My partner and I like to switch, we generally take it turns being the submissive one, probably because we are normally pretty laid back people and like trying the dominant side...but sometimes when I am being submissive I start to question if my partner might start to lose respect for me as a person and then I find in my normal day to day life to try and prove that Im not a push over I get overly bitchy or insecure and demanding..
I know that you are all going to say the opposite and in fact I have heard many times that submissive people are normally dominant in their day to day lives.(I am generally quite a confident person)...if so, how do you keep that seperation or become insecure about how you are being portrayed by your partner?
I guess that it doesnt help that I have come from quite a mentally abusive relationship in the past where my previous partner continually belittled me and put me down.
I often wonder if it would be best to wear some sort of mask when I am being submissive, would that make me feel better maybe, like I am a different person all together.
Sorry if this has come accross a bit weird, dont get me wrong, I love the whole BDSM thing and it really turns me on, but I just have odd feelings about it all sometimes.
I know that you are all going to say the opposite and in fact I have heard many times that submissive people are normally dominant in their day to day lives.(I am generally quite a confident person)...if so, how do you keep that seperation or become insecure about how you are being portrayed by your partner?
I guess that it doesnt help that I have come from quite a mentally abusive relationship in the past where my previous partner continually belittled me and put me down.
I often wonder if it would be best to wear some sort of mask when I am being submissive, would that make me feel better maybe, like I am a different person all together.
Sorry if this has come accross a bit weird, dont get me wrong, I love the whole BDSM thing and it really turns me on, but I just have odd feelings about it all sometimes.