle it!' And even then, I'm not sure they wouldn't SOMETIMES... They might sometimes.

But okay that now makes sense.

As far as my own generalization goes, I did mean about the technical aspects of sex acts, not the psychology behind various sexual or gender mindsets.

As far as the psychology goes, I stand by what I said, namely that in my own experience these things seem reliably the case. Could there be the odd few exceptions? Possibly.

Do I simply know what stands out as opposed to what IS out there and relatively hidden?

That is a gratuitous and slightly tendentious comment in the event the person making the comment doesn't know a whole lot about 'me...' Here's an example: a long-time girlfriend of mine goes to a club, just to hang out for a few hours and drink some French 75 cocktails. I'll be in there too but I'll be an hour later getting there. In the meantime she has been sitting in one place, and you can't even tell she's scanned the whole joint. She has had one, at most two drinks. When I turn up, after another thirty minutes she walks over to this woman who is in a group, and the two of them just plain walk out together and I go back home after about another hour knowing what I'll find there when I get back there. So I buy a couple of large pizzas on the way and make sure I've got some chocolate for me because I'll barely be getting a look at the pizzas.

Next morning I quietly ask when the new kid on the block is in the shower, trying not to show I'm too dumb, 'okay what the fuck happened - how did you pick up so quickly and how did you know she would and how come so quickly?'

And she just tosses off the answer 'aw you know; you're an expert at this.'

And I grunt. But inside I'm going 'no I'm fucking not too!!'

And THEN she says: 'and hands off - she's purely interested in women only.'

There's some cold pizza left, not much but a few pieces anyway.

I mull over this and it takes me years - has taken me YEARS to get it. Now I get it.

Are there any dumb lesbians out there? Could be. Just not any that are getting laid a lot though. So of those that ARE getting laid a lot, they far outclass men for knowing how to get it, and where to get it, and what all the subtle signs are by as far as you can throw a stone backed by a howling gale. Gay males are clumsy oafs pretty much just like hetero males mostly are too.

Which basically also means, at least it does for me, that the well-experienced in practice, lesbians, know more and are better in action than those that are only lesbians in their minds or in their desires, mostly unfulfilled.

And so the OP wants to know from THESE sorts, the experienced ones, what stuff goes on... (I mean 'ought to want to know,' of course).

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Black_and_White_Writer said:

I've known a few writers who write well in the other sex successfully in my humble opinion.

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jehoram said:

I think women have spent a lot more time analyzing men and getting inside their heads than vice versa.

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jehoram said:

I think that I'm generally successful at it, but I cheat. I have a female editor, and she calls me out on stuff that doesn't ring true for her. It has helped me a lot.

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I do the same for her writing, but she doesn't seem to need it as much. I think women have spent a lot more time analyzing men and getting inside their heads than vice versa.

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