LicketySwich
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- Jan 17, 2016
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- 7
My wife and I have just learned and came out to each other (not because of some movie but it was some time after a traumatic experience with infidelity, in an attempt to save our marriage) about how in to BDSM we are. We have always been kinky, enjoyed punishment and bondage on occasion and both have very high libidos. Its unfortunate we never gave this community much thought before. Maybe because me wearing leather didn't appeal to me. Maybe we thought it was all about torture, metal studded leather outfits and dark menacing dungeons. Well, my wife and I have come to the conclusion that we are totally okay with now identifying as a "BDSMers"(at least to ourselves, each other, and this forum for now). We are much more in to 'suits and dresses' type scenes when I am the dom. I am a switch with women, my wife is a switch with men. We talked about group sex and hiring professional and legal services for us to facilitate such desires, we feel extremely lucky to be an hour from SF, where I proposed, and 3 hours from Nevada. I came out with my desire to (sexlessly)dominate other (heterosexual or bisexual)men without or with my wife there, as my sub or co dom in a scene, with or without sex afterwords. A man and my wife begging me and calling me master, all tied up and submissive all the same time sounds really enthralling! I have never done anything like that at all and I didn't even know that I wanted to do that until recently. We are beginning to transform our exercise room in to a much more fun and exciting room with a mirror wall already installed. We are going to accessorize it with wall bars, hookers, as I like to call wall and ceiling hooks, for strapping to and swinging from etc. We are still trying to decide on a leather mat or another bed. One thing is for sure is I am probably going to spend too much money this year on some new lifestyle choices. Life seams a lot better with all of this excitement 
that is for sure. Any advice from more experienced married couples or anyone else really would be greatly appreciated. Being safe, sane and consensual is our primary boundary, I am not the type of man to put myself or especially my wife in dangerous situations, she is my goddess. Our secondary concern is privacy, it could really ruin the way our family thinks of us or restrict many, if not all of my future aspirations life if people found out I was in to these kind of activities. So far this whole experience has really been wonderful and brought us together in a way we never anticipated and if people find out, it will be worth it, so up yours cruel world! Thanks everyone, we really appreciate that we are not alone in our kinkiness! We have been feeling really judged by our peers about a recent infidelity that came to light so finding this community makes us feel much less alone and judged.
that is for sure. Any advice from more experienced married couples or anyone else really would be greatly appreciated. Being safe, sane and consensual is our primary boundary, I am not the type of man to put myself or especially my wife in dangerous situations, she is my goddess. Our secondary concern is privacy, it could really ruin the way our family thinks of us or restrict many, if not all of my future aspirations life if people found out I was in to these kind of activities. So far this whole experience has really been wonderful and brought us together in a way we never anticipated and if people find out, it will be worth it, so up yours cruel world! Thanks everyone, we really appreciate that we are not alone in our kinkiness! We have been feeling really judged by our peers about a recent infidelity that came to light so finding this community makes us feel much less alone and judged.
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